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A question about Korean fashion and style! But, more than just about the trends and style: how important is it to be stylish in Korea if you’re a foreigner? Will you not “fit in” if you’re not stylish? Is there more pressure put on foreigners, because they’re foreigners? If so, how has our style changed because of living in Korea?

Well, we kinda answer both questions, but disagree with the bridge between them. Yes, we have changed our style while living in Korea, and yes, it has changed because of Korea, but we didn’t change it because of a desire to fit in or to be more accepted. We’re foreigners, and we’ve come to accept that we’ll always be viewed as outsiders.

Now, don’t take that in a super-negative way. It’s not like we’re sneered at or excluded from anything. Korean people are always super nice to us, friendly, helpful, and generous. But we always get the “Oh! You’re a foreigner!” kind of deal, in which we’re always reminded that we’re outsiders, rather than a part of Korea, you know? Even our friends who have mastered the Korean language or married their Korean partner will still be viewed as “foreigners” by Korean people that don’t know them, and they will never really have to fit the rules of Korean society completely, even if they do follow all the rules out of respect. Of course it’s not like we try to avoid fitting in as a result. In fact it’s the opposite, but we’re still SEEN as outsiders who don’t “have to” do what Korean people do to fit in. Know what we’re trying to say?

Now the really difficult situation is when you LOOK Korean but weren’t raised in Korea, thus you are a foreigner, but Korean people don’t fully accept you as one. Our Canadian and American friends who are of Korean descent actually have a pretty hard time in Korea, especially if they don’t speak Korean because they are expected to act and speak a certain way, even though they have nothing to do with Korean society apart from their appearance. So, in our opinions, fitting into Korean society has nothing to do with how stylish you look, but how Korean you look. Anyhow, this topic could be further delved into, but for today’s topic, we’re going to focus back on the actual question being asked!

We did, however, still change our style in Korea, because we were inspired by how bloody stylish everyone seems to be here. Our change is less out of a desire for acceptance and more out of admiration. After seeing how amazing everyone looked all the time, we felt ourselves asking “why can’t we do that”?

Let me tell you a story of what really changed my (Martina) idea of fashion: when we go to the airport in Korea, we’re amazed at how Korean people look incredibly stylish even though they’re taking a 10 hour flight wherever. Back in the day, we always used to fly in our scrubbiest of clothing: PJs, jogging pants, flip-flops, etc, but after flying back and forth from Korea to Canada, I saw lots of incredibly dressed people that would get on the airplane with us in style, sleep like us, and then freshen up (change, put on some makeup) and pop off the plane in Toronto like they were coming off a fashion runway. Meanwhile, we got on the plane looking pre-exhausted and got off looking even more exhausted.

So after three years of flying in my PJs, I decided to try to look as stylish as the Korean people I saw at the airports. I wore a long black super comfy dress and wore a pair of comfy fold-up travel sparkle slippers. I packed a comfy hoodie, a brush, and some very simple makeup in my carry-on. I got on the plane feeling like a million bucks, snuggling happily in my oversized dress and hoodie, and before landing I popped into the washroom to run a brush through my hair and put on a little makeup. Despite the 14 hour flight to Toronto, I FELT AWESOME AND CONFIDENT! As soon as I saw my family they all exploded with compliments about how lovely I looked in my dress and how perky I looked!

I was just so shocked to see how different I felt just by how I was dressed. It was like my PJs were telling me to be mopey and sleepy and my dress was telling me to hold my head up high and strut off the plane! So after this simple test, I decided to try on more of the cute dresses I’ve always wanted to wear but thought I couldn’t pull off. I seriously feel bubbly and happy in a puffy dress; I feel like I’m out of an anime or something, and I know when I feel sad and mopey I tend to go towards jeans and a huge hoodie to sulk under. No cupcake earrings that day. So for me, my emotions can be affected by the clothing that I wear, and although it may not be that way for everything, I still recommend trying a test on yourself to see if different clothing, a change in your hairstyle, or an addition of makeup can affect your confidence or attitude for the day! Hokay. Martina’s big odd rant over! BTW, is this just me or does anyone else notice a link between their clothing and attitude?

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  1. I am half Korean and my Korean mother left me when I was very young so I was raised by my American father. I always wanted to go to Korea to see the other half of my culture but my father said that I would be considered a mud person. According to him I would be treated worse than most foreigners because I am only half Korean. My mother recently came back into the picture and she had got remarried to a traditional Korean family so I am being hidden from her in-laws but she does not speak enough English to tell me why this is and if this has something to do with her getting divorced or having children with a non korean. Can you help me figure this out?

  2. I never wear baggy clothing or pajamas when I go out. I don’t wear make up and I never have. I am a girl in my early twenties. I generally just wear t-shirts and skinny pants/jeans. Dressing a certain way doesn’t affect the way I feel. I also don’t give a crap about what other people think of me.

  3. Friendship Doghnut

    As you leave in Korea, have you already been to another country, like Japan ? China ? Have a nice day, tks.

  4. When you guys first moved to Korea was it tough learning the language and getting around?

  5. Sweet fucking life it is mother fucker out here

  6. How are your families dealing with you guise living in Korea now? I know they must be used to it to a degree but how do u stay in contact, how often do u talk? Martina and Simon, do u miss your siblings??

  7. It sounds kind of weird but using lime on armpits reduces smell and sweat ><

  8. Oyeshi Ushi

    Dear Simon and Martina,
    With the presidential election coming up, do majority of Koreans pay attention to American politics? If they do which candidate (or political parties) do you see them supporting? Have your political views changed by living in Korea?

  9. Hayden Smith

    how do koreans in korea feel about foriengers learning their culture/language?

  10. I am a natural dirty blonde, but I really love to dye my hair dark red. It changes my eye color to a bluish green and I love it. I always feel so much better about myself when I go back to being a red head after my hair has faded for a bit.

  11. How are people with darker skin viewed in Korea?

  12. Oyeshi Ushi

    Dear Simon and Martina,
    With the presidential election coming up, do majority of Koreans pay attention to American politics? If they do which candidate (or political parties) do you see them supporting? Have your political views changed by living in Korea?

  13. You guys got so much THINNER! Simon, wow! You look so fit. Good job!

  14. Sometimes I wish I could dye my hair pink… My mom is kind of against it (I’m Taiwanese-American) so I kind of understand the whole socially-unacceptable thing. That’s weird though, since Asians dye their hair red… and brown… all the time… even if it doesn’t look good!
    Aside from that, another huge reason why I’m hesitant to dye my hair is physical. For my black hair to go to pink, I’d have to bleach it, and take extra precautions to keeping my hair healthy/fabulous!

  15. Will an american college degree work in korea if you try to get a job ? (:

  16. Tif_any99

    Hey, I’ve got a question (I know you guys are leaving (T_T) but I’ll ask it :D) Hum, are the Koreans open-minded? Like, is there varieties of food, clothes, fashion or other?

  17. Okay my question.
    Have you noticed a difference between foreign tastes for K-POP and Korean tastes? For example, it seems like Korean people (at least the ones I know) don’t like Super Junior that much, but lots of foreigners do. Why do you think this is?

    PS. I just want to say that I really really love Martina’s Captain Marvel shirt. DC Comics. FTW. :D

  18. Alexandra Leyton

    Martina, I totally know what you mean about clothing and attitude! That’s why I love wearing pretty clothes too, they put me in a good mood! And even when I’m in a bad mood I try to put on nice clothes anyway because I may feel crappy, but at least I look good.

  19. Hi Simon and Martina! *waves enthusiastically* I was just wondering, how has cooking in Korea been like for you two? I remember you guys mentioning how vegetables and are super expensive, but what about other stuff? I’m a super avid baker, and was wondering if it would be affected if I moved to Korea? I heard butter isn’t cheap and the baker within me kind of died… and I may have cried. Do you still cook a lot of food you used to at home in Canada (woo, Canada!) or have you had to kind of Korea-nize everything?
    Merci! :D

  20. Hong Lam

    2:17 – D’aaaaaw. You two are so cute together, you’re practically Seoul-mates <3

  21. umm… martina,,,and,,,simon,,,,ahh,,,,,how can you earn your money….I mean,,, how…?????..specifically..!!//this is my guess..by advertisment??/….I’m sorry I can’t speak english very well….please…please.//reply to me….TT

  22. How does religion factor into Korean life? Many Kpop idols say they are Christian, creating bible study groups and such, but I’ve not seen much diversity in terms of religion. I know there exists different places of worship, but do people go to them regularly? And, as a Muslim, would I be welcomed there?

    And my name is hard to pronounce, call me Cookie!

  23. Friendship Doughnut

    Hi, I’ve a question about KoreanLife (to Martina&Simon, I hope they’ll see it T_T) : do you think that life in South Korea is less expensive than life in Canada ? (clothes, food, accomodation etc… ). I hope you’ll read this !!!

