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This was such a fun and easy TL;DR to film! We’ve been to quite a few weddings in Korea (but we have yet to go to a super traditional wedding). This TL;DR wasn’t too opinion/reflection on the meaning of life based, so we didn’t rack our brains over it at all, we just hopped in front of the camera for this one and told our stories while acting silly…because we mightttt have had too much coffee and chocolate milk. BUT YOU CAN’T PROVE ANYTHING!!!

Anyhow, there’s not much more for us to say about this TL;DR topic via our blog post. We covered a lot of what makes Korean weddings special in the video itself. We’re really quite torn about what side we prefer, though. Korean weddings are a bit too short and lack that specialness, but Western Weddings are sooo long and sometimes too much “specialness” is placed on making the wedding day itself perfect…OR ELSE! I mean, we could go on about how sucky some Western weddings are, especially when a bridezilla is involved, but I think we all already know about that. So let’s talk about things we don’t like about Korean weddings!

The extreme rushedness of it all kinda sucks. We’re not joking when we said that the wedding hall staff would start cleaning up while the wedding is still finishing up. It’s so rushed that it feels extremely impersonal. What we find especially shocking is that people will talk on their cell phones or chat with each other during the wedding ceremony, but at the same time food is also being served. I just feel like it’s weird to eat or talk while my friend is exchanging wedding vows. Plus, it feels like some of the things that are deemed important in a Western wedding like, for example, catching the bouquet, are used in Korean weddings but stripped of all meaning. For example, every Korean wedding I’ve been to so far, the bride threw the bouquet to just one planned person who is standing alone. I was like…umm…what? Shouldn’t there be a hilarious battle between all the single ladies to try at catch it? And the cake cutting I also found odd, because it should be at least EATEN. I’ve yet to see the bride and groom or anyone at the wedding actually eat the cake! It was just literally cut for pictures, and then wheeled away. Besides the quickness of the ceremony, the wedding day pictures are actually taken months before in advance in a studio. Now this might be my old fashion weddingness talking, but I still like the idea of the groom not seeing the bride in her dress, but in the Korean case, the groom and bride both see each other all dolled up way in advance. That kindof takes away the specialness to me, but then again, the specialness is really the wedding dress, and if you aren’t buying a wedding dress, I guess it really doesn’t matter if your groom sees you in a couple in advance, right? I do like how once the ceremony is over, the now married couple will change into traditional Korean outfits, right down to those lovely rubber shoes!

Now the more traditional parts of the Korean wedding are awesome, but we have yet to see it in person! If you’re really close to the family, you might get to experience 폐백 (pehbaek) which is a more traditional ceremony involving lots of cool symbolic things, like greeting elders and exchanging chestnuts and other foods which are symbolic of the couple’s union. It can occur right after the wedding (once everyone else has left) or on a different day all together.

We might be biased (just a little) when we say that we still like our wedding story the best. Not too personal, not too small, and ended off with partying with celebrities. MUCH BETTER STORY, IN MY OPINION! Here it is below, if you haven’t seen it yet:

 

Also, like we said before, we haven’t been to a super-traditional Korean wedding, only the fast wedding hall style. We have no idea what those are like. Are they longer than the ones we went to? Has anyone been? Let us know in the comments!

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  1. Elliewing

    totally of topic but i want to know about martina’s crown ring, because it is amazing~

  2. I’m from Finland and here weddings are, I guess, mostly the same as in America or Canada. But, they print a certain phone number or two to the invitation, usually both mother-in-laws’ personal cell phone. People call them to say yes or no to the intitation and ask them what the wedding couple wants for weddings gifts and they are given a list of items the couple have themselves made and they pick one. Then the moms “overline” the item some people said they are going to purchase. This way the couple don’t exactly know what they are going to get but they aren’t given many same items either. Hopefully this made some sense since English is not exactly my virtue :D

    P.S. Popular wedding gifts in Finland are different kind of coverlets (they are kind of valuable in Finland), silverware and tableware, small kitchen electronics and basically everything else you need to start a household.

  3. there’s a lot of christian weddings done in churches in korea. lot of koreans are Christians. then you’ll get the whole “waiting during the boring procession” thingie. Not so sure about buddhist wedding though, i’ve never seen it

  4. since watching k-pop and korean tv shows, i have come across english words that only koreans use and are not even in the english dictionary. words like s-line, v-line, skinship… i am just curious how these english words came about since koreans are not a predominantly english speaking people.

