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So, let’s start with a warning. This is going to be a very long post. It’s usually just one person writing a blog post at once, but this time, we have all four of us adding our thoughts, all in different sections. Health and Wellbeing are topics that we’re really interested in lately, so we’re really pouring ourselves into this post here today. Hopefully you don’t find it too boring.

Without further ado, here we go!

Martina’s Thoughts:

Martina Shocked

Music can start off your day with positive vibes or feed into a negative emotion. I made several music playlists that include only my favourite positive songs. Whether it be lyrically positive like “Happy” by Pharell or an upbeat song that makes me boogie like “Fantastic Baby” by Big Bang, I try to focus on music that won’t channel any negative vibes. Rock and heavy metal are my go-to music for when I feel upset or angry, and although I use lots of rock music to get upbeat and feel happy, some of my favourite bands have a negative association with certain times in my life. If I listen to that album when I’m having a bad day, I remember those negative feels and it can easily pull me down into a negativity spiral. Oh that sounded so hippy, like….yeah, right? But it’s true: once you’re put into a sour mood, it’s very easy to feed into it and grow it, yet it’s not easy to remind ourselves of all the good things in our lives.

I visualize being negative like having an angry pet bird on your shoulder. It grows very quickly and easily when you feed it. It just sits on your shoulder and whispers angry negative things in your ear until you’re having the worst day of your life. Woke up late and missed the bus? You angry bird is there to whisper in your ear and to remind you that this day is already going to suck. You catch the next bus, but get bumped on the bus by someone, and that bird is there to remind you how much humanity sucks, and to fortify your early anger of missing the bus. That angry little bird will continue to poison your mind; he’ll point out people judging you, remind you that you’re not good at things, direct blame at other people for things you could change yourself. Whatever it is, that bird is there to remind you of all that’s wrong with the world and your life.

So how can we put a muzzle on this grumpy little bird? I find that, once I realize that the day isn’t in itself bad, but that I’m just hearing the squawking, then popping on my pre-made playlist of positive music can really help quiet the bird’s noise. Good positive music is the start for me, even if the music annoys me at the time because I’m not currently in the mood to hear something positive.

The hard part is acknowledging that you’re in a bad mood. Yes, that sounds weird, but you really need to say to yourself, “holy crap! I think I’m being a massive grumpy bear.” When I realize I’m actually in a bad mood, I look back on some of the stuff that’s stressing me out and decide whether or not it’s actually justified anger. For example, being angry and enraged because you’re waiting in a slow line at the grocery store…that is not justified anger. You’re angry because you want to move faster but being angry isn’t going to change anything. It’s not anyone’s fault that they, too, want to purchase groceries. Even if the cashier is slow, it’s still not their fault you’re angry. Your anger is your own issue. You’re just making yourself upset without being able to change anything. And if you can’t change anything, then it’s not worth your energy. So, I take all the things that I’m feeling angry about and I divide them into three categories:

The Three Types of Anger

1. The Angry Bird (i.e.: a slow moving line up, people wearing clothing you don’t approve, getting a bad parking spot)

Things in The Angry Bird category are actually very personal things. You may not find waiting in line to be annoying, but for some people it can send them into a rage. I think of this category as just me taking out my bad mood on other people and on the environment around me. It’s not seriously justifiable anger, it’s just grumpy angry mutterings from that sour bird on my shoulder, reminding me how annoying my day is. I’m just looking for things to be angry about, and feeding into my already sour mood. By putting a muzzle on your personal Angry Bird, you can work on bettering yourself and lowering your stress level. Your need to acknowledging these short fuses and acknowledge that they are not the only reason you are upset. There is an underlying bigger reason, and by listening to your angry bird you are only feeling worse.

2. Annoyances (i.e.: a spilt drink on your crotch, loud talkers in the library, people talking in a movie theatre)

Outside of the things that you personally perceive as annoying, there are also poopy annoying things in life that are not your fault. Sometimes you can change it and sometimes you cannot. For example, you can report the loud talkers in the library and get them kicked out (hahah not that I’ve done that…yes I have). You could also move locations. You can also personally ask them to turn down their talking volume as well. You have options sometimes. Yet not everything is preventable or changeable. A person spilling something on you accidentally is not preventable. Yes, it is annoying, but you have to remind yourself that it wasn’t done maliciously. It sucks, but don’t let it be “just another reason this day is the worst.” I’ve come to the conclusion that many people are just unaware of the world around them so when they blast their music loudly or stop walking at the bottom of a flight of stairs to check their phone it’s NOT because they’re mean spirited jerks, it’s because they just aren’t being considerate of the world around them. I file these annoyances under “unaware humans” and try my hardest to either make a change, or to just move on. Oh and if you’re the person sitting in front of me in a movie theatre gabbing on your phone, you better believe I’m leaning in and telling you to hang up. I’m not paying money to let you ruin my movie.