  24. at 0:46 Martina’s earrings disappear XD

  25. Rebecca

    Simon and Martina- you are such an inspiring example of what a married couple should be. Partners in life, love, adventure, and friendship. Always caring for the other above your own wants and needs. Beautiful.
    So my question is: Do you think that moving to Korea brought you closer as a couple? I know that when you were in Canada your were newly-weds and still in the initial googly-eyed faze so you might not have as much to compare to. And you also have said that you both are just very loving and cuddly people with a mature view on how to treat one another. But now living in a country where your spouse is one of the few fluent English speakers you can talk to in a day, and having fewer English speaking and North American friends, and now sharing this career together- do you think Korea has brought you closer together as a couple than possibly you would have been in Canada?

  26. Rebecca

    I re-watch a lot of your videos and Simon talked about Martina’s mom being in on the proposal and when you had the surprise trip to Canada, Martina’s parents seemed
    happy to see Simon and Simon’s parents for Martina. So my question is: Did Martina’s parents always really like Simon, Simon’s parents always like Martina, and that you guys were dating? Or did Martina’s parents initially like Martina’s old boyfriend better? And do Simon and Martina’s parents like each other and hang out even though y’all are in Korea? I don’t mean to be nosy, I just love the videos that have your parents in them and your life in Canada stories. :)

    ALSO! Martina said on a Open The Happy video that you were going to show us your gigantic hair band collection. Could we please see it at some point? Thanks. :)

  27. hellohellohi

    I’m living in Bucheon right now going to CUK and I was shocked to see my roomates spend so much time in getting all pretty just for class.Never did that in the U.S One month later, i’m doing the same thing. But its my own style. I tried to look all cutesy but it just wont work for me haha. It just kind of sticks and it makes me feel good haha. They all look so fancy and cute.

  28. i totally understand what r u sayin here~!! while i was in seoul n was goin around myongdong shops, i felt like i was in heaven *O* sooo many cute and girly clothes that i’ve never seen before in my country. bought a couple of things (actually i wanted to buy like EVERYTHING that was in the shop, but had to think abt money… XD) and seriously when i wore those clothes when i was back home, i felt like goin up several levels in look *O* the feeling that gives korean dress is unbelievable *O* i felt really girly n pretty then.
    so next time i’ll visit seoul – i’m gonna spend most of my moneyz on clothes for sho~!! XD

  29. kawaii_candie
    kawaii_candie

    I’d be curious to know how fashionable your other foreign friends are… i think it’s similar as japan, but here, we get LOTs of nerdy people coming here cuz they’re way into manga or j-music or green-tea/samurai culture… and those people are (usually) not only not-fashionable, but strongly going in the other direction if you know what i mean…. so there are a lot of really badly dressed foreigners here. but there are also a lot of people who make an effort to be trendy and fashionable, but we’re sometimes looked at as being a bit “strange” by tourists, or whenever we go home… Japanese people though, either don’t notice, or appreciate that we look nice.

    I know that, as a white woman in japan, i get a lot more male attention because i dress up, than other foreign girls i know who are always sporting t-shirts and jeans, with no make-up and undone hair… and the same goes for guys too (although a bit less) i used to know a guy who really really wanted a “gyaru” (really done up girly girls) girlfriend but couldn’t even get one to talk to him and we always told him “of course, why would a girl who puts so much efforts into her looks, go for someone like you, who puts none?” but anyways…

    but yeah it’s interesting cuz, since (i don’t think…) korea doesn’t have the whole “weeaboo culture” going on, maybe people who go there are just normal or more varied than the people who tend to come here?

    also, i’m curious about the kinds of reactions you get about your style when you go home. i’m from Montreal and whenever i go home i get soooo much more attention now then i ever did when i was just living there! lol. it’s funny. but i do think that japan changed me for the better in that way. and you too Martina!! you’re so purty and have awesome style! yay!! (and you too Simon… :p)

  30. TLDR: Since you four have moved, what are the things you miss and the things you really love about your new digs? What are the major differences between the two areas?

  31. What kind of people were you guys prior to coming to Korea? Please show us pictures and videos and funny stories of your past life! (The one we don’t know about, since your lives now are so exposed to us already)

  32. It’s not just you Martina; I’ve noticed it too! I just started graduate school to get my master’s in ESL, and because of that I’ve decided I need to start dressing more professionally. Before now I wore a lot of jeans, T-shirts, and had a slightly punky look with lots of dark colors. But now, I’m wearing nicer, more stylish shirts in lighter colors, better fitting jeans, just a little bit of makeup, and I’m fixing my hair more. I totally noticed a difference! When I do dress down, I feel really “blah” and I don’t really care. But on the days I dress up I feel a lot more confident! I hold my head up higher, and I feel a lot better about myself, because I actually put time into my appearance rather than “okay let’s grab whatever I I can find.”

  33. suzu4381

    Cool topic I wondered about that after I watched my first Kdrama personal/taste/preference the lead girl Park Gae was always described as a slob by other characters even though she wore casual funky street gear most of the time with hoodie and jeans that had a very cool diesel brand type of look. I didn’t think she looked that bad! But then I watched other Korean dramas and realised that by Korean standards she was indeed a slob! Lee Minh Ho meanwhile looked ridiculously hot in the sharpest suits out-like gucci or prada. I think I would be considered a massive slob if I went over there!

  34. I think it’s definitely not you, when I go out just for Uni I tend to just be a jumper + jeans kind of girl, but when I go out with my friends – out come the dresses! The hairdos! The make up! :)

  35. Kittykat

    I have a question. I wanna go to Korea but a friend of mine told me it was better I didn’t cause I’m over weight. Is it true I’m gonna have a hard time there? Can my being obese hinder the experience?

  36. HI Simon and Martina, i just saw your tldr video on the fashion standards for foreigners and i was just wondering about the standards native- Korean people have on “other” foreigners such as Chinese, Vietnamese or even Koreans than are not natively born in Korea instead of the “typical” foreigner such as Caucasians. Are these people treated the same as the “typical” foreigner or differently in comparision. Thankyou

  37. I have two Engrish shirts I got from Japan. One is very long and convoluted, but the second is short, sweet, and something I completely agree with. “Happiness is warm puppy.” Yes it is Engrish shirt, yes it is.

  38. the link between clothing and attitude is incredible. i am doing a year abroad in japan now, and though i have only been here for a month, i can totally feel,that something in me wants to change. i don not want to wear those boyish t-shirts and jeans any longer, i want to look pretty in dresses and super short skirts that i would never wear in germany.i want to tie my hair up with a ribbon and use cute handbags… that is a change i would have never thought of in my whole life. because i did not hate my style whatsoever in germany, but here… as you said, you see all those pretty kawaii girls and you start to feel that you want to look like them as well, and slowly you start to change your style and start to pay attention to things that would have never bothered you before, like if the handbag is matching the rest of the outfit and if the hairdo is perfect @__@ and the thing is i have no idea how this is going to end, or if i will keep it up one i am back, because many cute things that look super nice in japan actually look weird in germany (or the rest of the world). do you dress up like you do in korea when you are in canada? or are there some things you consider a no go, as it would be like too flashy for your home country?

    thanks for making that post! it was really inspiring and made me realize that a transformation might not be the worst experience you can make…

  39. i walk into a plane in my tracks and jams…. but i gotta try the airport fashion runway style next time.. thanks martina, let’s see how perky i feel with some sense of fashion for those long flights!

  40. Yes, totally! I know when I am determined to have a great, fantastic wonderful day, I always dress like a million bucks. It enhances my mood, and when you feel like you look fabulous, you always feel better about yourself and the people around you. I love that I’m not the only one, Martina!

  41. thisisjustforfunval
    thisisjustforfunval

    I learned along time ago that what we wear can affect our confidence and mood. I’ve gone through many styles in my life time and know I will go through many more in my life. In fact until a few months ago I never would have imagined how much I would enjoy wearing dress pants and office dress casual clothes. They actually make me feel wonderful and full of confidence, although I’m pretty sure leaving a horrible job for a much more wonderful one played a role. However there are days I don’t dress up as much and I just feel bleh in comparison to the days I spend more time on my hair and make up. I hold my head up higher than when I use to wear just jeans and well whatever shirt looked decent that morning. I still wear jeans, I just switch out my dress slacks for a pair of jeans to go out at night and brighten up my make up. I also believe in adding color to my outfits. You should see the torgouse shoes I just bought, but my favorite thing is to use is color pencils to pull my hair into a twisty bun. One day I will master the art of fixing long hair, for now a twist but is as fancy as I get, otherwise I just straighten it. :)

  42. crimsonangel

    This might be a bit off topic, but this little guy in the picture reminds me of a chibi version of Simon ( who i think has got good style) haha

  43. Korean variety shows are very popular there…. is there a Korean
    variety show that you guys watch….. and which Korean variety show is
    the most popular there

  44. Hannah Hendrix

    Can you do a video of some of your stylish Korean things that you’ve acquired since living in Korea? (they don’t all have to be from Korea, but Korean style :D) I’m trying to get ideas cause I’m excavating my closet and only keeping cute things lol

  45. Shouldn’t it be “Styrish?”

  46. Yes Korean girls overdress (from a Australian perspective) to go to University but when in Hongdae they dress down! This was the first time I had culture shock in Korea, girls were wearing joggers and demin short and daggy t shirt when clubbing. I still refuse to dress down into joggers but sometimes I wear jeans, nice shoes and a nice top (as I did in Australia) instead of the full dress and heels.

