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Ok, so, for starters, let’s say that we had some issues in figuring out what to say for this video, because the two of us disagree about this topic slightly. Martina’s of the opinion that making friends in Korea is difficult. I’m of the opinion that making friends in Korea is easy. And we discussed it with each other for a long time before we agreed about what we were going to say in the video.

Our main issue: I think we’re stuck on what the word “difficult” means. See, we mentioned in the video how you’re more likely to talk to strangers here in Korea and make friends that way than you would be back home. I can’t really remember the last time I spoke with a random stranger in Canada and then the two of us hung out. That’s…a bit weird. Here in Korea, though, you sometimes do talk to strangers. If you see another foreigner, you sometimes get excited, and either they’re as excited to see another foreigner as you are, or they remember what it was like to be that excited, and so they might humour you. The same thing can happen with making Korean friends: they’re excited to see a foreigner and are excited to speak English. Seriously: imagine studying a language your whole life and never using it. Oh wait. We did that. We had to learn French back in Canada, and I feel really excited when I go to Quebec (our most French speaking province in Canada). It’s like, “OMG I can read the menu and it’s totally in French…and I can also sing a song about Halloween…in..French…I’VE WASTED MY LIFEEEEEEEE!!!!” *ahem*

Martina’s of the opinion, though, that you can meet people more easily in your home country through your lack of language barrier, and also from your more abundant connections (such as those you have from school and work). These kinds of connections are not as readily available to you here in Korea. Your work, for instance, does not have as many people that are – how do we say – available for friendship. Some of your schools might have more opportunities for frindships, especially if you’re working in afterschool tutoring centers which have a group of foreigners working together. But not all schools are like this. In my situation, I had nothing but older married women with kids as co-teachers, all of whom were very busy. The couple of times that I had a teacher that wasn’t married or with kids, we had a great time! But that was only a temporary teacher. Otherwise: nada. Martina’s school was a bit different, as she explained in the video, and she had more options than I did. Either way, the possibilities of you branching out through your connections in Korea are a lot slimmer, since you have far fewer connections. Fewer connections mean can mean more isolation as you spend time alone in your apartment, take the bus alone, and sit at work alone, come home alone, and so on. But this also happens to people living in their home country. So the question is, which way’s easier to make friends?

I think that, if you’re in Korea and you see other foreigners, you share something in common with them. Being foreigners in Korea is sometimes an opening for conversation. But you probably share more things in common with them, since you both decided to move very far away from your home, friends, and family. It can be your sense of adventure, your interest in Asian culture, your troubles in making lessons plans, your difficulty in finding your way around campus, etc, all of which seem like normal things to have in common with people living abroad. While in your home country, you might not have these immediate icebreakers.

Ah. We’re still torn about the topic. Let us know what you think. Is it easier to make friends while you’re in Korea, or is it not? We didn’t talk much about making friends with Korean people, partly because it’s too generalized a topic for us to be able to say anything about, apart from relating our own experiences, which probably don’t or won’t reflect your experiences, you know? Every Korean person is different, while foreigners in Korea at least have their foreignness in common. Also, it depends on where you’re meeting your new Korean friend, like at your local coffee shop or at a club in Hongdae…two very different results…*eyebrow wiggle* or are they…*eyebrow wiggle*…my eyebrows cramped.

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  1. Evewa

    This reminds me of something someone we met encountered. My mom and I live in USA and were from Kenya, Africa, so we’re Kenyans. It’s kind of like a think in the Kenyan community, those surrounding us, to say hi if you see another Kenyan, it’s quite easy to know who’s Kenyan and even more easy to know whether they speak our mother tongue, there are over 42 languages in Kenya. So the other day my mom and i were grocery shopping and my mom came across another Kenyan Lady also shopping with her daughter and my mom said hi so after talking for a bit the lady thanked us for saying hi because she recently had a negative encounter with the while she was with her friend at the mall. So the main language in Kenya is Swahili, so the lady happened to come across a group of women talking in Swahili and she hand her friends decide to approach them and say hi. Unluckily for them this group was not so nice they denied having come from Kenya or even any affiliation with Kenya now i know that there are foreigners that are fluent in Swahili but they are not common so if you come across one 90% of the time they are from Kenya. So this group of strongly denied being from Kenya and switched to talking in English, although the woman was talking to the in Swahili they would answer in English. Now i know that Swahili is the main language to 3 more countries but each country has a very distinguishable kind of Swahili it’s like when a language have many dialects. So although you may see other foreigners when you go to other countries some may shrug you off, for their reasons I don’t know.

  2. Hey I have a question. would you ever take a new foreigner under your wing and just help them if they found you and asked you before hand through your site or another way. not sure if I worded that right but I hope you get the gist of it regardless.

  3. Can i be your best friend Simon? I’ll give you Ranch?

  4. But what if you are a teen on vacation? Is it just the same or different?

  5. I WANNA BE YOUR BESTFRIENDS :D

  6. So i just wanted you guys to know that you’re pretty great….i leave for Korea in 18 days, have all kinds of anxieties but you guys are helping alot

    oh and your Canadian like myself

    oh and you like Catan…..wanna be best friends? 

    but seriously, these videos are great

  7. Hello , i love all of your videos , they’re so funny and amazing! I have one question : You guys are teachers (duh!) , but how can i , for example , get a job in korea in another area? Is it difficult? thank you and kisses from Brazil!

  8. I WILL BE FRIENDS WITH YOU BOTH! I’m Canadian and was forced through French Immersion. LET’S SPEAK FRENCH AND MAKE FACES.

  9. I was wondering… how did you get used to how they punish kids here? How can you be empathetic to what they are doing but be able to carry on with class?

  10. I was very lonely in my first few months in Korea, and I was pretty happy to discover http://www.cometogetherkorea.com.  I came back the US after my contract was up, and I miss those CTK friends very much. :-(

  11. Soo, I saw this video on youtube
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5GvkcjszLk&feature=related
    It’s about Korean students and their high school life. I want to ask, since you’ve been teaching in Korea… Is it really that hard and stressful? Can you do a video about students in university and high school? Because I was planning to go to Korea for university but I would like to know how it is like before making a final decision.
    Thank you ^.^

  12. Do you guys Reddit? Simon seems to keep making meme references :)

  13. The other semi-obvious tip is to learn Korean!

    Making a serious, visible effort to learn the language does wonders for how people perceive you here. Foreigners have a bad reputation of just showing up to party with other foreigners, and never learning more than the absolute basics. Showing that you’re taking the effort to do the same thing you’re asking of your students is a very positive impression, and can only help you socially. In fact, I have friends at the gym who never revealed they knew any English at all for months until they saw me frantically memorizing Korean vocabulary for my weekly quizzes and trying to practice with anyone who would listen. Lots of Koreans are super-stressed and self-conscious about making mistakes in English, even if they’re actually quite proficient. Solution: eagerly practice your Korean on them, even if it sucks! They’ll be relieved that their English is awesome in comparison, start talking to you, and bam! Friends.

    Of course, this can go wrong if you give the impression you just want to use someone for their language, but that doesn’t usually happen. All the foreigners I know of who work hard at Korean do so to create better friendships and relationships, so of course you’re practicing the language to be friends and not being friends for the language. (It does happen the other way around though sometimes, where someone who seems eager to be friends turns out to basically just want free private lessons. This hasn’t happened to me personally, but it’s apparently not that uncommon.)