3. Core Stress (i.e.: work related stress, money related stress, school related stress, health related stress, family related stress)

Core stress is the real reason you’re upset. And it can wreck major chaos on both your mind and body. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be upset because someone spilt a drink on you, or you can’t be upset because you waited 20 minutes to get a latte. I’m saying that in order to manage a reasonable level of stress that doesn’t lead to despair and a nervous breakdowns, you need to learn to let those other things go. You need to acknowledge what your core stress is so that you don’t go spiralling into despair when something else happens. Like waking up with a pimple. Or missing the bus. Or having a bad customer at your work. That turns into “SCREW THIS DAY, I HATE THE WORLD I’M GOING BACK TO BED!” *Disney princess worthy fling onto the bed and sobs* Yes, I have done that. I have done that recently. Truthfully, I have struggled with anxiety and depression for a long time. It’s only recently that I’ve been able to acknowledge that listening to the Angry Bird and using annoyances to add to my “worst day ever list” is not actually helping me feel any better. It’s just not productive to my health. It keeps me from sleeping, it makes me irritable, and it makes me sad. What we need to do is discover the real core of our stress, and focus on just dealing with that. For me, I’m personally dealing with health related stresses at the moment, while before I was dealing with work and school stresses.

I personally think that stress comes from a feeling of uneasiness that comes with not knowing the future. Will I pass this exam? Will I get that job? How will I pay off my loan? When will I meet someone? When will I stop feeling pain? When we’re stressed out about something it feels like our entire life is purely made up of stress. We view the world through the eyes of stress BUT, and this is a big but, you’re only experiencing a tiny piece of your life. You’re taking that tiny piece and wearing it like poop tinted glasses in which to view the world in its full poopy nature. But you know what? Middle school, high school, university, job hunting, careers…that’s not the whole of life. Those are just more little pieces from your life. Those are just locations, actions, and transactions we go through. Life is happening around and outside those things! I realized this in my 5th year of University while applying to get into Teacher’s College.

I put all my energy into filling out the massive amount of applications forms. It was important, yes, but I was so stressed out regarding if I would get into school or not I had nervous breakdowns on the way to work. I’d burst into tears over a canceled plan with friends. I’d be unable to get out of bed. I was stressed out all day and everyday…but it didn’t actually change anything. Did it make me work harder at a specific task? No. Was it just ruining my entire day? Yes. Once I sent out the forms, I literally could do nothing but wait and see if I was going to get into school. WHY WHY WHY did I waste energy walking around stressed out of my mind? I have to receive that rejection/acceptance paper in the mail first! Why didn’t I take that energy, plan for both scenarios (accepted vs not accepted) and just move on until I found out? But I didn’t.

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Looking back on it now, I saw the patterns I fell into. Listening to the Angry Bird, allowing small annoyances to turn into huge problems, but I realize now that once I take the time to breath deeply and categorize all my feels, I can see what must be changed in order to keep myself from feeling upset.

Essentially, there are things that are worth being stressed out about, like your immediate core stresses, and then there are things that you can choose to ignore. It’s really really hard to ignore them sometimes, but by doing that you can deal with core stress and have a good day at the same time.

Simon’s Thoughts

Shocked Simon

So, I don’t think I did justice to my perspective in this video. The basic idea of “think of two good things for every one bad thing you experience” and “never take things for granted” kinda gets lost when the examples I give are “my dog didn’t die!” and “my hips ain’t broken anymore!” Let me get into this idea a bit more, if I can.

In a very blunt, cold way, I can put it as this: the things that bother me in the here and now are insignificant in other contexts. I might read a crappy comment on Tumblr, and be upset, but then I can just, you know, close the computer. Walk away. Buy some flowers. Make a home cooked meal. Walk my dog who freaking loves going on walks and dances around in excitement when we’re about to go out. Go to the park and do balls, Soo Zee style. All of these things are better than dealing with or dwelling on negative experiences.