  47. SIMON!!! I have a tip for your armpits!
    If they smell, then you can take some lemons and put the lemon juice in a spray bottle and pray it all over your armpits. It removes the smell completely.
    People who work with for example fish use it to remove the smell.
    A special deodorant should be available at the pharmacy( in canada maybe) to regulate your armpit sweat. My father HAD the same problem and now it´s all good ^_^

  48. KATHyphenTUN
    KATHyphenTUN

    I definitely feel a difference in my attitude by the way i dress (you are not alone martina!) and i think there are many girls that feel the same way. Fashion can be both a confidence booster or… it can also have the opposite effect. I think its just important to fall in love with the clothes you put on and the positive attitude will follow that feeling! ^.^

  49. I live in Korea and I’m astonished and impressed by the cosmetic surgery and healthcare. Have you been sick or had any cosmetic improvements while in Korea and how did the process go?

  50. I would like to know your guy’s thoughts on the merging of the Western and Korean music industries. Do you think a Kpop band could ever ‘make it’ in the Western market like they all seem to be trying to do? And on the other side of things, do you think a non Asian person will ever be accepted into the Kpop world via a Kpop company? And if one were to debut, how do you think they’d be received by the public?

  51. vip <3 blackjacks

    i would like to see a picture or martina back in the day with her more goth look

  52. I’m not in Korea now, but would love to visit or even live there some day. That said, I have started dressing like I would in Korea. That means I’m wearing shorter skirts and wearing dresses and heels, always wearing makeup, etc. I’m 37 and have never felt prettier, even when I was much younger.

  53. For me, i don’t dress to impress and i love being comfortable. I usually go to school wearing a t-shirt, jeans and sneakers and seeing the stylish people around school, I’ve always felt somewhat inferior. I’m also really scared of change but seeing you guys, make me want to change myself to feel better and look better. ^^

  54. So how is it for foreigners that are Asian? I’ve been to Japan before, and everyone there just assumed I was Japanese. Is it bad that I was put into their standards of thinking?

  55. Back in 2005 Korea was going through the short skirts and the boots with the fur phase. I would never wear something like that in America, but in Korea, it seems to be okay.
    I think this is due to a culture difference, in a way that I feel nervous around my American peers, like they are judging me to find something wrong with me…
    In Korea, they wear all kinds of crazy outfits, so its okay for me to give it a try.

  56. 0:29-0:47 nr nr nr nr nr nr nr….CONTINUITY! :P …gotta love those earrings!

  57. Omg I totally agree! If in a bad mood I’ll wear a super fancy dress since it makes me hahappier

  58. Dear Simon and Martina, this has really inspired me. I go to school in a t-shirt, jeans, beat up sneakers and a ponytail. I watch all these pretty girls come to school with styled hair, dresses and painted nails and I want to try looking like that, but I never thought I could pull it off. I’m scared to even wear purple pants. But seeing that that’s how Martina used to be and how my friend and I always go on about how beautiful and stylish Martini-Martina is… I want to try. Next year, my mother will allow me to wear makeup. Until then, I will try to dress better and style my hair. Thank you so much.

    Just a teenage girl with new hope,
    Lien

  59. Clothing definitely affects my mood. If I wear something pretty, I feel confident and better throughout the day. I actually started wearing makeup and dressing better because of korean dramas. I saw how pretty all the actresses looked just by wearing nice clothes and a little bit of eyeliner so I decided to take care of my appearance more and I’m really glad I did ^^

  60. I need to go to Korea… I like guys who dress nicer :P and I have a mixture of all the bows and frilly look while I also try to wear weird accessories and look all emo gothy XD

  61. OMG Martina, story of my life! I always feel like my clothing has an effect on me, my mood, how I hold myself and so on. Especially since I never used to dress good at all, like not even American standard, but then my sister decided to teach me some fashion (mostly because she’s a fashion major) and I’m a lot happier with how I dress!

  62. What holidays do they have in Korea? Do they celebrate some of the same ones as North America?

  63. AudreyKoopman

    I’m a person who dresses for comfort more than anything. But, when really thinking about it, my clothing style differs depending on where I’m going and who with. Like, if I’m going to class I dress decently nice. I study graphic design and go to the art college at my university and pretty much all of my classmates get very dressed up. At first I didn’t really care because I was in school for full days and wanted to be comfortable, but then I started feeling like the oddball. So if I meet with college friends I’m a little more done up (I’m still not a makeup person unless like at a wedding or something…)
    But, if I’m with my high school friends. Jeans and a t-shirt. I’m just more comfortable with them I guess and really don’t feel a need to impress (part of it could be that we went to private schools and had uniforms, plus it was an all girl school..no impressing was needed). As for my co-op job, I started off dressing nice, but the place is super casual and I felt weird for dressing for work…so back to the jeans and t-shirts haha.

    The only emotional link I can think of with my clothes is if I’m sick I wear sweatpants and hoodies.
    As for airplanes, nothing will ever convince me to wear anything but sweatpants and flip flops. As I said, I dress for comfort and if I’m gonna be in the same spot for hours I better be comfortable at least.

  64. Jessica Bélanger-Mainville

    Oh my God !!! You’re from Canada????? I’m living there :) That’s cool to know :)

  65. martina, i totally agree. how you dress can affect your entire mood! especially on days i feel are going to suck, i try to look my best as a confidence booster. if you’ve ever suffered from issues about image like i have, seeing yourself looking good in a mirror can really brighten your whole day, and also make nice people more likely to approach you and mean people less likely to pick on you (because you seem so confident and happy)^^
    the first thing i’d recommend to people who constantly feel self-conscious would to be dress in a way that makes you look good and feel comfy :) it has helped me so much,and everyone should know this feeling!^^

  66. I LOVE this post. So many people misjudge style as a vapid, shallow thing that is only for people with too much money or time on their hands. In reality, being well put together is one of the best way to show you that you respect yourself. Can TOTALLY relate to the look better ==> feel better aspect of things. I think I would really enjoy living in a place where everyone pays attention to caring about themselves.

    • i agree! style is exactly what you said, a way to show you respect yourself. asia and europe seem like they’d be awesome places to live because they all dress so nicely^^

    • AudreyKoopman

      But sometimes it can also have a negative affect. I have a friend whose family isn’t well off. Her and her sister do dress up with hair, nails, and makeup always done. It does give them more confidence, but the issue is that they try so hard to impress with their looks they spend money on that instead of important things. There are so many times she has declined going out with us or not been able to get lunch because her money goes to her wardrobe.

      Not disagreeing with your statements, just saying that it isn’t always the best way to show you respect and care for yourself.

  67. Mistlight♥~

    i have a Korean boyfriend who is from South Korea and in December in meeting his parents. I’m trying my best to learn Korean but i want to know what i should learn along with what is expected of me to do since he has a hard time telling me himself >.<

    • AnMei Lee

      I have a Hong Kong boyfriend, so I feel like maybe I can give you some useful advice, though maybe it won’t all apply necessarily to you…

      First thing is, his parents will probably shower you with lots of attention and little presents and things, not let you pay for things etc. The most important thing, I found was to make sure I EXPLICITLY showed my thanks for everything. Like literally “thank you so much, I really appreciate this, so wonderful” whatever. I got some really sweet gifts, like cute clothes or snacks, but sometimes they didnt understand that yes, I really did like them XDD I’m quite a shy, british person, so I’m used to things being quite sort of… unspoken but understood. But with asian in-laws, its maybe better to bet on being a lot more explicit about it, especially since there will be a language barrier too. Try to treat them to things as much as possible, even if its just like food… like “we were out and I thought you might like these cakes/drinks/whatever.” Just the fact that you’re thinking of them and spending money on them is appreciated. and always fight to pay the bill. Tell your boyfriend to let you know when to give in, because I found this suuuch a headache XDDD

      They will probably appreciate you learning korean, and try to use it as much as possible. They will like that you are working so hard to learn it for their son :)

      Family seems very important all over asia, so try your best to treat them as your own parents, in a respectful way. In china this is called 孝顺, there is no doubt a korean version of this, so I would ask your boyfriend about that!!

      Also, in case they are quite conservative, dont kiss your boyfriend (and maybe dont hold hands) in front of them, unless you think its acceptable, just in case ;D

      Best of luck to you!

  68. martina do you watch we got married and what are you thoughts about it

  69. so, is the Korean society completely fine with stuff like pink hair and so on if you’re an foreigner? Like, would that be any trouble in work or finding a work?