  14. I’m surprised that you make it sound that difficult. I’ve been here since February 2012 and think it’s really easy to make friends!

    First, if you’re hired through EPIK or another governmental program, they’ll start you off with a week-long orientation that provides huge networking opportunities. With the whole group taking workshops and eating and living in the same college dormitory together for over a week, you’d have to literally try not to meet people. So, sure, once you arrive in your city you all head off to different schools, but by then you’ve already met people and joined eight different highly active Facebook groups, and then you spend all your free time at school online swapping lesson plan ideas, telling funny work stories, and planning weekend events…. Don’t even pretend you don’t, other NETs. :P

    So, it’s hardly like you’re bereft of company once you arrive in your city and split up, even if you don’t become close with any of your coworkers. I see my foreign friends at least every weekend, and some nearly every day because we do the same extracurricular activities.

    Speaking of which, regular activities are IMO the number one way to meet people, both Koreans and foreigners. There are sports clubs, language exchange clubs, volunteering, Korean classes, all kinds of things. Every single day I’m either climbing at the local rock wall, taking hip-hop dance classes or going to Korean classes, so I’m always hanging out with somebody. Even though my Korean is still barely conversational, I still have Korean friends who don’t speak English, because we have interests in common and can do stuff together and mime hilariously.

    The other thing worth mentioning is that although there are definitely certain social boundaries here you don’t find in North America, in some ways it can actually be easier to get close to people. Since native teachers are often young and far away from home, it’s not uncommon for an older Korean person to basically “adopt” them. Family is so important here that if you’re lucky, your friend’s mom or your boss or whoever will decide you need family here too, and invite you to family outings and holiday celebrations and so on. Just last night I had the surreal experience of playing badminton with my vice principal and her two sons, going out for drinks afterwards, sleeping at her house and going back to school the next morning in the same clothes. Craziness!

    Also, because foreigners are different, sometimes the rules of engagement with them changes too. I know a girl who’s made friends with random bodyguards and bouncers at K-pop concerts before, even going out to dinner together. In the US that would probably be really weird, and even here it would typically be against the rules for a young single woman to hang out with older men. Somehow it happened anyway, though. Martina’s story about being friends with an older person is definitely not the only exception.

    Anyway, sorry that was so long. I hope it reassures people who are thinking about moving to Korea. Yes, you have to put in some effort, but you don’t have to be a super-confident social butterfly to make friends here. Come to Korea and have fun! ^^

  15. WOULD YOU BE MY FRIEND?? ahahaa

  16. THIS IS AWESOMEEE <3

  17. can you tell us the product that we should buy in korea if we were there?

  18. what do korean students think of foreigners ?

  19. I’m actually pretty close in age to you guys, and if I lived in Korea I would totally go out of my way to make friends with you (even if I didn’t know of you guys from the internet) because you look like you could possibly be into the same things as me. I would probably approach you (it would be hard because I’m AWKWARD AS HELL) but it would be “Oh look. They look like they may have similar interests. I LIKE THAT SHIRT AND OUR HAIR MATCHES!” If any of that makes sense. Our dogs actually kind of match. It’s funny.

    Anyway now that my weird awkward rambling is over, I’LL BE YOUR FRIEND. Even though I live in the states. INTERNET FRIENDS.

  20. haha I’m going to korea to teach english in two years, if you’re still there I’ll be friends with you guys!!

  21. umm i want to understand the whole 2 years older in korea because i heard from some where that they are different then ours.(like international i guess???)

  22. Thanks for sharing Settlers of Catan… I have now spent several hours playing it O.O Why is it so addictive?? I saw something about a board game…. do you guys play the board game or online? It took me awhile but I finally won the seafarers one :p

  23. What do Koreans think about sex before marriage or about living together before being married? Also what is the usual age that koreans get married?

  24. It would be a shame if it’s hard to make friends. I think it’s fun to share stories and cultures. I’ve worked in a bar (in the netherlands) and i’ve met a lot of different people. Some nice, some crazy, some puke after having 3 beer… Maybe it’s also about meeting the right people.

  25. My husband and I are learning about Korean culture and taking language
    courses now in preparation for moving from US to Korea to become english
    teachers. We have 3 kids that will be 10 and under by the time we move
    in 3 years. So while it would be awesome if you already had kids for
    that insight, its also nice that you’re waiting for what time is right
    for YOU! But do you have any way of obtaining that info from anyone
    else? What would having American kids in Korea be like? Would we have to
    get a car? Do they offer bigger housing? Daycare, medical care,
    school….Lots of questions!! All we hear of are single people or
    married w/o kids, so if you found the time for making even a short vid
    or even just a reply comment that would be awesome. We love you guys,
    you make such an awesome family! I look forward to your next video!

  26. I’m curious about gender roles in South Korea. Next TL;DR anybody?

  27. All this time I thought of you guys as my best friends. ^-^

  28. i’ve heard that many girls get double eyelid surgery after they graduate as a present. is plastic surgery a common occurrence in korea? my friend got her eyelids done too and my mom told me its inexpensive

  29. I’ve watched your videos for quite a long time now and was still rather skeptical until today…YOU LOVE SETTLERS OF CATAN??? you are now officially the coolest people I know/don’t really know…
    If you make your way down to Busan, look me up!! I will build an army to destroy your villiages and NEVER NEVER let you make a city! And then I might just buy us all a glass of wine!
    I taught my Korean boyfriend how to play it and he thinks it great too…
    thanks for being so cool, you make us Canadians (what up Ontario!!) look good!

  30. Is it true that some teachers in Korea physically abuse their students as punishments? I don’t mean to offend anyone and I don’t even know if this is true (which is why I’m asking), but some of my friends from Korea told me that the teachers are allowed to like hit their students with buckets, bats, etc. I’m not sure about this though, because I’ve also heard of laws against this kind of thing. I really don’t mean to offend anyone, I just want to know if this is true or not.

  31. I’ll let you start out with an extra brick and wood if you let me play Catan with you guys when I arrive! (Just think of the extra road you could build!)

  32. thanks for this video guys! i caught it at a good time! a similar question to the interracial marriage one but in relation to friends. say you went to a uni or a highschool there and your ethnicity differs from them…would you be looked at or treated “differently” by the people of korean ethnicity at that high school/uni? and if so in a good way or bad? many people have come up to me talking about the whole “close minded” issues and i dont want to be pointing fingers because i am willingly going there :) however im nervous about meeting new people and paranoid about what people would think of me…or if they would approach me? so anyone have an insight?

  33. C’est l’Halloween, c’eest l’halloween Hey! .. That’s the french halloween song that I know…

  34. I just want to ask about the sports in Korea. I realised that Koreans play volleyball but using their legs and not their hands. I play volleyball too but I find it hard using my feet to play. Can you explain more about the different sports that Koreans play differently and your favourite sport? ^^

  35. LOL you guyz are never going to answer that question right? haha had fun watching it! I WANNA BE FRIENDS WITH SIMON AND MARTINA!!!!