When we step away from the computer, we’ve got a bunch of friends, close friends, who aren’t really computer literate, and when we hang out with them and they’re like “what’s a tumblings?” and I think to myself of the vast world of experience out there, and how tiny this one is in the grand scheme of where my life has come from and where it’s going. Life exists outside of internet culture. Life exists outside of your classroom. Life exists outside of your job. There’s so much of it everywhere! It’s Cherry Blossom season now in Korea, and gotdamn it’s gorgeous.

Some might think that this isn’t a way to solve your problems. It’s more flight than fight. My response to this is that not every problem is worth the effort that goes into solving it. Not everything needs a resolution, and if the effort that goes into solving something is greater than the outcome, then fuck it. Move on to something different.

I think the method that I advocate most for getting over the blues is two fold. The first is to realize the insignificance of whatever event is bothering me, and secondly is to focus more attention and energy on appreciating what I DO have around me. I could be upset about dealing with our landlord, buuuut I have a soft kitty here. I could be upset that I’m not in the best shape right now, buuuut I have a wife that loves me. I could be upset that a project I had been planning fell through, but look at that sunset. Once you realize that all things are of equal significance, that the things that are happening to you aren’t as important as they seem at the moment, then the playing field is levelled. Good experiences and bad experiences have the same weight, so why not put my energies into experiencing the positives?

Why would I focus on the people that dislike me, when I could be paying attention to the people that do like me? Why pay attention to anger when I could pay attention to love? It’s hard when I occasionally fall into a rut, but I just do my best to realize the negative thought pattern, and then say “f*ck it” and to move onto something else I like instead. My life won’t crumble as a result. Things will go on.

Part of my experiences is to never take anything for granted. Anything can change in the blink of an eye. I could get extremely sick. A meteor could hit. Kim Jong Un could flip his shit. We could die in a taxi accident. There’s no guarantee that the experiences I’m having now will be experiences I’ll have in the future. There will be a time in the future when things will be different, where situations will suck more. Let me do my best to appreciate what I have now while I still have it.

For instance: You’re watching our videos. You have no duty to. Tomorrow you can say “goddamn: that last joke of theirs just pushed me to the limit” and you can stop watching. And then what? What if everyone stopped watching? Does that mean we’ll die? Not at all. It means we’ll have to do something else instead. I’ll enjoy doing this for as long as you let me, but if you change your mind I won’t be angry at you or myself for it, because I’ve done this to the best of my ability, and enjoyed as much of it as I could.

Some days I’m walking out in public with Martina. We get separated in a mall. I look for her and can’t see her. There’s no sight of her anywhere. At times like that I sometimes think to myself, did she really ever exist? The life I have with her is too amazing. It’d make sense if I was just dreaming this whole thing up. Now that the dream’s over, at least I can say it was fantastic, and I was fortunate enough to have great experiences with her. Then I see her again, and go back to appreciating as many moments with her as I’ll be given.

We had a pretty big scare lately which we didn’t talk about publicly in video, but I’ll talk about here because I feel like the blog section is a different audience than our YouTube viewers. It’s something that negatively affected us, and you might have seen that in our videos. Martina lost the hearing in her right ear last February, and after many hospital appointments and tests with ear specialists, the doctor concluded she probably had a brain tumour. When he suggested this diagnosis, the first thing I thought wasn’t “holy shit, she’s going to die” and started panicking. Instead, I thought “ok. So this is the situation. What’s our next course of action to make this better? What can I do to make things better for Martina?”

But first, Martina did an MRI to check if the diagnosis was accurate. We waited for a few days for the results. We just kept filming and putting up videos as best we could, talked to you guise online, and did what kept on making us happy, but Martina was feeling really down. After waiting a week, Martina’s scan came back…negative for tumours! We still don’t know why Martina’s hearing is gone. We think it probably has to do with her EDS, which she talked about before in her Draw My Life Videos. It’s possible that the EDS caused a dislocated bone in her inner ear. The point is, I didn’t get destroyed by sadness and panic when we waited for the results. They’re unknown, so there was nothing to think about. I focused on what we could do to be happy in the moment, and when the diagnosis came back with favourable results, I have a new thing to be happy about. It’s not gonna kill my wife! Woohoo!