    • HRRM. I wouldn’t say that they would be completely fine. In some sense, Korea is still very old fashion when is comes to getting a job where you will be in the public eye. So as a teacher, I would never dye my hair pink or flaunt my tattoos (but I did eventually dye under my hair red, but only because my school and I had a good relationship and they knew me for three years.) If you’re looking to get a job in Korea, people WILL judge you on your looks, so tone it done at first, and then as your employer gets to know you, you can judge whether they will accept more of your creativity! But then again, depends on the job….coffee shop barista? PINK HAIR A-HO! ^^

  70. Clothing + attitude = definite correlation.
    I think changes in personal style happen to everyone; you go through your phases and you grow and mature with your look; not to mention, your preferences change. Maybe one day you just don’t feel like wearing jeans or those tatty flip-flops – all of a sudden, boom! Combat boots and short-shorts! (No? Just me? <3)

    I think America is a society where people are pretty free to go about dressed as they please, but there are still expectations and judgments thrown around depending on how you look, so I definitely believe that dressing a certain way makes you feel a certain way – after all, that's what costumes are for, aren't they? XD

    I love the influence of color and patterns and graphics that Korea's got going on, and I'm really happy that, as a result, you two have made strides in exploring your own personal style (I am still really loving Simon's custom-made Adidas shoes. Those were really freakin' stylish). Not to mention – I think every time you guys release a video, at least 5 of us are on here complimenting your fashion! From Simon's epic graphic tees to Martina's beautiful hair and make-up, to the adorable accessories you wear… It's just all lovely to see.

    Thank you for this informative TL;DR, it really brightened my day. (Especially Spudgy's SWAG.) :)

  71. Before anything! Yay Spudgy appear on the video!
    Okay, back to video, um, this is the most sexiest topic I have ever heard from EYK it had Junsu, Sexy Engrish and Martina’s trying to take Simon’s shirt!
    Keep it up you guys!

  72. This is how I’ve come to feel about dressing fashionably too! Even though I don’t live in Korea I am watching K-pop music videos and performances all the time and doing online shopping on Korean sites. I used to dress in jeans and t-shirts all the time because I didn’t really know what else there was for men to wear. Since discovering K-pop for myself (and commuting into San Francisco for work) I learned that there are tons of options for men! Even though many of the idols’ styles are pretty flashy or extreme its still fun to play “If I were and Idol what would I wear?” Then I can translate those extreme trends into an everyday look for myself. So many men in Korea/K-Pop and so many men in San Francisco successfully dress themselves everyday! Just like you guys are saying, WHY CAN’T I?!

    On a side note: I love to watch Simon while Martina is talking because his head moves along with her voice. So cute!

  73. See now I’m even more worried. Like I want to live in South Korea at some point, or even just visit, but I feel like I’m not good enough. I feel like I need to lose a lot of weight, learn how to wear make-up, buy pretty clothes, and act more feminine to just stand on Korean soil. I look at your old videos when you just arrived, and you’re prettier then me just without make-up and being yourself. You know here in America I can be fat and walk around and people don’t say anything (at least to me) and I can wear my sweat pants, but in Korea I feel like everyone is going to tell me I look horrible. Or just look down on me as a person. I don’t know, but the more I hear about how much everyone dresses up just as a normal day I feel like I can’t ever even visit the country. It just depresses me.

    • You shouldn’t be saddened by this video! I think if anything it should encourage you to embrace who you are as a person and dress the way you feel. Part of the reason Koreans look so confident and upbeat is because they feel that way; I dunno about you, but I never put on something that I don’t want to or don’t feel like wearing. Cheer up!

      I think Martina said it best – “If they can do it, why can’t I?”
      It doesn’t mean you have to change who you are or how you look. It just means you can explore other options and discover something about yourself through fashion that perhaps you didn’t even know! You have that choice. :)

    • Noooo! I already answered to the similar question as yours on top..but I couldn’t just pass yours, either. I am a Korean living in the States. At the end of the day, it’s all about sticking to who you are and what you are comfortable with and be proud of it wherever you are/live (either U.S. or Korea or anywhere for that matter) not to mention real friends do not care about how fashionable you are(aside from that they may compliment you) sounds cliche? but true I think.
      You will be just fine in Korea=)

    • I know how you feel, Kristen! I’m half-Korean, and was raised in Sacramento, but there is a big Korean community here, so I was raised by Korean people, grew up attending Korean churches, and in & out of different Korean language schools…

      And I’ve always been overweight…

      And nobody has ever been cruel to me! They always say nice things and go out of their way to compliment me. My mom’s friends always say I’m pretty, and no matter what they will always find something nice to say about me. Like, they think my earrings are cute, or my eyes are pretty, or my hair is nice, or something like that. From what I’ve experienced, Korean people don’t go out of their way to harm your feelings… they try their hardest to try and boost them, and to boost you as a person.

      It’s usually the older ladies (like my mom’s friends) that will say something about my weight, and then it’s only as a way of encouragement… they will do it gently and in a gentle, sweet manner, because they see my potential to be healthier and want me to strive to take better care of myself. It’s never in a mean way. :)

      Even when my cousin moved here 8 years ago to attend school here in the US, I was afraid she wouldn’t like me because I’m fat, but things turned out just fine! She was nice, and now that we communicate better, she’s always encouraging me, and is never cruel. Her Korean friends are also nice, as are new Korean people that I meet in my life, a lot of them are new to the US, too.

      No matter what, I think there are more nice & encouraging people in Korea than cruel and harmful people. If they make any sort of comments about your looks, health, etc… it’s because they want to help, not harm. :) No matter what, just take care of yourself! Don’t get depressed~ just love yourself first, and put your health & well-being first. That’s what matters. And then, really think about the comments people make, and use it for inspiration and enlightening, instead of fuel for sadness.

      Sorry my comment was so long. ~.~ This stuff is just near & dear to my heart… I am still heavily involved in the Korean community where I live, and have Korean friends & family… and I’m still fat! I’m trying to lose weight & take care of my health, though… and yeah, partially because of the same fears you have, but mostly because I want to be healthy & inspired.

      And Kristen, just from your comment alone, I can tell you have a sweet spirit. There’s nobody in this world who could see/feel such a sweet spirit and call you horrible. :P

    • Hey, don’t let your worries stop you from fullfilling your dream! Looking good is not about being perfect. There are a lot of things I don’t like about my looks but sometimes only wearing a dress and high heels is enough to change my attitude. Sure, it doesn’t make my boobs bigger or my waist and booty slimmer but I’m like “screw it, I can be a lady too!”.

  74. i feel like that but when i pain my nails cuz i don’t really dress up and when painting my nails I allow myself to go wild

  75. P.S: on YT my ‘thumb up’ (and ‘thumb down’) button doesn’t work…. and I was wondering if we could switch the inquiry here :-/

  76. When I was in Korea on this summer, I saw people so stylish. Also, I saw university student purple and blue hair. I think this is because they are university students, right? I it is bad even you know korean well but you are viewed as foreigner.

  77. “Our change is less out of a desire for acceptance and more out of admiration ” (◕‿◕✿)
    ” I FELT AWESOME AND CONFIDENT!” ヽ(´ー`)ノ :D

    “..is this just me or does anyone else notice a link between their clothing and attitude?” Yeah, I see it too :). I do think clothing reflects your state of being and influences it. :)

  78. diannetopf

    it might not be his stink that burns through clothing…it could be the deodorant/
    anti-perspirant that Simon uses.

  79. Did you guys experience culture shock at any time in Korea – not just cultural differences, but the feeling you didn’t want to be in Korea anymore and go home? If so, how did you overcome it? If not, do you know people who have and who overcame it?

  80. Hannah Joy

    I have a mild phobia of “change”/trying new things/breaking out of my box, but you guys inspire me to try new things all the time. I’ve now tried Korean food, which I was scared to do before, and I liked it. And now I want to try wearing different clothes and seeing how it makes me feel. Instead of thinking of it negatively, like how I usually do with the phobia, I am going to try to think about it positively. Thank you guys :)

    • WAHOO!! Awesome to hear! I’ve discovered new things that I love that I thought would never look good or me things that I wear just for “arts sake”, as in, it may not be sexy or flattering, but it’s a funky piece of clothing that I just admire. I never would have done that a couple years ago! Hannah and Martina FIGHTING~

  81. aistrawberry

    I definitely notice a difference when I wear something nice and cute versus a t-shirt with jeans or even sweatpants. I feel the confidence radiating off of me and when I walk around my school campus, I play a song like Twinkle (TTS!) and try to strut a little ><. It's very motivating when I pretty myself up, otherwise I feel all mopey too :(. By the way, I'm Asian American (not Korean) but sometimes people say I look Korean (at least here…) so I always wondered what Korean people would think if they saw a foreigner that maybe didn't look completely "like a foreigner." Is it based on attitude and appearance, or what? Like say you pull off mannerism that may be stereotypically Asian (reticent behavior), will that make a difference in them viewing you as a foreigner? By the way, I just made this Disqus account so I never really commented before but I love your videos!! Thank you for making my day, guise!! :)

  82. So that’s why there are tons of “airport fashion” articles whenever a star is traveling somewhere!

  83. GDaeLuv

    A lot of people say negative things about the fact that Koreans tend to care about their outer appearance a LOT and i never new how to respond to it. But one day I heard a Korean American Dermatologist talk about a book she wrote and she put it this way. Koreans are very big on outer health and inner health. Inner health with the food they eat to different herbs they use and they also feel the same way about their outer health. If you are healthy inside and out and take care of yourself inside and out it will help you all around. And also she did say that Koreans want the inner beauty and confidence to show on the outside so thats why they take care of their outer appearance NOT because they are shallow.. so this is how I explain it to other foreigners now and to be honsest. I have become more conscience (in a healthy way) about my outer appearance ever since I started studying Korean and going there. And I really appreciate it.

