August 31, 2015
I’m actually quite excited about this topic. Different cultures have different concepts of what’s important in a marriage, and though the two of us care very much about promoting happiness in marriage and relationships, I’m sure that our values don’t align with everyone else’s. How different is our understanding of what’s important in a relationship from Korea’s understanding? Well, hopefully this video answers some of it (and not just for Korea, because we have lots of people from other countries using our video booth as well!).
I do have to say, though, that if I had hopped in the video booth before I met Martina and had to answer the same question I’d give the same answer as many people: I’m not getting married. No way, no how. I hated the idea of marriage. I saw only bad examples of marriage growing up, and I wasn’t going to do that to myself. But, you know what? I met Martina, and I knew within a month of dating that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. And I was ADAMANT about how much I didn’t want to get married before meeting Martina. ADAMANT. I even wrote essays about why marriage is stupid. But then I met Martina and ripped those essays up. When you meet the one, you just know it.
But if I had to say hi to Martina ten years ago, say hi to my future spouse, I’d tell her to prepare herself for a life far more wild than either of us imagined, pursuing careers that didn’t even exist yet, living in countries we had no intention on living in, traveling to cities we didn’t even think much abut beforehand. I’d thank her for making this all possible, for being a beacon of light and happiness unlike anything I’ve met in any person since, and I’d thank her for choosing me even though she could probably have picked 1000 other guys significantly cooler than I am. It’s something I still thank her for today, every once in a while, not too often because that’d be weird. And now this post has gotten weird so I’m gonna stop.
To everyone else that has something to say to your future spouses, I like the answer of “I hope he has muscular arms” Ha!