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I think I’m getting distracted here with examples. Basic premise in a nutshell: what I have is an infinite possibility of experiences, both positive and negative. All of them get the amount of attention I choose to give them. What I don’t have is an infinite amount of time. I’m going to spend the rest of my life appreciating my positive experiences, because the world doesn’t owe me anything, and the happiness in my life can be taken away from me at any moment. Sure, this sounds like a rather depressing standpoint, for some people, but for me I feel liberated, and I feel like I can enjoy things, like walking my dog, looking at my wife, hanging with friends, drinking a nice cocktail, sitting in a comfortable couch, not feeling ill, all of these things I can appreciate this more than many other people I know, who think that all of these things are just normal. Rather than thinking of the world as awesome by default, and feeling upset when things don’t go my way, I think of the world as not awesome by default, and feel blessed when things do go my way.

Leigh’s Thoughts

Intern Leigh here, aka: stage 2 apprentice wizard of time management and general ass-kickery. I’ve never actually done just school; every time I’ve been a full time student I’ve also been a full time something else. How do I manage to win scholarships, land amazing internships, and still find the time to watch Sabrina the Teenage Witch seasons 1, 2, and 3 over Easter weekend? I’m a time-management ninja. That’s right, I’m a ninja and a wizard. And I’ll share my ninja-wizard secrets.

Secret #1: I have a life outside of school
I take a Romantic Scholar approach to school. I don’t believe anything – a project deadline, a term paper, a film critique – should get in the way of Friday night barbecues. Or Saturday morning cartoons. Or Sunday afternoon brunches. You catch my drift? Rather than go for “well-rounded,” I focus on kicking tail at one specific area academically. That leaves more time for playing-I mean working at the studio, dragging Soo Zee to fancy whiskey bars, and shopping for new sundresses.

Secret #2: I timebox
I learned this trick from Neil Fiore. I never set deadlines to finish things. I set deadlines to start. When I get too intense about being the best video editor in the world, I fall into the pit of despair, so I make it a point to worry more about starting than finishing. Having no pressure to finish, no pressure to be perfect, no pressure to get it all done in one sitting does wonders for my stress level. Even just a solid, uninterrupted 15 minutes of work can be enough to remember that your value as a human being is NOT equal to your grades, or your art’s reception, or your personal best. (bolding requested by Martina)

Secret #3: I ignore emails
One of the most important things I learned from Merlin Mann’s awesome “Inbox Zero” email approach is that truly urgent matters do not come via email. If you need an answer right this flipping second, you’ll call me. So I ignore lots of emails. Not forever, but certainly not until I’m done with whatever it is I’m doing right now. I will check my email when I durn well feel like it, thankyouverymuch. Instead of constant push alerts that remind me I have a billion things left to do, I have blissful stretches of distraction-free time to focus on work slash research new bubble tea places and DIY steadycam rigs…I mean…pssh…not that I…do…that…RUN AWAY!!

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  1. Bel

    Thank you for sharing your insights about all of this. It’s helpful and makes me rethink many stuff that’s going in my life,… you are all awesome!!!!!! -(๑☆‿ ☆#)ᕗ

  2. southern belle

    Thank you for this post. It has made me feel better on a poopy day. Also, the hearing loss thing struck me as I remember seeing something about this before. EDS can cause hearing loss however, it seems that hearing aids generally help most people with this issue. and they aren’t old school giant things anymore. you might even be able to get a hello kitty one! Keep your chin up!

  3. rumblytumm
    rumblytumm

    This post was absolutely uplifting. Was on my usual downward spiral till i saw this video and decided to properly read the blogpost. I’m so glad martina’s fine! I absolutely LOVE your videos. been binge watching your videos starting from those you posted way back in the day (i.e. 5 years ago). muahaha im obsessive like that. THANKS SO MUCH FOR PUTTING ALL THESE CONTENT UP! it really really helps! Imma try Simon’s strategy, 2 positive thoughts for 1 negative thought. :) THANKS SO MUCH GUYS! oooooo you so nasty~

  4. Where do I change my profile picture?

  5. Ana Avelino

    I had to cry when Simon said “At times like that I sometimes think to myself, did she really ever exist? The life I have with her is too amazing.”. You’re THE MAN!! And, also, I’m very happy that Martina is all right!

  6. Olivia

    Just a simple smile can brighten my day, so when I’m in a bad mood, I smile. That way, other people will smile, and that will make me happy. :)

  7. Wow I never knew about your situation Martina very glad that is not a tumour and very happy for you and Simon have each other and I have to agree with Simon we take thing for grated to easily I learn that very early on since my mother had M.S. and later found out that I had it too since I was 14. Love your advise of the calendar Martina I’m going to do it since i want to finish my master in 2d animation since I’m a sucker for cartoon and movie . I just need to get my ass in gear and finish it. Thank you for taking the time and actually being open about the situation of your life when really you don’t have too. Best wishes and seeing positive vibes. Leigh love your thought.