    • I agree with this. Koreans tend to know what to do and eat to keep themselves healthy inside and out. Inner and outer beauty are hardly ever separated with them, and I think it’s logical. There are, however, plenty of people, not limited to Koreans, who don’t want/know how to balance between inner and outer health, so you get shallow and/or unhealthy results.

  84. Isabel Ruby
    Isabel Ruby

    ahhhhh look at that pudgy Spudgy…. he’s so cute~ X3

  85. Hey guys, What do you think about the global success that PSY and his Gangnam Style is having? Because I’m from Spain, and here he’s number 1 in all the music charts!

  86. TorontoNative

    I heard that people in East Asian countries really revere blondes and light-headed and -eyed people. Martina, if you had darker hair, lets say, and darker eyes, but still kept the rest of you the same, do you think that people would have reacted the same way? I’m Medditerranean-y in the way I look (dark brown hair, dark brown eyes, slightly tan but not so much), so I was just wondering if I would get such a confidence boost just for being me in a foreign country.

    • You can’t know for sure….they uploaded a video about the oppinion Koreans have about darker-skinned ppl and the thing is that you stand out…you might get a starred at or not.(depending on the person)…I think the confidence boost depends more on yourself.. youtube(.)com/watch?v=Q7zW9KjSzOQ

    • We have friends in Korea with dark skin, light skin, olive skin, black hair, curly hair, freckles, red hair, braids…and they have had nothing but POSITIVE comments towards their looks, but it also depends on how you feel towards peoples reactions to you. For example, one of our friends with very dark skin sometimes had children curiously reach out and touch her skin (and smile) or my friend with really curly red hair; everyone loves her hair but they think it is a fake perm and dye job! Many people ask me if I’m wearing blue contact lenses!

  87. I have a question. I see that Simon has a tatto and in some of the music videos you see artists with temp ones. For example, Big Bang. You never see anyone with real tattoos. So my question would be how do Koreans feel about tattoos?

  88. Btw, big thumbs up for the Missy Elliot reference! I hope someone else other than me picked up on it

  89. Sounds a bit narrow-minded, Korean society. I mean, someone changes their haircolor to red and they are shunned? wow :(

  90. Yeah I definitely plan on stocking up on cutesy (is that even a word? lol) dresses before going to Korea :) Martina, when you were a teacher, what was the norm for the dress code? I’d love to wear nice dresses to work there everyday but I wasn’t sure if suits/slacks were more the style as a teacher/professor. What is considered decent/indecent in that setting?

  91. When we were packing/shopping for clothes for Korea, I made sure that my sister and my friend (who have less style than I do – and that’s not really saying much xD) got outfits that looked cool and/or different from their everyday wear. My other friend had us help her do the same for her trip to Korea. We’re just under the impression that we needed to dress better – ‘cept for me ’cause I tend to “dress up” most times I’m out in public anyway. But I still refuse to wear makeup. :P

    I definitely felt for a lot of the Korean women we saw. Since we were staying in a business section, we saw a lot of people going to and leaving work. Lots of high heels and slow walking women. Once we saw a woman who was wearing normal pumps, and she was slowly walking up stairs only on the front of her feet, letting the heels dangle. Obviously her feet were killing her, but I guess appearance was more important? ^^;;

  92. Totally agree about the compliment thing. Koreans give so many compliments. In Korea I often get “You look like a doll!” which I wasn’t even sure was a compliment at first haha.
    I have noticed a difference between Koreans in Korea and Koreans on working holiday visas in Australia. They can really really dress down while in Australia and be mostly hoodies and not making any effort. Sometimes it’s a shock for me to see someone again because when they were in Australia they didn’t care, but once back in Korea they are fashionably and immaculately dressed.

    • I guess that’s all about fitting into society thing; when in Rome, do as Romans do. As a place like Australia tends to have more laid-back, relaxed culture which I think fantastic it seems only reasonable to adopt its fashion, lifestyle when Koreans go over there.

      • Yeah probably in a lot of cases it’s like that. I would say that Koreans coming to Sydney are probably adopting the style of other Koreans here. The Korean community is very insular, even for those only here for a short time. Most live with Koreans, only eat Korean food, only speak Korean, go to Korean church etc. Whereas other people, in particular inner city Sydney, can be quite fashionably dressed, Koreans living there usually aren’t. Some of my Korean friends said they get into the “working holiday mode” which may actually be a relief to some after living in Korea and always caring about their appearance. They just completely relax and not care about clothes. So sometimes or maybe originally was adopted from a more laid back Australian style, but they’ve made it their own laid back style.

    • I agree with the comment about Koreans dressing down in Aus, and anytime one of my Korean friends see me in a cute skirt or top, or put effort into doing my hair they always compliment me on it and it makes me want to dress myself up more.

  93. QUESTION FOR TLDR: I hear certain music groups/artists have fan clubs there. What are those fan clubs like in Korea? Are they super devoted? Go to all the concerts? Have gatherings etc?

  94. Oriane Yia

    I’m also been affect a lot by what I’m wearing. That’s why I’m always trying too like good even the week end at home, alone and depressed ^^. It really affect my mood. During my exam, i always try to dress well because that’s make me optimistic. The more i’m depressed the more I look like I want to do a fashion show. Thank you by the way for the new video

  95. I have kept one style whenever I dressed up,I wear a shirt and pair of shorts and some flats or sneakers,my skin is often in a very horrid condition,it is either I have a pimple or something and I really don’t like make-up LOL

  96. Ahh.. I remember martina introducing her bb creams. That’s when she doesn’t wear make up yet. And that’s how i found s&m. Through bb cream. ( i don’t know but want to use make up). Now I’m a yg stan… Ahh life. Full of surprises. >_<

    • Because of Martina and the bb cream video I errr… Went to the face shop in Korea town in NYC and bought a bb cream even though I am black…. Just because I wanted a bb cream. It sorta works but I have to cover it with my powder. The bb creams I saw being sold in the us by western brands seemed different too.

      • I think at that time there wasn’t western brands going into the bb cream thingy. Was it a year after? It then comes in tons of shades.

        • Natz

          Still not in shades for black people. Most of the big makeup lines in general have very limited shades for people with dark skin. It is like they expect all of us to fit into the one or two tones of ‘ brown’ and ‘chocolate’. The only real exception to the big lines and the lack of dark tones is MAC. Otherwise you have to go with specialty brands which deal with makeup for people of colour. But that’s really only for foundation, concealers and powders which have to match undertones too.

        • soluiz

          Usually bb creams have light coverage though. Makeup artist who have no idea how to make up dark skin sounds very stupid. Like. how exactly do they get qualified.

        • Natz

          The same way hairdressers get qualified to do hair but have no idea how to do natural black hair. Black people are a minority in the US and therefore are a ‘specialty’ market. If you want to do their hair or makeup that would be something ‘ extra’. Of course, the same skills apply when it comes to makeup application. the problem usually is the lack of range of products and maybe ability to match tone. Of course it has improved over the years. But I have talked to even black workers at certain makeup counters in department stores and they advise you look elsewhere.

          The reason Iman ( the supermodel married to David Bowie) created her own makeup line was because when she was a model she always had to mix and do her own makeup. Now it’s one of the best known specialty brands. Of course it is completely different where I live where non blacks are the minority. And in Korea it would be even more different where there are hardly any people living there with dark skin.

        • soluiz

          This makes me wonder. I’m from Malaysia. With 3 main races. Malay, Indian and Chinese. Most Indians have very curly hair too and love treat it to straight or wavy. I guess make up here won’t have the problem when the majority are dark skinned. But ebony dark is rare.

  97. Yes, my Korean American friend was in Korea for most of the year and said that everyone was dressed impeccably! He said, however, the downside of that was that there was an aspect of misogyny in that some guys would court their girls and be perfect & sweet, but once they got them and the girl did not dress up for once they had no problem basically saying, “Oh, you look like sh*t today.”

    • what, is that really true? is it basically, in Korea the people who are close to you have no problem telling you that you look bad that day, sort of thing?

      • Oooh, sorry I know this is super late–but yes and no. I know that it’s normal, affectionate even, to tell someone they’re having an off day in Korea. But he said in his experience (based on what his female friends told him) it was more like, “I really don’t want to be seen in public with you until you go and fix yourself. We are not going on this date until you look better.”

        • wow, since i’ve recently been immersing myself in korean stuffs, that logic kinda makes sense, it really shows the value that’s put on outward appearance. but there are still people who go out in their pj’s at night to go to a convenient store right? or something like that.

  98. I wish i could be Spudgy’s fangirl… Spudgy Oppar <3

  99. What other professions, besides teaching English, do foreigners have in Korea? How difficult is it as a foreigner to get a job other than teaching English?