  36. Hey guys I was wondering , how is it like the red cross in Korea , I know you al ready visit the hospital once but i was wondering because of the trafic there and stuff is it very different from Canada USA or Mexico ???

  37. I can make korean friends who has the same age as me. I want to create an 86-line when I study abroad. Im a 86-liner. Do you make friends with koreans who are the same age as you?

  38. This is a very relevant post for people planning to live in Korea. Actually, it’s a must-read for just about anyone who’s planning to be a foreigner in Asia! I lived in Korea for 5 years (2002-2007), and lived to write about it (http://amzn.to/HQeH1B), but I think the best antidote to loneliness and Old Vampire Syndrome (great one BTW) is to befriend the locals. Like you said everyone is different in Korea, but if you find one or two great friends that’s really all you need, because many Koreans see friendships bringing benefits in the long-term. Hit-and-run friendships are rare in my experience among Koreans, which is also why it may be harder to get them to open up to foreigners, or even bypass those social levels, because many don’t really understand the benefits of getting to know someone who won’t be there for them on a rainy day. If you like someone in Korea as a friend or otherwise, but they’re being a bit shy, my advice is — be persistent, because the more they get used to you, the more likely they’ll become your friends.

  39. Is it true that other religions are persecuted in Korea?

  40. Your videos are always very funny and helpfull at the same time. I’m living in the Netherlands and moving to Korea soon (Bundang) because my Korean wife could not get used to living here. First learning the language and then get a job. Simon, if you spot a bald foreigner screaming something Dothraki at you that ‘ll be me. :-)

  41. omg settlers is the best board game ever! do you have the seafarers expansion pack? ticket to ride is a not as intense train game like settlers :)

    how long have you guys been in korea now?

  42. If you’re at a public school, you can make friends at orientation. Do it!! Because you don’t want to die alone. I try to be friendly with n00bs, but it is hard because I already have friends and you’re probably not as awesome as them. Even if you are, I have to get to know you. So awkward. You can also make friends with bloggers. Or get drunk and people will talk to you and you can exchange numbers and then you will be friends.

  43. I want to be your best friend! (What up, Besties?)

  44. Hey awesomesauces, I actually wrote a blog about this exact topic not that long ago, if you;re interested, here’s the link: http://margarettriesbeing.blogspot.kr/2012/05/survival-tip-1-find-them-find-them.html
    I would poop myself with excitement if you guys read it!

  45. foreigners are great and all that but . .
    how does one make friends with KOREANS??!!
    america is full of “foreigners” lol I want to go to korea to make korean friends so I can practice my korean. I don’t want to travel around the world to befriend a native english speaker =/
    How does one make KOREAN FRIENDS??

  46. you guys are such trolls!! All in all i think that making friends couldnt be to hard i mean if ur like young then koreans would just walk up to you right? … Not saying your old or anything >:D LOVEYOUGUYS!

  47. As a second generation Canadian with both Korean and Canadian friends, I find that in Canada, it’s much easier to form casual friendships and form friendships with strangers you meet in random places. In Korea, people usually do not greet each other if they do not know each other. But on the other hand, it takes a while to become close friends in Canada, whereas in Korea, you become close friends much more quickly. In conclusion, I feel that it is easier to make friends in Canada, but it is easier to form close friendships in Korea, because Canadians tend to be friendly to everyone, whereas Koreans aren’t as friendly to strangers, but are very close to their friends.

  48. Making friends overseas?
    Heard of this thing called ‘church’? :D
    Works for me every time….

    Other ideas:
    - Join a local language class (eg. Korean class). You’re bound to meet a bunch of foreigners that way
    - Join a foreign language class (eg. English class). Sounds stupid if you’re already fluent, but there you’ll find lots of local people who will be eager to speak English.
    - Join some sports group, gym, aerobics class, or even go regularly to the neighbourhood park, even if it’s just to read a book. Handy for finding people with similar interests
    - Develop a routine walk around the area, and greet people with ‘good morning’ everyday. Eventually someone will remember your face and might even stop and talk….dunno might not work for everyone.
    - Make some internet friends in the area via some nice forum like eat your kimchi lol, and meet up with them.

    But yea. Proactive.

  49. Okay, I have been here for almost 9 months and I live in the small city of Yeosu (yes where Expo is) and I’ve made so many friends! I found out that there are facebook groups specifically made for foreigners in particular cities…wayguks/waygooks. I’ve connected with many foreigners this way and have met them either at English speaking service at a Korean church or at other small gatherings. I have to say that I have never been to the foreigner bar here (I don’t drink but I do refuse to go anyways…I wanted to be more among the Korean ppl and culture). Well, I have many foreign friends and also Korean friends. I tend to visit coffee shops and other places and just start up conversations with random ppl I meet. Just by saying hello in Korean instead of English and attempting to speak the little Korean I knew really warmed ppl up to talking with me. You are in a foreign country so why don’t make the effort to just talk with them…yes you will get Korean ppl that just want to practice their English with you so it would seem not very meaningful but I’ve actually built some great relationships with Korean people and they have helped me alot. It’s a once ina lifetime experience don’t pass it up because of fear!

  50. Oh gosh, i was rly hoping that making friends in korea would be easy… Lol, I rly wanna go to korea and live there sometime, let’s hope i get a good friend over there in the distant future!

  51. Don’t forget church! Going to a good church in Korea is a great way to meet foreigners and Koreans, and you already have common ground. ^_^

  52. this may have been answered already but why did you guys go to korea?

  53. Hi! So, since you’re in Korea, there must be much more k-pop fans, right?
    What kind of music does Korea listen to? Is it all k-pop? ^w^

  54. can we be best friends? hehe
    going to korea next summer.. :D

  55. i love Korea but.. im scared, the more i learn about this country the more i find out just how discriminating it can be. why can’t people just do that they want..? i’ve always wanted to go to Korea.. but im a strange enough person in my own country, i can’t even imagine what the ahjummas will say about me.

  56. I lived in Paris for awhile as an au pair, and I made friends either a) through Live Journal, b) an ex-pats forum and c) the OMG YOU’RE A FOREIGNER WHO LIVES HERE sort of thing in random markets in the small area I lived in off the beaten path in Paris.

    I made LOADS of friends that I’m still close with whom I ADORE through the “OMG YOU’RE A FOREIGNER” path. It’s amazing how well that works. When you’re so lonely because you don’t have anyone else that speaks your language or even seemingly cares about things that you do. It’s so nice.

  57. So you like settlers of Cattan – here is cupcakes of Cattan – http://youtu.be/OrV9QNwXxKA

    A good way to meet people is to join boardgame groups.

  58. Best way to make friends would be to star playing World of Warcraft or Starcraft II :P

  59. omogosh editing! lol
    love you guys. i’ll completely be your friend.
    <3s from n.jersey (no, i'm not orange but junsu makes me fist pump)

  60. I have been trying to make friends with this girl from South Korea (she is a foreign exchange student). She is way super awesome but she is 2 years older than me. I feel like she doesn’t like me… Is there some activity that allot of Koreans like to do during the summer? I don’t think she has made many friends at her new home and I want to be her friend.

  61. Oh, c’était si pénible et ennuyeux d’apprendre le français ? It makes me sad to learn that… Anyway, thank you for your video!