  5. I went to a wine festival in September. Half of the hall was rented out for a wedding at the same time. I’m having a relaxing wine foot bath when I hear explosions behind me. That’s right… pyrotechnics… at the wedding!!! *blink blink*

  6. I’m Chinese and from Malaysia, the chinese wedding here in Malaysia are a little similar. It’s held in a giant hall (lol) and there are loads of tables, but the thing is there is a name list and the list shows which family/friends blahblah etc. sits at which table. The table closest to the stage (it looks prettier compared to the other tables haha) are for the bride and groom’s parents and siblings. The tables after that are for relatives that are really close. Basically, the closer you are with the bride or groom, the nearer your table is from the stage. We also give an envelope filled with money before entering as a gift, not too much but not too little as well. When we are seated, we usually chat with the people around us and also with people from other tables. We don’t know most of them as some of them might be their friends or something. Then, the waiter will start serving drinks/beer and dishes to every table. The dishes are really big, and everyone has to/can take a portion of the dish, not every single person will get their own dish D: Usually, there’ll be some emcee talking on the stage, but I usually just eat while they’re talking, haha :p Then there’ll be performances or sometimes, a sideshow showing photos of the couple taken at the studio/beach/park idk blahblah. And while these are happening, everyone will be eating lol. Then when it’s time for the couple to come out, everyone will have to stand up and start clapping, while the couple walks up the stage. Then they’ll cut the 3 layers cake and yep :( no one eats it lol. But the knife wasn’t like a samurai sword hahaha it was more like a normal knife, then they’ll invite the bride and groom’s parents up the stage and together with the guests, they’ll toast three times saying “Yum Seng!” lol and the “Yum” has to be dragged as longggg as possible for THREE TIMES. The first goes to the guests, the second goes to their parents and the last Goes to the bride and groom. Just like the Korean wedding, they’ll go to every table and thank them for coming but they can do it for as long as they want. After that, they’ll change into another outfit, not traditional clothing but the bride will change into a lighter outfit but look something like the wedding gown.

  7. I’m Chinese and from Malaysia, the chinese wedding here in Malaysia are a little similar. It’s held in a giant hall (lol) and there are loads of tables, but the thing is there is a name list and the list shows which family/friends blahblah etc. sits at which table. The table closest to the stage (it looks prettier compared to the other tables haha) are for the bride and groom’s parents and siblings. The tables after that are for relatives that are really close. Basically, the closer you are with the bride or groom, the nearer your table is from the stage. We also give an envelope filled with money before entering as a gift, not too much but not too little as well. When we are seated, we usually chat with the people around us and also with people from other tables. We don’t know most of them as some of them might be their friends or something. Then, the waiter will start serving drinks/beer and dishes to every table. The dishes are really big, and everyone has to/can take a portion of the dish, not every single person will get their own dish D: Usually, there’ll be some emcee talking on the stage, but I usually just eat while they’re talking, haha :p Then there’ll be performances or sometimes, a sideshow showing photos of the couple taken at the studio/beach/park idk blahblah. And while these are happening, everyone will be eating lol. Then when it’s time for the couple to come out, everyone will have to stand up and start clapping, while the couple walks up the stage. Then they’ll cut the 3 layers cake and yep :( no one eats it lol. But the knife wasn’t like a samurai sword hahaha it was more like a normal knife, then they’ll invite the bride and groom’s parents up the stage and together with the guests, they’ll toast three times saying “Yum Seng!” lol and the “Yum” has to be dragged as longggg as possible for THREE TIMES. The first goes to the guests, the second goes to their parents and the last Goes to the bride and groom. Just like the Korean wedding, they’ll go to every table and thank them for coming but they can do it for as long as they want. After that, they’ll change into another outfit, not traditional clothing but the bride will change into a lighter outfit but look something like the wedding gown. The guest continues to enjoy the food and performances and that’s all. At the end, the couple would stand at the exit and thank everyone for coming again.

  8. 코알라

    No cake?!? The rest of it seems pretty awesome though. NA weddings always seem awkward to me. Everyone just sitting in rows staring, waiting for it to be over as it drags on and on so they can eat. But still, no cake D: And 21’s not a prime number!

  9. Hey Simon and Martina! I would like to if you guys ever had Vietnamese food in Korea? If not, you should try some. Vietnamese food is DELICIOUS! ^ ^ Also, I wanted to know, if are there Vietnamese restaurants in Korea? (If not, now I know why you never had some) Hehe. I was just wondering because I’m Vietnamese, (btw, I can never pronounce it right………. I always say it so weirdly) and one day, I would like to go to South Korea but if I were craving Vietnamese food while I was there, would there be any restaurants that I can go to? If there are some, I think you guys should go there and make videos about it but if there’s not any, it’s okay, because I can go to all the other restaurants Korea have and eat there. LOLs.xD

  10. Rachel O_O

    Hi :D So. My parents are completely approving of me moving to Korea for college in August (I’m going to be attending Yonsei Universty. >:0 Omg so friggen happy) and then they heard some crappy news report about the unopportunistic environment for women in Korea. I believe that this is not true, but I would like to get it straight from the source. Is korea just a smidge i don’t care if its like a gram, sexist? >_< omg.

  11. Haibara Christie

    Wow, it’s interesting to see how you guys think that Western Weddings are long; Traditional Indian Weddings can last anywhere from 2-3 days! For me, Korean Weddings seem to be ridiculously short…

  12. Ernie Perdi

    Buenos Días, como estan los niños y niñas de EYK: How big is genuine leather in Korean Fashion?, jackets, coats, pants, wallets, handbags etc. is it easy to find, is it expensive, is it considered a luxury or does everyone wear it arround.