    • i was just going to ask that!

    • I’m also curious about this. :) I want to live & work in Korea, but I’m not 100% sure if I want to teach English. I think I would like to give it a try, but have no teaching experience, and I’m not sure if I will be giving my students the best education they can get out of a foreign English teacher. I’ll be graduating within the next 8 months with a degree in digital filmmaking, and my strengths are in writing and directing… but not sure if there’s a job market in Korea for an entry level foreigners in this field. Anyway, I guess I’ll just have to check it out myself & see! My senior thesis will be a short film influenced by Korean myth & culture (about the Kumiho tale), so I’m hoping this will help me out in someway, too. ^^

      • Yes I have a couple of foreigner friends who are working at international Companies like Samsung. And they are working like they would back in their home country and they do not require to know Korean for the job. (though knowing Korean may be helpful) You can try to apply to International Korean companies and if you’re lucky, you may get transferred to work in Korea! =)

      • So awesome, a fellow film-type person thinking of pursuing their career in Korea! For me I am planning on teaching in Korea at least first- I really enjoy being around children and I’ve always admired my tough-but-cool teachers, and I think it’d be awesome if I could be a teacher like that. But hey- Korean film doesn’t have that much that’s been explored in North America. Try volunteering at an Asian or Korean Film Festival, get some connections to the Korean film world and you never know, you just might end up creating your own career!!

        • this is so awesome! i’m a film major and i plan to move to korea after i get my degree, so i’m super pumped to see other people wanting to do the same! i hope maybe my korean will be strong enough that i can get some entry level job on a korean set and make some connections that way.

    • Sandeul Baro

      Yess i would love to know that! Simon & Martina do you guys ever see any foreigners working in places like coffee shops, cafe’s ect…. ???

    • JaydeLinn

      This is the question of my life right now!! SIMON AND MARTINA PLEASE ANSWER THIS ONE!!!!!!

    • yes please answer it so I can get an idea of what I need to study I really want to go live there it would be my dream come true.

    • I believe most foreigners that aren’t teaching English or in the US army are relocated by the company they work for in their home country. Here is a comic strip to illustrates this best: http://roketship.tumblr.com/image/273880871

    • Me too, I’m really curious because I would like to live in Korea but I don’t really want to be a teacher. I would like to be in the medicine so I was wondering if I could succeed in the medicine or other job?

    • In Ulsan (South-East coast, 1.2 million so a large city but not the biggest) you’re either a teacher, an engineer, or a prostitute. I’ve never seen any foreigner working in Korea at a job they haven’t been brought in for specifically. Maybe it’s different in Seoul, but I have doubts.

    • Getting hired as anything but a teacher is really difficult, even WITH the ability to speak Korean. most of the foreigners working as something other than an english teacher ar either military or they have specialized skills and recruited directly.

      Trust me, I’ve tried. I hate teaching, but it’s my only option because my husband is Korean. We can’t live off his income alone so I have to work. I’ve been searching for 2 years for a non-teaching job, and neither my resident visa nor my spoken Korean has helped at all. Maybe people living in seoul would have more luck, though, so I can’t speak for that area.

    • foladisqus

      i would say your korean skills (reading,writing,speaking) HAS to be on point if you try anything other than teaching and maybe somewhere in the technology field, but i guess anything is possible! good luck! (look at simon and martina) :)))

  100. PunkyPrincess92
    PunkyPrincess92

    ooohhh fashion!!!! awesome topic!!!!
    i’m anti-makeup!! i don’t have anything against it!! it’s just that i feel uncomfortable with it and very self concious when i did have to put some on!!
    i love Korean fashion!! actually i’ve loved it since a i was really young, i just didn’t realise it! basically i used to play an online dressup game and i thought it was Japanese, then a few years back i remembered the game again and just thought i’d check it out again for no reason and i noticed the writing in the corner and it was KOREAN!!!!!
    it’s a dressup game called RoiWorld! but it got taken over by an american company now or something i think cos the site now is so lame!! but you can still find the old games on a different site!!! (i don’t even know why i’m writing this info! haha)
    and i’ve always been a fan of Japanese Harajuku fashion….but i wouldn’t go around walking like that, cos it’d be weird around here, and i wouldn’t want attention on me!!

    my outfit depends on my mood and also the weather!! if it’s a nice sunny day i’ll probably be all colourful, and if it’s rainy then i’ll wear dark colours and more comfortable clothes!!
    my attitude doesn’t change with what outfit i’m wearing!! i’m always quiet and shy whether i go for a bright look or a more rock look, or vintage style, or casual, or whatever else!!! (obviously i’m hyper with my friends though!! haha!!)

    anyway after getting into Kpop it hasn’t actually influenced my style cos… i’ve already liked stuff like that!! hahaha!!! which is why i love the fashion in Kpop cos it’s already my style!! (not everything though)

    • I kno what ur talking abt! My korean friend was playing it in computer class and we all started to play the game. Very addicting right? Your right, the fashion there was amazing.

      • PunkyPrincess92
        PunkyPrincess92

        oh i used to play on dressup games all the time!!!! so addictive!!! like i was saying i went back to check it out a few years ago, and i couldn’t stop playing it!! hahaha!!
        i could even remember what outfits i used to dress up the characters, and i was interested in seeing how my style might have changed….but i still have the same fashion sense!! hehe!! i put the same outfits on them again just like a used to!!!
        i know! totally! the outfits are so pretty!! i used to wish i had come of the clothes from there!

    • I play fashion games too… still… at my age… -__- Lol~

  101. “I’m too big… for this country…” LOL aww Simon lmao

  102. the thing is that “i’m too big for this country”

  103. Niccolo

    I have a question. Lets say if a non korean asian lets say from philippines decides to move to korea will they be viewed as a foriegner?

    • Yes. I’m not personally Korean but I feel like I can say that yes, this is true. I’ve seen many programs and TV shows in Korea (recent ones) where they call Japanese people and other asians who were not Korean foreigners. I think it would be the same thing if one Westerner went to another Western country. They would also be viewed as a foreigner.

  104. If I don’t get up and do my makeup and get going in the morning I will spend the entire day in yoga pants watching kdramas munching on junk snack food and not get a single thing accomplished all day! Then the next day I just feel like crap

  105. Christina Spaulding

    after i got into kpop and korea in general, i started changing up my style too! less hoodies, more cute layer tops. and i took a major interest in skincare. when my skin looks good i feel really good, and when my skin’s not so good i pop some bb cream over everything and do something cute with my makeup! when you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, you look even better :D

  106. It’s okay, Martina. Junsu is just a sexual being. Why I remember back in the TVXQ days when he went for a swim at night with the boys in Bora Bora. And he spied on neighbors through the… glass…floors. Yeah, sexual being.

  107. fuuko4869

    Ditto on being treated as a foreigner no matter what you do. I’m a mess of ethnicities and nationalities, plus I’ve never lived in one country for more than 2 years, so I’ve been treated as an outsider all my life no matter what I do, what I wear, or how fluent my language skills are. If I’m lucky, they might ask me what city I’m from (as opposed to what continent).

    I’d love to comment about being fashionable/stylish in a foreign country, but me and ‘fashion’ are never in the same sentence.
    However, I AM fairly knowledgeable on how to dress so that half the people on the street don’t stare at you in disgust. My motto for lyfe: Low key is the key.

    • if you don’t mind my asking: how come you never lived in one country for more than 2 years? It’s my dream to be able to move regularly and travel the world so I’m really interested: is it your job or something else? and if it’s a job which one?

      • fuuko4869

        Uhh…it’s just been that way since I was born, with my parents’ jobs – they were linguists, freelance translators/interpreters, community health/development workers, university professors, and Bible translation consultants (if that means anything to you) – and all at the same time, usually. Being a multicultural family, (we all have at least 2 passports) our friends and relatives are spread all over the place so we go visit a different country every year. And we lived in countries with strict visa laws that kicked out all the foreigners every 5 years, which means we’d have to find a new home until we could get back in again….etc etc.
        And since I grew up like that, I’ve had itchy feet ever since – I’m just physically incapable of settling down – especially cos I don’t ‘belong’ anywhere. So I just go out of my way to do placements in different countries/hospitals every year, or do volunteer work in disaster-hit countries for a few months, that kind of stuff :S

        But in relation to your dream, if you want to travel the world, some common moving jobs are if you join the army, work with some international airline, become a businessman/woman, join an international NGO, or something like that. I have a friend who is a well-paid computer programmer who travels while working (since all he needs is his laptop and an internet connection). The main drawback there is that he stays in a hostel everywhere which isn’t very comfortable, and can be quite expensive.

        But, umm. Travelling constantly without any roots can be very stressful, difficult, and expensive. There’s a LOT of paperwork involved, if you stay for more than 3 months at a time. It’s better if you have a partner or friend to go with you. If you just like travelling, I’d suggest get a well-paying job in your home country, and then go visit a different country every year with the money you earn. Or something.

  108. Do many Koreans like kpop? Or is it mainly just young teen girls?

    • As far as I know, it is mostly young teenagers. Just as in the U.S. the main audience for Pops is young people; fans to Justin bieber, Katy Perry, Nicki Minaj etc.