    *Yeah, I wanna be your best friend! So, do I need to inform you when I will go to Korea? ^^*

  62. Last year, I decided to visit Korea alone. I made arrangements to stay in a korean host family and I made korean friend BEFORE leaving for Korea.
    I went to a language exchange website and I wrote to single korean girls who had the same age as me.
    Also, we have a Korean/French club in Montreal. I attended the language workshops and made some korean friends. They went back to Korea so I met them over there! Thank God I did!
    The host family daughter was supposed to hang out with me but she was working all the time! Because I met some friends before leaving, I was not alone at all during my trip. I had many opportunities like going to Busan with the friend I met in Montreal. She showed me her hometown and I stayed at her parent’s house for free. Her mother made crazy awesome Korean breakfast every morning!
    My trip would have had a very different outcome if I did not have any friends. The culture shock and the jet lag can be very overwhelming especially if you are traveling alone. And yes, I watched many k-drmas, listened to k-pop and ate an astronomical amount of Korean food. I thought I was prepared but it hit me in the face that I was alone in a foreign and also very far country. I almost cried when I met my friend Soohyun! A familiar face! I was so happy that she was there!
    Be careful when meeting people on the Internet. When meeting in Korea, always go to public places. I also think that it is safer for girls to be friends with girls only.
    Cheers!

    • Hey Majorie! I have a question for you- how did you set up your host family? I’m going back next semester and I would really love to live with a host family versus alone. If you see this I would really appreciate your help :D

  63. if, hypothetically, you ever find yourselves having kids, would you raise them in canada or korea?

  64. Oh, come on. Simon and Martina arleady answered the question about the baby.

    Quote:
    “Because mong-mong isseoyo.”

  65. I moved from Holland to England (which is pretty much on the other side of a small channel/sea) yet I experienced some similar issues. I had been studying English since forever, yet making friends with English people was still really difficult. Because I did not have the language barrier, but I did have a cultural barrier. I found that it was indeed easier to connect with other foreigners (although they might be more difficult to spot in England than in Korea). So I think making friends in another country is always awkward, although not necessarily ‘difficult’. It’s just different :)

  66. As a foreigner who LOVES Korean culture, language and KPOP I’ve found that my knowledge/straight up love for all has been an ice breaker both in Korea and here at home. Here in America I’ve formed strong bonds with people who love KPOP, have met my best friends through it and know many who like what I do. Also, when I was in Korea I made friends with Koreans through the same way ^___^ I guess that’s been my experience! :)

  67. How did you guys learn Korean?

  68. lol loved your honest approach about this aspect of a foreign’s life in korea. and when i hit seoul i’m definitelly writing u guys to be my best friends!

  69. Well, there are a lot of methods on how to make friends, but I believe that since you guys are far away from your confort zone, you need to use outside of the box tactics to get to know the Korean culture, language, etc. So that is what I think ^~^

  70. That’s exactly the same in Japan!!
    Btw Martina, is it just me or do you really look thinner??

  71. I totally understand the vampire thing… but for me it’s that I’m Australian and meet many Koreans here but they are usually just on working holiday visas, so they stay for 1 or 2 years and then leave and I’m left alone and having to make more Korean friends… Luckily the Korean guy I ended up marrying managed to stick around…

  72. mm i want to move to South Korea in about 3 years from now where i’ll be 23? we have to become friends!!!!!! :D no worries i’m planning on staying there forever and never moving away XD lol

  73. I just moved to Taiwan to teach English and I was lucky to come here with many Taiwanese contacts. I’ve been adopted into a family so I’m in with their connections too. Haven’t met any fellow foreigners yet but I’m sure that will change. Sooo, one way I guess is get adopted :)…sort of :) Ooo and I am a total Settlers fan!!! Couldn’t fit it in my suitcase :( . I hope I meet someone here to play it with.

  74. Oh, and I have a question about interracial marriages in Korea. I heard that there was this one MBC documentary that REALLY dissed interracial marriages but I never watched it, so I can’t be sure. But is it true that people look down on interracial marriages/children in Korea? Because that might kill my dream of marrying a Korean D:

    • omg i hope this isn’t true D:

    • I think Koreans nowadays are more lenient with interracial marriages but some are still strongly against it. I’m Korean and I’ve lived in the states since I was five. I know a lot more about the American language and culture so of course I wanted to marry an American man (my thoughts have changed, though). I asked my parents if they would accept an interracial marriage in their family and they both said no. My mother said she would like to cook Korean food like kimchi-jjigae and samgyeopsal for my husband but wouldn’t be able to if he was white. My dad just said no because it would be more . . natural (?) for me to marry a Korean man. Oh well, I’m not complaining (anymore). ^0^

      • You could still cook Korean food for white people. It’s not like someone’s race prevents them from eating something! lol. Sorry, I just had to point that out because I thought it was really funny.

        • This is true. My mom’s Korean & my dad is black, and my dad loves Korean food. My mom cooks Korean food ALL the time, and even makes her own kimchi that she sells to the Korean community here (in Sacramento), because the Korean stores here pale in comparison to my mom’s kimchi recipe. :P

    • That would be super sad… Then i can’t go to korea, live there… u get what i mean.

    • if the family is very conservative and traditional, yes interracial marriage is looked down upon, but these days it has become more and more accepted, especially by the younger generations

    • is this the one you’re talking about? This one caused quite an uproar among foreigners in Korea apparently, especially those with Korean spouses
      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nsNHYYrvMrk

      • Yes that is the one I’m talking about! I just watched it now and tbh it looked staged and scripted!!!! Maybe it wasn’t but it just really seemed that way. I just want to know the viewpoint of people actually living in Korea rather than this show which may or may not be telling the truth, but in the end only has the opinion of what seems to be a few close minded Koreans. Nobody has the right to judge all Koreans off of this, but I would like to know Simon and Martina’s opinion, from what they’ve seen

    • you should watch kbs love in asia.. i really like it..and the mbc, i guess that there are some problem when come to interracial marriage..but its is not major prob..

    • I am the product of an interracial marriage between an African American man and Korean woman. My parents were married around 1980, so times may have been a little harsher to them when it comes to being in this mixed race marriage. I lived in Korea for a few years of my childhood, and my mom’s family showed me, my sister, and my dad so much love – spoiling us with food and toys and so on. I never felt like I was being judged, even by strangers. When my sister and I went to Korea last year (MANY years since we last lived there), there were a couple of “Whaaaa?” moments from strangers, but I then realized that perhaps the reason I didn’t feel or notice anyone judging me was because my mom was quick to tell people “Move along. This is none of your business,” and she probably did that throughout her whole motherhood and marriage to my father. She’s basically what you’d call a “cool mom.” LoL

      Like with anything, this situation varies from people to people, place to place. You’ll find people who are completely open or completely closed off to the idea of interracial marriages. But these marriages do exist, and if you really want one, you will probably have a chance of it happening.