    P.S. Martina maybe you can share your awesome happy mood playlist.

  8. ClosetHippie1010

    I… I’m… I can’t believe I’m not crying right now, but inside I’m writhing with tears… Bless you guys, really, bless you.

  9. I love that you guys made a post about this and a YouTube video. I’ve had depression my whole life and it’s so much harder for me to focus on positive things and I really love Simon’s view on it. People take life in general for granted. I also like Martina’s view. I can see it being very helpful at school/work. Thanks for your post, guys.

  10. I like Simon’s approach. PICK YOU BATTLES! And honestly people think that you should be upset over everything. No, that’s NOT healthy way of life. I like the three different ways of thought process. They’re all great ideas of staying happy. (I really like Simon’s cracked glasses…)

    Sometimes you think you’re stuck in a long line blah blah, why are they taking so long?… You could be avoiding something terrible or someone rude or something even worse than a long line! Why not entertain yourself with people watching while you’re waiting in line? Or play a game on your phone or text someone. Patience is a virtue and try to think positively or think about something else you’re looking forward to.

    And I like reading that everyone says: It’s your own responsibility to put yourself in a good/bad mood. This is why these guise can work so well together and not be angry.

  11. Elise Barnes

    This is my favourite post. I’m a pretty dedicated student, so I often have a hard time realizing that there is any sort of life outside of school, which really gets me down. Thank you for giving me new tips and tricks to stay positive!
    And I’m so glad Martina’s condition isn’t serious. All of our hearts would break for her.

  12. This might be weird but I created an account just to say that reading that moved me to tears, specifically Simon’s part with –> “At times like that I sometimes think to myself, did she really ever exist? The life I have with her is too amazing.” To me this is such a beautiful sentiment.

    You both are such wonderfully grateful and amazing people. I support you both completely, and I’d like to say, please, keep doing what you’re doing, it really does make a difference to people out there.

    Much love,
    ellie

  13. Good on you guys. I’m sorry that Martina has lost some of her hearing – you would’ve been so frightened together and so frustrated. Props to you guys for being so strong and hanging in there. You’re really all so admirable. Seriously, I have mad respect for you guys. I hope her hearing comes back 100% in time, but even if it doesn’t, she doesn’t seem any different to an outsider anyway, which is really a reflection of how courageous you guys are because there must be some inner turmoil there but you hide it so well and just look as happy as ever. I really appreciate what a positive impact you guys have – whether it affects just one person or hundreds or thousands, I think what you guys are doing for the world is truly awesome.

    As for my input, I just remember a famous Barney Stinson quote, “When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead.”

    xoxoxo

  14. divineartofmusic1 .

    I m in this moment in my life, in such state of mind. i feel lost ,trapped, cant find the answer to my problems. and they are big problems, job finding, cariere choices, where to live and how to live if I cant find job that can give me enough and they are due at the same time! o reading your blog about positive thing is giving me prospective in some way, because although my problems are big the solutions are in me and there will be solution. high stress level,and deadline is what is giving me a real pain!!! I just find out while talking to my friend that there is something called soul, and if you don’t take care of it came back to bite you and apperantly in my case it will cause a life choise problem, and today I don’t know how to solve my problem what is the best way,,,,,,,,so that is making my problem even more bigger than it is. so that wasthe state of mind when I saw this topic,,,,, and I must say thank you, it gave me an idea, how to beggin planning my recovery.idea is take your time, one step at the time and always make way for something more then what are you doing,,,that thought calm me a little bit I need to find the strength in me to be proactive about my life, but its always something so,,,,,,,how people organize them selfs in good and healthy way how to give peace and order to your life?????

  15. Rabbit Mouse

    Thank you very much for this video! As you are normally funny and happy and in a good mood in your videos, it’s easy to forget the fact that you have to struggle with stress, depression, etc. like everyone else. So, I really hope that those people who write bad things about you will stop their crap. If you don’t like something/someone you should simply stay away from it/them instead of badmouthing!
    One of my tactics is music, too. I like to listen to music while I’m getting ready – a bit of singing, humming or dancing and swoosh you’re in a good mood. :) I also have a little treasure box where I put things inside which remind me of the fact that I’m loved and appreciated for being myself, e.g. a sweet birthday letter of my sis or an endearing message from a friend. And before I fall asleep, I try to recall everything that happened to me during the day and be thankful for all the positive things.
    Not to forget your videos which have often made my day! :D

  16. Mina_mon_ina

    Bookmarking this for all the positivity! Will definitely need to refer back to this when I’m feeling too much pressure.