    • khat311

      12-25 is the average, but when people start going to college/university many Koreans start loosing there interest in kpop and get more into the indie, underground scene that’s why, underground hiphop is so big in Korea

  109. I wear dress up and only wear makeup to go into an exam or when I’m doing something out of my comfort zone. My sisters call it my shield and ‘war paint’. lol

    • HA! I did the opposite! Scrubby clothing, no makeup, disheveled hair from staying up too late. Maybe I should have used war paint…

      • Pathryn34

        I don’t have to dress up for my job, but I do anyway. It makes me feel more confident to know I look professional. Also, people look at you differently, at least in the US. I know we aren’t supposed to judge people by how they look, but subconsciously we do.

        Isn’t the reason Neil Patrick Harris’ character reason for wearing suits all the time something similar?

    • I totally do this too! Go to bed early, have an awesome breakfast, spend an hour on my looks, really dressing up. It always boosts my confidence. And dunno if Martina will ever see this, but you really have encouraged me to dress up and care about my looks- not because society tells me too (I’m currently trying to gain weight= muscle)- but because it gives me confidence and I get to show people the best sides of me! People compliment me, notice me, smile at me and I feel that it’s because I am showing off the best me through my style choices. So thank you!!!

  110. “No, I’m just saying Junsu is very embracing of his RUN FOR IT”

    LOL!

  111. I lived in Korea for a year and Korea really change my fashion senses… I’m Asian descent (I have a Japanese Descent to be exact) but I grew up in Guam and I’m working for the Us Airforce so I consider myself as a foreigner in Korea (I am a Foreigner). Like the first moths I was in Korea I was just wear my casual clothes but being a Asian in Korea make you worried alot cause you can see all Korean girls are really looks good so I try change my fashion, why the help of my Korean friends cause I like their fashion too.. And now I wear make up like Koreans, wear clothes like Koreans and alot of Korean always thought I’m Korean (which is I’m not)… Even my American Friends told me that I can really blend in… Asian looking girl in Korea like me is really hard cause Korean will see you as Korean not as Foreigner they will just know your foreigner when you talk in English.. But sometimes I can’t pull off some Korean fashion..Like one time me and my Korean friend bought the same dress, me and my friend has the same size but I’m taller than here, But the dress looks good on her and I don’t… Lesson learn I’m not gonna buy the same clothes as my friend.. hahaha

  112. I totally agree with you guys . . . there’s definitely a link between clothing and attitude as well as attitude with clothing, which comes first? I have no idea, it may change from person to person,
    The truth is you need to get inspired and the be brave!I think you (Martina) are a great example of the fact that sometimes it is US who prevent OURSELVES to try something new or even make an effort, because we think we’ll look silly doing so.Anyway you are amazing guys, I’m looking forward to seeing you and high5(ing) you both at the TTMIK event in Mexico City (I’m mexican and difinitely going with a couple of friends!!). Take care and have a safe flight!

  113. I am going to study abroad next summer at Yonsei and this was a super big concern of mine! It made my day to see that you guys uploaded this video. I consider myself fashionable, but not the perfect hair and cute dresses everyday type of fashionable that seems to be the case in Seoul. I feel better now knowing that it won’t be the end of the world if I have an off day.

    • Relaxxxx!!! :)I am Korean living in the States. I know it sounds cliche. but I think it is always the best to stick to who you are and your style wherever you go. And who knows they(Koreans) might adapt your sense of style. plus real friends don’t care much about what you wear anyway :-))
      Have fun at Yonsei!

  114. Mary Howard

    Martina, I definatly agree with you about clothing affecting the way you feel. I used to hide under baggy sweatshirts every day at school, but now I make an effort to dress in cute tops and sweaters (it is October in New England after all), do my hair, and sometimes (depending on how lazy I am that morning) put on make up. I always feel better about myself when I’m dressed well.

    • I was a super duper tom boy growing up! Baggy jeans and t-shirts everyday, and as for my school uniform in high school; I never ever touched the kilt, just baggy wide leg grey pants and a baggy white men’s button up shirt, and I never ever wore makeup. By the end of high school and into university I was into goth style clothing and fashion, and four years later I slowly started to change. My best friend Jackie ALWAYS tried to get me into colour of ANY sorts. Now she squeals with delight when she sees my bright wardrobe and puffy dresses! I’m sure none of my friends saw this coming. Hahaha!

  115. Simon – I really, truly feel your pain (though I imagine it might be even worse for you……) I moved to Korea sometime ago to attend university and I sort of knew it from before that with my height of 178cm, I can’t really find very many clothes here… But now, looking at all these Korean girls all dressed up everyday for classes, I’m really getting upset that I hardly ever find clothes that fit me or if they’re big enough they’re usually somehow weirdly cut so they don’t end up fitting well…… :”(

    So, 힘내라, you’re not really alone….. ^.^

    • I think I may know some Korean online shopping websites catered to more various ranges of height. I will ask my cousin living in Korea who is about your height and wears all these super feminine things =)

  116. Panda_Lulu

    I have one question.

    What is Korean think of Chubby people? I have lived in an asian country before ( Vietnam ) and Chubby people always get teased/ yelled/ put down at by their own family .

    So could you please look more into that matter? :D thank you

  117. Actually, it’s kind’a funny, but here in greece teenagers ALL DRESS THE SAME. It’s kind’a awful actually in my POV. And it’s also funny since I dress, well, the way I want to, so around 95% of the students in my high school think I’m really fashionable when I’m just a bit different. They all wear like, one-color tshirts or sleeveless tops on summer and jean shorts, and in the winter it changes to long-sleeved-tops-with-letters-sometimes and jeans, and then comes spring and they are like “tada! ripped jeans!”
    even on P.E ppl always wear similar clothing.
    I wish greek teens became more fashionable……

  118. Catherine

    hello! i’ve got a question, but it’s not very easy to ask. here goes!
    the country i would most want to visit is South Korea, because of the music, the culture, the food, the exceptional public transportation, and so on. the country i would least want to visit is North Korea, probably for obvious reasons. so my question is: how do South Koreans feel about people who have the same culture, the same history until so recently, living so near and so horribly. if the other half of MY country was living in poverty and misery, i think it would bother me every day.
    any thoughts from Simon & Martina?

    • But North Korea has a plan to conquer south Korea.. That’s why there are alot of US military base in South Korea to protect it… I think thats how South Korean thinks about it..

      • Catherine

        i don’t mean how do the countries feel about each other politically, i’m more wondering about how a normal south korean person feels about a normal north korean person. does that make sense?

        • Katrin Ertl

          hello! i lived in south korea too, and i got the impression that people feel really sad about the separation. people still have families on the other side. they don’t have anything against each other personally, they consider themselves as one. for example if you buy a map it would always show korea as a whole, just divided by a tini-tiny line you don’t even notice at the beginning. but of course people know that a union is not possible right now (economic gap) and that it probably won’t happen in their lifetime. but from what i experienced it’s really not as hateful as suggested in the media!

          i really liked today’s video! :D i feel exactly the same!! i never wore dresses at home (Austria) just jeans and T-Shirts and i my style got cuter and more feminine in Korea! i really liked that! now i am back in Europe for almost a year and i’m wearing Jeans again (because here it’s more appropriate in my job). But i really really miss the freedom of style (among uncountable other things) and the variety of cute clothing and stuff in stores!!! Here in Europe everything is just boring. Polka dots is the maximum of cuteness you can get… But one thing that didn’t change for me was make-up: never really used it, never will (probably) ;)

          love your videos, even though you guys make me homesick for korea so freaking bad!!

    • That’s a good question. I can’t even imagine what it would really be like for my country to be divided like that. From what I’ve observed there are different opinions. It’s mostly the older generation who want reunification and as time goes by the younger generations feel more and more separate from North Korea and mostly feel anger about it. They don’t really see the North as Koreans like them… and it’s a fair point that the culture has been divided for 60 years. My own personal experience seeing my husband react only in anger when North Korea does something or tries to attack. I’m curious what students in South Korea think about North Korea, perhaps Simon and Martina can share what they know from their teaching days about what students think now.

      • Catherine

        the divide in the opinions of the generations makes sense. but although 60 years is a lifetime, it seems so small compared to korea’s 5000+ year history. for instance, is the custom of using two hands to be polite still common in north korea as well as south? maybe so!

        anyway, i’m glad some people are curious about this as well. i’ve been researching north korea a lot lately, but some people act like this is a morbid thing to be interested in. like if i collected nazi memorabilia or something. (not that that’s so bad either!) so thanks, eyk!

        • Nic

          I’m always really curious about it. I’ve been to the DMZ zone and looked into North Korea- you can’t see much and also done a tour down into a tunnel that North Korea dug into South Korea- they’ve done this many times and scarily South Korea think they are more they don’t know about. The tunnels are just big enough to march and army through.
          I have friends who have friends who are North Korean. They escaped and got back to South Korea and then came to Australia. But they really don’t tell anyone. There is a stigma about it but South Koreans can sometimes spot if someone is North Korean because of their accent and the way they speak Korean. North Koreans who escape have difficulty adjusting to South Korean society. They often can’t hold down jobs, have difficulty making friends. They are constantly suspicious of everyone and everything- the affects of living in a communist society.