      • wow that’s so cool!! And yes, there are closed minded people everywhere, and I don’t want to seem as if I’m pointing fingers at Korea. I’m just curious as to how it is there, and you answered my question quite well! But for example, did you go to school there and stuff? There’s so much I’m curious about, if only I could go to Korea and see for myself xD

        • I went to a small Christian school close to Seoul that was attended by mostly children of Army couples, like me and my sister. There were a few Korean students and teachers as well. From what I can tell, that school grew and still accepts multicultural students – it’s now called International Christian School in Uijongbu. This is probably due to it being close to US and Korean military bases. There are non-religious schools in Korea that are open to multicultural students, I believe, and they’re likely close to or are in Seoul.

      • That’s cool! I’m also half Korean on my mom’s side and I never EVER felt judged by my family members… not once! However, I do remember having a bad experience with Koreans outside of my family. I never actually understood why when I was a kid that people seemed to be tense around me, or rude… I just knew that I was me, and that’s it. As I got older (like literally, by high school age), I started to become aware of my bi-racial label, etc., and racism. I live in Sacramento, and it’s one of the most diverse and racially mixed places in the U.S., so honestly I was never really aware of racism until a later age. Lol.

        But I remember a memory of me as a kid in Korea… at that time my family lived on the second floor of an apartment in Seoul. You have to climb concrete steps to their building. I fell down the stairs and was crying and messed up… and people pretty much just walked past me. As a kid, I thought maybe they were just being mean in general. But now that I’m older and aware of racial issues, I can’t help but wonder if it was because I was a foreign kid and/or black…? But MEH… the past is the past. I do wonder how blasian kids are treated in Korea, though. I know that mixed white and Korean kids are generally viewed as cute because they have Asian features, but with big pretty eyes and light skin, which Koreans generally love. Whenever I watch variety shows where “pretty foreign kids” are shown, they are always mixed with white… so I’m curious to know what Koreans think, today, of Koreans mixed with black…?

    • This question was briefly answered in their “TL;DR – dating in Korea” video

    • I am married to a Korean man and we have 2 kids and we have lived in both Korea and in America and I think that currently, in Korean, the attitudes towards interracial marriages are similar to those in America. There is a general acceptance on the society level that there is nothing wrong with interracial marriages (which is something that has really REALLY changed over the past 10-20 years) and interracial couples and children are a pretty common sight around Korea these days. However there is a LOT of variance when it comes to people’s personal opinions. Some people are totally okay with it and see it as normal, some people think that its fine for other people but just not for themselves, and there are still some people that aren’t comfortable with the idea and feel like its a betrayal to the Korean heritage. Personally I haven’t come across anyone who has really been against interracial marriages, not even amongst my husband more traditional relatives that live out in the country. In fact, people have said that after seeing how happy me and my husband are together, they are more open to the idea of being with someone outside of their race. So there is no straight, clear cut answer to your question except that it varies. But honestly if you meet a Korean man or woman that you really like and likes you back and is open to building a life together with you, chances are they come from a pretty open minded family who will be equally open to the idea, so don’t stop dreaming ;)

      • thanks, that made me feel a lot more confident!!!! :)

      • Yeah, it’s DEFINITELY changed in the years! I’m actually surprised that my parents were able to have a really grand wedding in Korea during the 70′s, being that my dad is not only a foreigner, but black. They had a really beautiful wedding, and even though it was controversial, my mom’s family supported her. They had both a traditional Korean wedding, and a modern one. If my mom was able to marry a black American man in the 70′s, then for sure the times must have changed considerably nowadays… although I don’t have first-hand experience, because I haven’t been there in a while. However, according to family and friends who live in Korea currently, or have visited recently, there are a lot more interracial marriages in Korea now, with a larger foreign presence… but they do say that white foreigners are still more tolerated than black ones. I really wonder about this, because I will be visiting my family next year, and want to live and work in Korea… but I’m honestly a little wary of racial discrimination.

    • I am originally from South Africa, but I met my Korean wife in Australia while backpacking. We are now living in Korea and before we moved here we were very worried about how people were going to treat us, being an interracial couple. The reason we were worried is because in Australia whenever we met any Korean men and they found out I had a Korean girlfriend (before we were married) they would stop talking to me and actually ignore me if I spoke to them, this happened to both my wife and by at least 15 different people in Australia. So we were nervous, but strangely since we have been in Korea (5 months now) we have yet to have anyone treat us any differently, except for all the children who love to run up and say hello (very cute). Most people will just be very curious. On another note I teach quite a few interracial children at my Hagwon and no ones treats when any different, in fact everyone always comments on how cute they are.

      Loving Korea so far hope it all works out for you.

    • I am a Korean, and since the YouTube video attached was deleted I don’t know what the documentary is about but I suppose it may be mainly about the interracial marriage happens in the countryside..
      Interracial marriage in Korea, it is just like what you’ve read from the other comments, but it is a bit different when it comes to countryside, or it is not a love marriage. 

      There was severe sexual discrimination in Korea, so at the age of 30~40 people, male population is a lot higher. And also the population in Korea highly concentrated in Seoul. So, living in countryside, as a farmer or something like that, there are many people who don’t get married with Korean women. But they still want to marry someone, then they choose to marry with women from another country. 

      Some one from Vietnam, Philippines, or Koreans who live in China(called 조선족 chosunjok). There are some businesspeople who introduce those people to Korean middle-aged men. Some one decide to marry a foreign women they’ve only seen in a photo the businesspeople offered. 
      And!! there are even bad guys who deceive foreign women that they will introduce a job in Korea and let them make a lot of money for their family. They take some money from both the men and the women as brokerage. Men for introducing their wives, women for introducing a job. 

      In this kind of marriage, what they(men and the men’s family) expect from the foreign women is to work with them as a farmer, have babies, and do the chores for the family. Of course, many of them fall in love with their husband before or after they get married,  beloved by the family and live a happy life. But also many of them treated as working machine and the family look down on them because they are foreigner and from somewhere they think not rich.  
      And Korea traditionally have severe conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so the foreign women will be physically attacked by both their husbands and mothers-in-law. 

      This is a severe social problem so there are help centers for these people, but it is not enough. That’s why those documentaries were made I think. Actually there have been many documentary programs about this problem and sometimes people punished( for hitting and abusing, or for deceiving), but still it is a problem. 

      There are also several dramas about interracial marriage, and documentaries showing happy life of interracial marriage couple living in countryside, so if you want to FALL IN LOVE with Korean guy, then you can still have dream.

      sorry for my bad english ㅠㅠ hope all you understand what i meant.

    • Good Day to you :)
      My father is Korean whilst my mother is a White American woman. I was born here in Seoul and lived here till age 4. I have a Korean name and take more after my father. Sure, it helped in lessening the social stigma I received; but, people would always give us stares when they saw our family walking around town.

      My father’s family wasn’t too liking of my his decision to marry my mother and they eventually got divorced when I was 4. I then moved back to America with brother and mother.  Even there, we would get stares from people. Imagine, a white blonde woman walking around with her two Asian looking kids. People even thought we were adopted.

      I moved back to Korea at the age of 14 when my mother remarried and I had to stay with my father. My father was so afraid at first that my brother and I would be discriminated for being a half-breed mutt (a very derogatory term used against us), and so, he never told other people that our mother was White since we were very Asian looking minus the height. He even asked us to hide that fact from other people and ordered us to tell other people that our real mother was dead if anyone asked.