  17. StarfishieT

    I froze when I read about Martina’s hearing loss, and was relieved to read it’s not a brain tumor. See, that cheered me up, because she got a terrible diagnosis which happily turned out to be inaccurate.

    When someone is unpleasant to me, either online or in real life, I just think ‘this person doesn’t know you personally and probably doesn’t care to either , so I’ll just focus on the people who do know and like me . ‘ This helped me ignore my bullies in high school and it’s still very useful. If someone doesn’t care to get to know you personally, they also cannot truly hurt you with their words because they have no details about you that they can attack you on. Furthermore, I am convinced that every experience helps you grow as a person and I cannot be more grateful for that.

    Like Simon, I also try to think of two positive things for each negative thing.

    Thanks for sharing this with us ! The four of you are role models to me. ~ <3

  18. I’m a bit late reading the blog post, but I’m really glad I finally did. Thank you for taking the time to write all of this, I really needed it right now. You guys are really an inspiration to me. :)

  19. soneexofishy

    I have a playlist of my favorite songs to listen to when I realize I’m starting to to get grumpy (also when I’m happy too because these songs are awesome) :) Also I currently work at Disney World so if I’m feeling stressed or upset I just head over to the parks and get some cuddles from my favorite characters ^.^ I’m going to start applying Simon’s 2:1 rule though. I get not so great guests some times and they kind of throw off my day so I’m going to start thinking of all the super amazing guests I get to see when ever I get an unpleasant one!

  20. Melody Bliss

    It was interesting to hear how others deal with being down. Depression is an insidious thing.

    Luckily I tend to be a positive person. Definitely not a bubbly “OMG! The world is awesome ALL the time” type but just generally positive. But at times, like anyone, I can get down — especially with all that goes on in my life.

    Back in 2008, my kidneys finally failed and I nearly died. I unfortunately always knew this was fated for me. Back when I was 18, I was diagnosed with diabetes and by that point I already had kidney damage. My fasting glucose at the time of diagnosis was 580. Not good. Strangely NO one thought I could have had it though not only do my parents have it, so do my grandparents. Every just thought I was lazy even though I had all the classic signs. :/

    At the time the doctors didn’t think I would live to see 25. I nearly didn’t survive much past that. At the age of 28 I had my first (and hopefully last) stroke. I NEVER want to experience that again and honestly if I do, I hep it does take me out.

    But at this point I am 41 and the diseases diabetes and End Stage Renal HAVE NOT WON. I am still on this planet doing my best to not just survive, but thrive. Though I am looking at going on full disability (dialysis sucks and is exhausting) I continue to see the good I can do. With my husband and a friend, we’re creating a non-profit group to teach kids musicianship. I’m really excited about it. :)

    Like Martina, I use music to stay positive. Music is very important to me. But I also do things I love. I read and enjoy my hobbies. I also put specific time on my calendar for just me, especially when things get hectic. I’ve been known to schedule an hour or half hour meeting with only myself so that I make sure I have that “me” time. It really helps with stress management.

  21. Shelley Beh
    Shelley Beh

    I really found the blogpost both well written and very helpful. I’m gonna keep this page tab open in my browser so when I’m feeling depressed and down I’ll be reminded of what to do. thanks :) oh and I was really shocked to read about Martina’s ear problem, but I’m really glad it wasn’t as bad as it could have been. I hope you get better soon though. much love

  22. Convoluted

    EYK Crew, Your videos are some of the most fun to watch videos I’ve ever come across. I LOVE them! And I love you guise for what you do! I was unemployed for almost 2 years (JUST started a new job 3/31! Yay!!!!) and during that time, I found that watching uplifting, positive, happy people’s videos on YouTube realllllly helped keep my own spirits up. When I found your vids a few months ago, I became addicted and couldn’t stop watching. Honestly, I couldn’t go a day without watching them – and there are so many, I still haven’t watched them all. Your happiness and positivity really comes through and I know you’re 100% genuine, real people and I love that! That’s what keeps me coming back to your videos. Anyway, if I ever need some cheering up, I know I can watch some of your videos and they will make me smile and laugh! :) Thank you all for your dedication and hard work and don’t ever stop! You’ve been an inspiration to me, and I know you will continue to be! XOXOXOX (that’s a bunch of hugs and kisses to you!!!) :D

  23. Beth Cerule

    TL; DR Question:
    What is the phone situation in Korea? Is it possible to use European or American phones in Korea? What about Sim cards? Can you easily get a one year phone contract if your teaching English in Korea for a year?