        • if you watch a video it’s called tiger spirit it’s a really good documentary on North Korea. Actually when I was in the screening for it i got to meet some North Korean people. I talked to some of them for a bit also. I really don’t blame the South for hating them and I don’t blame the North for hating the South. But it is a lot of miss commutation. I am not Korean but i know what it’s like to have to hide who you are or your history (family) for me. The Kim family that runs the North when you look at it have brainwashed many people. So when you find a North Korean person trying to adjust to the South it’s understandable. If you walked into any city in North Korea today it would be like walking into the 1940s / 1950′s. The economy is so bad. The Kim’s have bankrupted the whole country pretty much and put everything one into poverty. So when North Koreans defect they don’t realize that when they get to Seoul for example it’s a culture shock. They share the same history but they don’t share the same culture anymore. You walk down the street and see bright signs, happier people and you see money. (not real money) but what money as gotten everyone. It makes me think about a story my Chinese friend told me about his family. His Grandmother and Grandfather used to be very rich. But when i think it was Mao but i can’t remember but when the Chinese government came into power at the time that all changed. The government at the time wanted everything so they sent parties out and raided houses and almost all the rich people became poor. Thats kind of what the Kim’s did to make everyone equal they made everyone poor because they wanted all the money for themselves. So I think most of the time North Korean’s are scared because they only know one thing. Most only know poverty. The ones I have talked to said they where scared that the things around them would change and that this happiness that they see around them would turn into what it’s like up North. As for the South Korean’s you can compare there fear to the fear most American’s or Canadian’s have to Terriost and the middle east. Thought we have a lot of different people lots of us still will think if you have a turbin you can’t trust them. You don’t know what people are going to do. And the main fear in most people is the fear of the unknown. You don’t know what certain people are going to do; and if your used to seeing them a certain way then your opinion isn’t going to change. At least most people opinions don’t change that easy. “I don’t know if you watched the new drama to the beautiful you but when Eun Gyeol finds out Jae Hee is a girls it didn’t matter that she was a girl he fault betrayed among other things but still.” <— and example. i don't know if it makes scene. But if North Korean's say there from the North there looked down on even if there not like all the other people the media protraies but then if people in the North hide who they are and live in the South and the Southern people find out then they feel they can't trust them at all. Also a lot of North people will think the south korean people are at stuck up because they have money and such nice stuff. There is no happy medium and i don't think there will ever be a happy medium with the North Korean's and South Koreans. There are so many things that both countries i feel need to work on before they can think about joining and become one. That's that stuff i have head.

        • Nic

          I’ve read a lot of the revolutions in China and Chairman Mao and you are right about the similarities. I agree that there is unlikely to be a happy medium. I’ve read that South Korea won’t even have the wealth to absorb North Korea if it collapses until at least 2020. If the North Korean regime was to collapse now, it would be really really bad for the South and will be terrible for their economy. China doesn’t want North Korea to collapse either because they don’t want refugees flooding into their country. There is no easy answer unfortunately.

        • Catherine

          wow, that’s really interesting! not stuff that would have occurred to me. the sort of thing that documentaries and articles don’t tell you, exactly. thank you! and i wish your north korean friend (and everyone, everywhere actually) the best of luck! ^-.-^

          (@nic please don’t hate me but, um… *effects)

        • Nic

          thanks, edited haha.

    • JenniferSakraida

      I know that many politicians are trying to reach a settlement, and there will probably always be a desire to unify Korea again. But I know most politicians want to wait till the economic scenes are both equal- which we all know probably won’t ever happen if North Korea keeps going the way it is.

      I wonder how Korea views Japan now with some of the younger people? I know there is a lot of tension between Japan and Korea and China because of ahem…. some attacks. And some other land disputes. I even know one of my friends from Hong Kong warned me about his Japanese roommate- making sure I wasn’t racist… which I almost wanted to respond “American’s don’t care. They only bombed Pearl Harbor in our eyes” I only wonder because I remember there being a scandal with Baby VOX awhile ago about the Dokdo Islands, and which country it belongs to.

      • Catherine

        interesting points, all! so i think what we’re saying is we’d like to hear Simon and Martina talk about some political-y stuff, yes? i usually LOATHE political talk (it doesn’t help that i live in america), but i think they could make any topic interesting!

    • I think that the general consensus is that North Koreans are viewed as part of the same family (which is actually literally true for many many families suffering from forced estrangement). However, the view on North Korea the nation is either they are a rogue country, South Korea’s greatest danger and enemy or they should be treated as South Korea’s partner and neighbor. It’s actually a really divisive issue.

    • AnMei Lee

      I would find it interesting… I currently have 3 north korean classmates in China and find my perceptions being continually changed… All are friendly, one speaks english and has helped classmates who don’t understand my teacher’s questions… as people they are clearly quite nice, but I just have no idea what is true and not about North Korea. Such an enigma… I would like to visit one day… Curiously, even more so than I would like to visit South Korea! I would like to form some of my own opinions, rather than just choose between what the western or North Korean media will tell me.. I believe neither is really accurate..

  119. Wearing a cute outfit can definitely make you feel awesome. I notice when I just wear jeans and a t-shirt I kind of go around not wanting to really be seen, but when I wear something cute, I want everyone to see me. Lol

  120. i spent my last vacation in seoul. and after seeing all the superstylish people i also felt the urge to dress up, put on fancy make-up and accesoires :) korean fashion sense really inspired me and i’m carrying on to live and dress that way even now back home. so i kinda understand martina and her flight exprerince, for i looked like crap on my flight to korea and fancy on my flight back home :)

  121. MrPokeyLope

    Being an Asian in a Western country, I actually do worry that there are expectations of me when I’m in an Asian country (especially since no one can seem to guess which ethnicity I am…)I don’t fit any of the usual “Asian” stereotypes (although I do wear glasses and my driving is questionable at times). So while I want to feel reassured, I can’t, because I think the assumption that I’m a “foreigner” would be kinda different.
    Nonetheless, I’ve been to a few Asian places and haven’t run into much trouble, just can’t shake that feeling off.

    Also, I like to wear ironic t-shirts and jeans so my sense of style is kinda…

    • aistrawberry

      I’m the same way about the t-shits. I’m Asian-American and I love those ironic-Engrish t-shirts! :) (I’m also a girl).

      • MrPokeyLope

        There was this nice shirt I saw that happened to say “bitch” (from Asian online shop), sadly I don’t think that’d go down well at an Australian University…

        • Sikkie

          being Australian I assure you swear words are very much acceptable in any form…at least in Queensland they are. It’s pretty much a part of everyday language. Buy the shirt and give no f***s

        • MrPokeyLope

          Haha, I get that, but I live in Canberra. Everyone’s uptight :P Nah, but uni…Now appropriate ><

  122. Neleya Jo Liu

    Actually for me is kinda similar. Even though I live in a country were people are dying to follow foreign and up to the last fashion trend, I wear whatever I like or feel good in. Sometimes I wake up too tired so I just wear some plain jeans an a t-shirt, hardly take some time on makeup or hair. And when I walk out I feel tired and even lack some confidence. But there are some other days when I just wake up and say “hey I want to take some time on dressing up” so I dress a little more stylish (in my own sense of fashion XD) and when walking out just feel like an Idol and full of confidence. So I guess clothes you wear do affect a little our moods. And to say the truth I may fit in korean style, or japanese style, or something similar, but certainly not in my country’s style. ^^

  123. I would definitely say YES YOU SHOULD BE DRESSED UP to feel awesome and confident… + fit in Korean society. It’s funny because lots of my friends in school like my clothing and my answer is?? guess what, they already know my answer. “I GOT THIS FROM KOREA :D” And next everyone says “oh god you get everything from Korea!!”…. Foreigners, enjoy variety of fashion when you live there… Good to try new styles.
    BTW I am very impressed with your makeup Martina. Simon your secret message was well received in the previous video. LOL We might visit Korea around Christmas time~ saving my $$ to shop. – C&S

  124. I’ve started changing my style because of Korea too, I love their fashions! I used to wear sweatpants to my classes 5 days a week, but now we’re almost 2 months into school and I haven’t wore jeans ONCE, which is a huge deal for me xD I’ve also started wearing mascara (I never wear make-up), and I’ve definitely noticed I’m a much more happy and confident person :)

  125. fuuko4869

    Our Canadian and American friends who are of Korean decent…….

    Decent. I’m so sorry. I couldn’t help it >_<

  126. Panda_Lulu

    TT^TT.

    Korea doesn’t have my size for both clothes and shoes but but but their clothes are so cute !!!!!!!!!!!! I wanna buy it so much !!!!!.

    I must lose weight to become more healthier !!!!!!!!!!!!! ….. “A promise that I never fulfill ” ==”

  127. Martina you looked super pretty here + I love your earrings which kind of disappeared! anyway this was really interesting^^ Thank youuu :)

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