      Yes, it was that harsh but as I grew elder, I started to realize that people nowadays don’t really care about this. Most of the people you see who still discriminate against these kind of things are mostly the older people who aren’t used to foreigners and all these “new things”. I won’t sugercoat my words and lie because sure, there are a few people in the young generation who would be against this and I do have met a few people who hate foreigners who want to marry Koreans.
      But, let’s face reality; this is all over the world and not just in Korea.

      If you are happy, then don’t let anyone have the right to stop you :) Cheers. Love is blind.

  75. Being all social and proactive is kind of not my thing, I’m more of an introvert and I like having a few close friends who I’ve known for a while. At the same time, I do love meeting new people but it’s hard for me to just approach them /: I think a good way to make friends in Korea is through SNS, I mean I’ve met SO MANY k-pop fans through twitter and I’m not even the social type. Plus once you meet people on twitter, for example, you can all plan a trip to Korea together or even meet people who are living IN Korea. I know that right now most of my k-pop friends on twitter are still in high school (like me) or college and can’t really travel to Korea but i DO know that we all have that dream. So maybe one day all of us k-pop fans can go to Korea and chill together? It’d be cool b/c we’d be like this big group of foreigners supporting all of our favorite idols and just touring Korea and stuff. Personally, that’s what I’d really like to do. I’ve become pretty close with my twitter k-pop friends and would love to meet them. And what place is more fitting for k-pop fans to meet up than Korea? :)

  76. I was practicing my Korean in art class when I made my freind. She was the first person I have meet who recongized Korean instead of calling it Chinese or Japanese or “My own made up language”… :O

  77. What is it like being a married couple in Korea? I’ve known a lot of foreigners who have gone to Korea but they’re always single and will either find some one in Korea or just leave. So since the social rules are different how is marriage different?

  78. I met a Korean friend on the bus. She asked me to tutor her in English, I said I couldn’t because it was against my immigration policies, so she just asked if we could hang out. Amazingly she and I have a lot in common and even though we communicate through her dictionary a lot, we have a great time together sharing cultures. Oh yeah, and my dog, Tucker, makes more friends than me. Everyone knows his name, pets him, gives him treats, and then they suddenly realize I’m standing there, awkwardly attached to his leash and they start talking to me.

  79. Also, for anyone in or near Seoul, there’s an international party every Saturday (usually) in Hongdae, Shinchon, or Gangnam. It rotates. But the parties are pretty fun. You go to a bar, pay a fee (in Shinchon and Gangnam it’s 20,000 but that pays also for beer/soju, fried chichen, and french fries. Hongdae is usually 5,000 and buy your own drinks). But it’s open to everyone. Usually about 1/2 of the people there are Korean natives and the other half forgeiners and everyone speaks in English (unless you want to speak another language of course). And there’s free addmission to a club afterwards. Last time I went, we went to Club Eden. It was awesome. I’ve made some very nice friends through this. So if you’re feeling lonely or just wanna have a good time, it’s pretty fun. See their website:
    http://www.meetup.com/The-Seoul-English-Party/

  80. I would like to know why do people from korea like to add me on facebook and sometimes ask me to post something on their wall so their friends will be jealous ._.

  81. Living in Daegu, over the last 4 months I’ve found it very difficult to make new friends… It was really sad. I try not to stick with foreigners, that’s one reason. When I see a foreigner, even near where I live, I give them no special attention… It’s not that I don’t want to be friends with foreigners, but I want to make friends who actually properly live here -as you have both experienced having friends leave- (because I plan to stay) and most of all, I want to practice Korean!!

    So, I asked a friend of mine who goes to the local university to post a message on their forums asking if anyone would like to do language exchange or just be friends, and I got many replies! It was the best way I could imagine to make friends in Korea =]

  82. When I move to Korea, will you be my friends?? Pweeeeeaaasssse

  83. I think that making friends in Korea is on one hand easy thing and on the other not really. The difficulty is that majority will end up as ‘hi-bye-hi’ friends by which I mean that you hang with them only from time to time. It’s not that you suck or they suck it’s just that it doesn’t go deeper then that. To meet ‘true’ friend is harder thing to achieve as Korean don’t seem to befriend quickly…on the level I trust you and tell you all my secrets and vice-versa. Above applies to the situation when you already meet someone but as to how/where to meet……maybe some of you will find that weird but I met some of my friends via twitter, facebook etc. and just after that we met f2f. Also when you have one real friend in Korea you will soon be introduced to his/her friends and your ‘circle of connections’ will grow rapidly. The thing you guys propose about starting a convo with other 외국인 seems an option….I’ve never tried it yet…BUT if I’ll meet you guys by chance on the street of Seoul I’ll definitely try it :) Ohh…and also living in a guesthouse,hostel and like give you a chance to meet other wackos who came to Korea just like you and befriend them…so there are many options, but the most important thing is to be open and go out!!!

    p.s. I don’t know what is your opinion on it….but for me it is somehow harder to befriend with Korean girls then guys….tho I need to admit I was lucky to meet some cool 언니s too ^_^

  84. I live in Singapore but I have a Korean friend (who left the school, sadly*le cries*) and we became friends quickly. But would it be different if I were in Korea? I mean I would still be considered a foreigner in Korea though I’m Chinese. :S

  85. Oh, god. When I have to explain to people that you’re bloggers, I usually just tell them; “Oh, Simon and Martina are friends of mine who blog about their life in Korea.” To save from sounding nuts to people =_____=9 aish, nonetheless, you guys really ARE my friends~!! Oh, and your accents are rubbing off on me too. People at work (esp. the Canadians I work with) are starting to notice~~~ LOL!

  86. A QUESTION FOR YOU:
    You sometimes refer to yourself as NERDS or GEEKS, but which kind of nerd are you really? Only the Korean culture and/or poetry type or do you like science stuff as well? If you do can’t you pick a subject within MATH or PHYSICS to talk about?

  87. have you guys ever get lost first time coming to korea? did you guys ask for help from korean people? i got lost one time and this couple help me find the way to my guesthouse at hongdae! i owed it to them :)

  88. A great discussion, guys! This issue is a diverse one with as many solutions as there are people who’ve experienced it. Having been here in Korea for a long time now, I find that making friends is exactly like dating…you just have to get out there with the mindset of finding new people. Also, I’ve had lots of luck with piggybacking on other people’s connections. Having the fortune to be asked something like, “Hey, my friend is having a birthday party and well, do you wanna come?” has gotten me further than I ever expected. People here are always curious and engaging, really, and it’s awesome! PS: I met the best friend I have in Korea when I knocked over a display at Home Plus and she looked up, thinking it was her fault. It was totally mine.

  89. Again the whole cutting off the baby thing…… :((((

  90. When I was in China I was in a school with 7 other foreigners so we all were friends but sometimes when we went out and saw another foreigner around our age it was so easy to just come up and talk to them so I think it is easy.

  91. You really like to troll us with the baby question huh?

  92. Martina and Simon live in Seoul right? I think it’s infinitely harder to make friends when you live outside of a big city. I don’t see another foreigner for days…. And the native people I run into are a bit wary of foreigners/ they have absolutely no interest in English. I live in Japan, not Korea, but I think it’s the same concept. Living way out in the middle of nowhere can make a big difference.