  24. Kim Tastic

    Oh my gosh! I looove you guys! I started watching you all to learn more about Korea (I’m a second gen who has been to Korea, maybe 5 times?). I tried to encourage my friend who was starting work at Samsung to find you and become friends, but I guess he was busy working or something…sheesh. I think I’ve watched almost every video (very entertaining!)…and now I think I have even picked up some of your mannerisms (subconsciously…not in a creepy way, I promise!).

    I am from Toronto, a Taurus , O blood type, and I love Hello Kitty adorable things…I feel like Martina is a kindred spirit!

    I LOVED this blog post, it REALLY resonated with me (enough to use CAPS). You should definitely expand on or write/film on this topic/related topics…it was very helpful (I intend to employ some of the strategies you’ve shared :). Keep up the AMAZING work! :D

  25. katanacutie

    Aw Martina! I’m so sorry you lost some of your hearing but I’m so thankful you don’t have a brain tumour! I will keep you in my prayers <3 I just want to say thank you guys so much. I know I have said this before, but you two (and of course the rest of the EYK crew really) really impact my life for the better and help me feel happy (which is something I really struggle with) One of the ways I stay positive is watching Simon and Martina!! ^_^ and Leigh and Soo Zee and Spudgy and Meemers hehe <3

  26. KaleighBailey

    Two things, the Angry Bird sounds a lot like my friends “Pain Body” theory, basically everyone has a Pain Body in them and negative self talk and sad/depressed/angry music feeds the pain body and it can get obese and crush you internally. Second thing, I am sad that you lost hearing in your ear Martina but I am so thankful that it is not a tumour, I hope you can get a clear diagnosis and that you all remain healthy :)

  27. Thanks. I needed this post. The last month of school has really been stressing me out.

  28. Brittany M. Riley

    I love you guys! I seriously needed some of this. Lately I’ve been getting bent out of shape over things that don’t even matter and after reading and watching your video I feel a lot better. You both have always been big inspirations to me as people because despite everything that’s difficult for you guys you always seem so happy and positive and I love that!

  29. You guys sound like you have read the book Being Happy by Andrew Mathews. If not, you should totally check it out because it has the great advice you guys suggested and some more…. and it has cute pictures like the ones you guys drew. I really like your pictures…. btw I can’t help but feel like singing “Let it go! Let it go! Can’t hold me back anymore” when reading Simon’s post. Simon are you secretly a snow witch from Norway with great hair and a pretty dress?

  30. Rachel Gallacher

    Because I have gone through difficult stuff and come out okay I feel more capable and strong. Like Simon said, the world doesn’t owe me a good life, so I have to be the one to make it good. Even though I struggle with depression and anxiety, I get through it. I bring life and happiness to the people around me so when I am feeling blue I can still be okay because I know I am of worth, regardless of not good circumstances.

  31. Cis

    Hey Simon and Martina,
    I really hope you read this and figured I might best post it here, instead of in the live chat of yesterday.
    You said that the Meems meows if he wants you to lift him up.
    When I had a scottish fold, he started doing that aswell. This can however be a symptom of Hip Dysplasia(where the ‘cup’ of the is to small for the ‘head of the hip joint, very common in scottish folds) or even heart disease. My own kitty died very suddenly, after a heart attack(he had a diagnosed heart disease, HCM, also very common for scottish folds, but it was said that he didn’t suffer consequences yet). It was terrible to see, as I wasn’t able to do anything. I really wouldn’t want that to happen too you guise, so please let him get checked, just in case!

  32. That was just the pick-me-up I needed^^ Thanks Guys :)

  33. Gia Lorretta Tammone

    Thanks for doing this, guise. With college graduation coming up in a month (!) and the fact that winter in Michigan this year seems like it will never end, I’ve been feeling pretty negative. But your suggestions will really help! :)

  34. Aaah, Martina, I get what you mean by the Angry Bird. My psychologist calls it the attention-sucking dementor. I call it the voices in my head.

    ………do I really want to talk about my depression now. Nah. Not really.

    I will say though; God plays a central role in keeping me positive. Helping me see the bigger picture; giving me security about the future, and knowing Someone’s always holding my hand.