  93. When you cut off at the baby part, it makes me think that Martina is already pregnant or something. hahaha jk troll like a buffalo! I love it! :D

  94. Since you’re not teaching anymore, how do you get your visas and what kind of visas do you have?

  95. thisisjustforfunval

    I got very confused for a moment why a TL:DR because I thought it was Friday. Woohoo to late night partying on a Tuesday night because tomorrow is the 4th of July and no work tomorrow :D

  96. Whenever you guys cut off about the baby thing, it’s making me think that Martina is already pregnant or something. hahaha jk

  97. kekeke, yeah this “Wow~ there is a foreinger!” happen to me in korea very offen (tall, blond = easy to spot.) At the beginning it creeped me a bit, but now its normal. You stand up in the subway and you will hear if there is another foreigner on the sub. =D My korean friend find it funny that other foreigners get more exciting to see a forgeiner than koreans.

  98. in chicago, ive actually made a ton of korean friends searching for japanese friends to practice language exchange, they introduced me to their english school classmates and invited me to parties and everyone was really interested in me because im one of the few american friends they’ve made outside of school. so im hoping when i go to japan and korea, i can hook back up with everyone and they’ll take care of me :)

  99. Maybe I only know a little about it, but it seems to me that the foreigner experience in Korea is soooo different from the foreigner experience in Japan and I think that’s strange. I lived in Japan for just over 2 months in 2010 and I spent a lot of time wandering around Tokyo. I found that unless I was formally introduced to another foreigner, I was mostly ignored by them completely, nobody ever spoke to me even if we made eye contact on the train! That was a strange experience because I was really alone in Tokyo and I saw foreigners everyday but I was never approached by them and I didn’t really feel comfortable or welcome to approach them! (The exception to this is the few times other foreigner men tried to pick me up… but that’s all). I spoke to my other foreign friends about the weird relationship between foreigners in Japan and they said that attitude is common, like foreigners in Japan sort of act like they don’t really want to associate with other foreign people, unless they are a JET member or something like that. Anyways, just something I noticed!

  100. When my mom was living in Korea she was a hair designer so I think she made friends by talking to her customers. But most of her friends she met through church. Also, maybe it was just my mom but she was friends with any age people. Maybe I’m wrong, I can’t remember clearly. >_< Well maybe you are right, both my parents' best friends were their school buddies.

    This is from a Korean point of view, by the way.

  101. Making friends? EASY… Get your phone. Get some Kpop. Turn up the volume.
    I made about 3 unnies doing that with my friend xD since it’s normal for us to be blasting kpop music randomly anyways. We find the closest person and play the music to wait for their reactions.

    Strategy Recap:
    *playing SHINee~Sherlock and dancing a bit too much like Key*
    indonesian fan: IS THAT SHINee?!?!?!
    me&friend: Ah yeah! SHINee! Do you like them?
    I.F.: I LOVE BIG BANG! TOP! WHOOT!
    me&friend: OMG US TWO!
    *New friend, MADE.*

    life story, told.

  102. If you’re enjoying Settlers that much, you’d probably love Ticket to Ride. There’s even a fan-made Canadian expansion! http://www.boardgamegeek.com/boardgameexpansion/123300/ticket-to-ride-canada-fan-expansion-for-ticket-to
    (yes, that url is complete.) They probably have it here: http://www.boardm.co.kr/shop/main/index.php

  103. Martina your hair is very SHINee in this video haha <3

  104. Did you guys have a huge orientation when you came to Korea in EPIK? For us here in Daegu we went to a large orientation where we met everyone teaching in our city. During that time we all formed a lot of friendships that have lasted the entire time we’ve been in Korea. So for me it was pretty easy making other foreinger friends in Korea because of that orientation. I would say for incoming English teachers make sure you really put yourself out there during orientation so that way you can make some friends before you go to your school and are more isolated.

  105. When corporal punishment in schools was still legal in Korea, how did you feel about it and while teaching did you ever have to conduct phyiscal punishment?

  106. You guys are such trolls :D but we all love you anyway :) also, do cultures often mix in Korea? It seems like you guys do have Korean friends, but you also talk about foreign bars and stuff.

  107. I wish you did have kids so we could hear your perspective on certain topics. I’m married with two little ones and am wondering if english speaking daycare for one and preschool for another is affordable on two incomes. Or if its better for one parent to stayhome.


  108. The same thing can happen with making Korean friends: they’re excited to see a foreigner and are excited to speak English.” i personally think that is only true if u are a NON-ASIAN foreigner. (example: american of chinese descent). I was in Seoul a few weeks back with my family and no Koreans approached us. We easily walked past everything as if we were Koreans and everyone else treated us as Koreans (or if they discovered otherwise, immediately speak mandarin) BECAUSE we look Asian. This may sound a bit nitpicky and i’m a great fan of u two so don’t take this the wrong way but i think whenever u two talk about foreigners, u may want to make it clear what kind. Caucasian foreigner? African-American foreigner? European foreigner…..etc etc.

    • I taught in Korea for two years in the same city as Martina and Simon and though it might be slightly harder for non-asians to make korean friends but I think that really depends on the person. My best friend was actually Asian-Canadian and had no problem making friends with foreigners or Koreans. Though he needed to approach foreigners instead of the other way around, it was as simple as him introducing himself. And for making friends with Koreans it was the same. Once they found out he was foreigner and that was the reason they wanted to be his friend (English), they were just as excited. Korean are used to the different asian ethnicity they meet actually being from their country of ancestry and not immediately just to them being from a English speaking country. They are just as likely to meet someone from Japan or China than America ect, actually more so.

  109. I live 30 minutes from Bucheon on line 7… let me know when you want to get SCHOOLED in Settler of Catan FOR REALZ YO, y’all going down Canadian style

  110. You guys are sooo mean :( lol but I love your videos so its alright…tee-hee.

  111. ” The thing of having babies………” How could you guys do this! It’s torturing!

  112. when she said proactive my mind couldn’t stop thinking of acne them stupid ads on tv

  113. My husband says, “Can we please play Settlers of Catan with them?!?!” We live 30 minutes away!

  114. I’ve been able to make many friends by going to a taekwondo studio where the instructor speaks English.

  115. Eeeeh. Do you think it’d suck to teach over there for a year, by yourself? I mean, without a boyfriend/girlfriend/friend-friend. Sounds depressing but I really want to teach in Korea. It’s just noone else in my group of friends is interested in Korea / teaching. It’s depressing and although I like to think I am sociable, I like to have a bud to bounce socialness off when meeting new people. TT___TT Otokae.

  116. I’ll be you guises friend! I live here fulltime and only have Korean friends, I would like some foreign friends! Gotta catch em all! haha

  117. OMG TROLL ENDING AGAIN
    XD

  118. I tend to think I am suuuuper awkward interacting with people (but I’m sometimes just hyper self-critical like that >.>) I usually make friends through other friends or by cracking (probably very lame) jokes during lectures at school or breaks at work. I do want to teach overseas if I don’t get into Teachers College and probably even after I get my BE I would teach overseas because there are seriously no teaching jobs in Ontario unless you can teach French…or Math…or Science, none of which are my majors. How hard was it moving essentially half-way across the world? And would you have ever considered it if you were going alone?