  35. You have no idea, how much I needed this. I was having a huge nervous breakdown recently, and I felt like I need to stop and think WHY everything was falling apart and what I should do abou that. For the last two days just out of the blue so many people approached to me and showed me how they stay positive and inspired and grateful. My coworker came back from 3-month-long trip to India said that every morning from now on she spends 10 minutes to wish happiness to everyone she meets or thinks about. My friend recommended me a great book how to stay focused and positive. I looked at my bookshelf and found out that I have one more book from the amazing Nick Vujicic that I haven’t read yet. And then I saw your video and your tips :’D Thank you so much for sharing your ways and stories, thank you Leigh for sharing the books! It does help a lot. I agree with you, Simon, that we shouldn’t take things for granted, we should really appreciate what we have and appreciate even more if our new goals get accomplished. Martina, sunshine, please be healthy and stay positive, and don’t worry about anything. Our nerves are our main cause of our illnesses that we have, I have the same problem here :’D

    I love you so much and I wish you all the best!
    <3

    Nadine

  36. kawaii_candie
    kawaii_candie

    Simon, your new hair makes you look like an adult…. ;p

    also, I love you. your speech about appreciating the good things was really heart-warming. <3

    and wow about Martina's hearing loss story! that's harsh! it's amazing that you were able to keep it together like that! kudos to you!

    seriously though, i think i'm gonna bookmark this post. I'm someone who gets bummed out pretty easily, and i had a pretty bad breakup about 3 months ago which i'm still not over, and it caused me to gain a lot of weight, which in turn added to the depression, soooo…. i'm pretty much depressed all the time… (sorry to be pouring out my problems. lol) on top of that, i'm usually someone who turns to food to make me happy, but that's not really good when you're trying to lose weight, is it? so anyways, it's good for me to see all your different suggestions. thank you.

  37. Tabulousme

    I am so glad that you guise decided to do this post. I gives me the opportunity to share what a huge impact you have had on my life. When I first started watching your videos, I was a freshman at University. It was a really rough time for me. I am not a people person. I am an awkward person. I say strange things at strange moments, and the trains of thought and leaps of logic that make perfect sense to me often get me odd looks. I am chatty if given the chance, but for a long time I was so preoccupied with the thought that others would judge me for my oddities that I would get really anxious when I had to talk to new people. I tend to get majorly sarcastic when I feel uncomfortable or uncertain, and I hated seeing that negativity in myself. I felt so sure that everyone I met could only see that ugliness in me. I made few friends, and none of them were close enough that I felt I could really be myself. I felt isolated, stressed (an emotion I am not naturally predisposed to, and don’t handle well) and was on the verge of a pretty major depression.
    That was when I found Eat Your Kimchi. <3 You were both just so…. goofy and fun. I mean that in the best way possible. You did your own thing, and tried new things, and you were absolutely hilarious. Then it just sort of occured to me that I could do that too. If I found your antics endearing, then maybe others would see my awkwardness as charming, rather than discomfitting. If not, then when was I missing out on, really? Certainly nobody I needed in my life. Two years later, and I am in a much better place. I have embraced my quirks and have made some incredible friends and had some awesome experiences as a result. Sure, I find people who think I am a little out there. But I found a lot more people who are willing to be out there with me. A lot of it was just me growing up, but it was you, Simon and Martina, who gave me that first shove in the right direction. Because of you guise, there is one less big, fat Angry Bird of fear and self-hate in the world, and a whole lot more smiles. So thank you. :)
    (Also, I am so glad to hear that the brain-tumor scare didn't amount anything! My thoughts and prayers are with you both, and I hope that you will be able to figure out what's wrong with Martina's hearing soon!)

  38. At certain points in the last few years, I swear these videos kept me going. I’d watch them when I felt hopeless and they’d remind me that that there’s a world beyond my front door. So, I guess thanks for all your hard work and positive energy. I know I’m not the only one who appreciates it ^^

  39. For me, I think it’s helpful to set goals that aren’t things I have to do for work or school but for me. Something like, “I want to save money for a trip,” because it’s do-able and you have a reason for those long hours you put into work. It makes you feel better at the time and it also lets you accomplish something later (and reap the reward as well!).

  40. Tiara Kikyo Giles

    I just have to say thank you guys so much for this post. It’s like right on time for me since I’ve been very verwhelmed and stressed out. Thanks for all of the stories and tips. And Leigh, your cheeks are adorable!!!

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