  119. Haha, the same was in Japan, even as an exchange student, i was pretty lonely since i didn’t speak japanese for the first 3 months.. And when i saw a foreigner i was like Here Here!!

  120. I love you guys! I am half korean and have never met my relatives I because my mom (Korean) passed away when I was 13, but I love the food and try to hold on to anything Korean that I can. I have no idea about the Korean culture except some memories when I was younger so watching your videos has been an awesome adventure and has taught me things I would otherwise have never known. Thanks for your videos and I hope to be as happy with someone some day as you two are! Keep up the GREAT work!!!

  121. I WANT TO BE YOUR BEST FRIEND!

  122. Are you having a baby?!?!?! Stop the suspense!!!!!

  123. I WANNA BE YOUR GUISE’S BESTFRIEND ……WE COULD SHARE LUNCHES AND MY MOMS KIMCHI AND TALK ABOUT KPOP AND STUFF….not that i don’t have any friends or anything…. no ….cuz I’m totally popular and stuff………..(*forever alone* D:)…..

  124. Ahhghg why you do that about the “babies” topic? I think you both are young & have a few years more to think about having children, so i’m not in this “Y U NO HAVE BABIES” fever that’s going around. But It kinda bothers me that abrupt cut on the video because I’m just to curious about it.
    I love you guys, you’re awesome, I love your humor. I’ll send you some stuff (so tasty & sexy stuff *WTF?!*) soon. Argentina loves you~♥

    *sorry for the bad english, It’s a bad combination of high school level of English and Google Translator… I can’t help it*

    • I think your English is great!

    • Your English is fabulous!! Don’t be so hard on yourself! I’m actually minoring in British Literature at university, so if you ever feel like asking me any questions about grammar or if you think something’s wrong and need an extra eye to look over it, I’d love to help you out! Learning English is a bit of a bear. :) My Spanish is actually very poor, I haven’t spoken it in five years… :/:/ So maybe we can help each other!! :D

      • Thanks :D, i learned a lot by myself watching movies, the level here is very low quality, if you want something good have to go to a private institute and pay a fortune for it. Thats the way education works in this country.
        Ohh spanish is a pain in the ass, and is my native language so.. I know is a pain in the ass, so many ways to say the same damn thing.
        Thanks for the proposal. I don’t really know how this “comment” system works for keep in touch with you ^_^Uu but Mari Park is my facebook name, feel free to add me :D

        • Haha, yeah, I’m not sure if there’s messaging on disqus, but I friended you on facebook!! (My name’s Haley Forte!! omg, foreigners UNITE)
          Really? That’s so unfortunate, but that’s how college is in the US. Usually, our high schools are public and you have “zones”. For example, if you live in the more swanky side of town you’ll be zoned for one high school, but if you’re in the more crappy side of town, you might be zoned for another school altogether. Unfortunately, It can become very income- divided. :/:/
          I’ve been taking French for a number of years now (4 to be exact~~ and I really, really like it! ^_^ ), it’s get’s really confusing sometimes because I’m trying to learn Korean on top of the Japanese I’ve learned from watching TV!!! It’s crazy!!

        • Waa テレビで日本語を勉強したか?すごいね~ 私は五年間ぐらい日本語を勉強した.
          Well, I’ll talk to you on facebook later :D

  125. Sometimes when I’m watching your videos, I like to pretend that we’re already best friends. Is that creepy?

  126. YAH ! Talking about Quebec in the article ! ♥ I love your videos, and I’d love to see more TL;DRs ♥ I’m a big fan, and I’m the owner of the unique Spudgy page on Facebook ♥ Thanks for being awesome !

  127. I would be so forever alone if I were in your place since I am *not* the type to approach people or be open to strangers for very long. Both in my home country and while I was in Korea, if anyone talks to me, I tend to try to end the conversations quickly with a smile – kind of like, “Ha ha, ok, going over here now~ :D” That’s not to say I’m not nice or can’t converse with random people – I just prefer to keep to myself or my group. This is why any time my friends and I joke/scheme to move to Korea, it goes without saying that we’d plan to be there together – never on our own. xD;;

    How “strict” is the friending by age group thing? I know that Martina said that she didn’t have a problem breaking from Korean norm, but is it otherwise difficult to make friends in different age groups?

  128. Skiboarding should totally be in the Winter Olympics, it sounds awesome :)

    ETA: You guise are the worst teases.

  129. What made you guys initially want to go to Korea to teach? I think you said you really didn’t know much about the culture until you got there, so was it just random chance and opportunity that made you decide to live and work there?

    • I think this was explained in another video. If I find it I will link you. Simon used to work at a school in Canada that was Korean or something like that and when GEPIK or something went recruiting they signed up. Its an older video.

  130. SETTLER’S OF CATAN !! Wahh, such a good game. Once you play it, its hard to go back. ;P

  131. Catan is so epic! Best game ever XD

    and for the Halloween song, is it “C’est l’halloween”? OMG I remember learning that song in elementary school! Now it’s going to be stuck in my head though DX

  132. whhhaaatt !?? you know french !? i was trying SO HARD to write my comments in english for you XD if i’m able to live in korea, i will be forever alone :/ i’m too shy to approach someone i don’t know… Avez-vous aimez le Québec ? :D

  133. and that’s why I don’t have much friends in Korea, or anywhere else… in the world =/

  134. I was in Korea last week staying with a friend, and she brought me to a social event called a CouchSurfer’s meeting. I’d never heard of the kind of thing before, but it turned out to be a gathering of people in a bar or cafe in a city just for the purpose of getting to know each other and have good conversation! While most of the people who attended the meeting were travelers from different parts of the world, there were also many people who were foreigners living and working in Korea who were there. There were also quite a few Korean locals who were there for the purpose of making foreign friends and learning/improving their English! Everyone was there with the intention of making new friends and acquaintances, and a quick Google search can quickly point you in the direction of current CouchSurfing events. Just a heads up for anyone bold enough to make friends this way! :D

    • I did the same thing when I was in Korea too! I messaged a couchsurfer & asked whether he’d like to meet cause we kinda felt lost in the city. He then brought us for dinner and to a language meeting at a cafe & we met a ton of people there :D

    • Just wondering, what is the general age range of the people at these events? Are they in their 20s, 30s, 40s etc?Because as Martina stated earlier in this video, age really matters! :)

  135. Dear Simon,
    Will you be my best friend? :D

  136. simon, martina…? Can I be your best friend?? *puppy eyes*

  137. You have CATAN!!! DId you bring it to Korea? My husband and I love board games but cant find any here!

  138. best friends woo hoo omg also 2nd post hiiiiiii!!!!!!!

  139. haha i want to know this too:)

  140. Sorry, just to point out there are a few typos in the article ;/

  141. I feel this way living in korea. I don’t have very many friends in korea that I didn’t meet through fandom and I wish I could make friends that weren’t fandom friends. To make it worse, I’ve moved far away from my old friends in Suwon and I have a hard time making friends in my new area because I’m pretty much the only foreign teacher in my school…

    BUT the best way to meet new people is really just going up to random foreigners. Unfortunately there doesn’t seem to be many where I am either D: or maybe i just don’t see them?????

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