  13. Hello Martina and Simon, first I wanted to say: Ahoj! …that’s greeting in my language (I’m from Czech republic, right next Poland :) ).
    And give you a question for TLDR: What are some Korean legends, myths, fairy tales and superstitions like for example nine tail fox ??? thank you very much a.sharp

  14. Bonjour ! Could you talk about business ? I was wondering how it is for foreigners to create a start-up / firm in Korea. Bisous.

  15. You should see our weddings in Saudi Arabia… Its like, from 10 to 3 at NIGHT….

    And nobody eats until the bride and groom come and then the buffet hall is open..

    Usually each wedding has its own huge hall… Its either that we’re rich or theyre cheap ^^

    I wish that I could go to a traditional korean wedding… aah

  16. I heard a lot about Sasaeng fans stalking their idol. they chase their Idols in taxis and they would do anything to get close to their idol. Have you heard the news about the sasang fans? Have you seen them around Seoul?

  17. Sunnnakko

    I was wondering…from everything u said I take it there is no party after the ceremony?..cause if so,that really sucks -_-

  18. Since you guys are English teachers I’m guessing you love literature. Can you do like a little overview of Korean literature? Like which are the greatest or the most influential Korean writers in Korea itself and overseas.

  19. did you know brad before he went famous?

  20. christal hatake

    k-wedding are COOL((maybe because I’ve never been to a PROPER wedding 0.0)) –> my question is that How did Kpop/Eatyourkimchi changed your life? when did you start listening to Kpop & HOW-from where or from who-introduced you to it?+ what do you think of it now?/what was your first kpop group you listened to? …..sorry if it too extended >__<…. additional Info( I just wanted to know because i found kpop back in 2009/2010 by anime ost and TVXQ/DBSK 5 '(share the one world') were my first Kpop group and know i'm just a KPOP FAN like you guys especially Inifinite & EXO<3<3 …thank you !!

  21. Eff, in Japan if you give $100 for your wedding money gift you look BAD. $300 is the standard, and my husband told me employers will often give $500.

  22. that buffet style wedding hall thing is like the perfect setting for a k-drama meet cute! :D

  23. I always wondered about the money system in Korea.. Like when you go out
    to eat or eat any place or buy anything, is it mostly a paper
    money/cash country? Because I am so used to just paying with my
    credit/debit card in the USA. Is there a big difference? Like if I was
    to visit Korea or live there should I be prepared to always carry cash
    on me?

  24. I misunderstood the Contact section.. So I will comment again on here. That was a mistake, Sorry S&M!

    I was wondering how winter in Korea was like. Since you guys lived there for a while, I think you have will offer a good opinion. I am planning to study abroad in Korea for the Fall, but then I realized that it would mean harsh and almost unbearable winters, as my friends told me. I, for one, am a person who can’t stand the cold all the time and snow most of the time. Should I reconsider to studying in the spring semester instead to avoid the cold weather? What are some good points to living in Korea in the winter?

  25. Sounds extremely efficient but not very memorable. and the cake?!

  26. I was invited to two Korean weddings (both coworkers) in the span of like two weeks and after I went to the first one I was like “I think I’ll pass on the second…” I don’t know; to me, the best part of weddings is the reception, and as they don’t really have those in Korea, it kind of takes all the fun out of it for me, haha. And wedding buffet food is not great, either. So, in short: no dancing, and bad food? Yeah, I’ll stay home. :/

  27. Omg this is so true. I have a ton of Korean friends, and some of them invited me to their/other friends’ weddings (traditional white weddings, I live in Australia). While I’m sitting there I can always hear a lot of other Korean people like ajummas and ajusshis saying (in Korean) things like “Why is this taking so long”, or like “Where’s the food”. It’s hilarious.

  28. What is religion like in Korea? What have your experience with religion or religious people been like?

  29. fuuko4869

    I got the Right Said Fred reference. lol.

    But that’s just because I saw the Jeremy Renner version :p http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s78B0nWKqos

    2NE1 is not a prime number.

  30. My best friend is engaged to a Papua New Guinean. I went with her and her mother to PNG for their traditional wedding ceremony which is called bride price and that lasts for a week!!

    In the past (before colonisation) the husband to be and all of his family (immediate, extended and distant relations) had to compensate (using traditional currency and particular foods and animals) the wife to be’s family for taking the girl from her home to his village. I think compensation was for the fact that a lot of the duties in a village was done in gender groups (I get the impression that women seem to do a lot more work then the men). Anyway they’ve seemed to have kept the tradition more or less in tact but with colonisation there have been some changes.

    I come from a similar culture (Solomon Islands) and we have the same
    tradition but I had never been to a one before.

    Anyhoo my best friend is Australian and her bride price was a little different because we participated in some stuff that the wife to be wouldn’t normally be a part of. Her fiancé said that was only because he wanted her to see what it was like. As i said the whole thing lasted a week and ended with a daylong feast which included the traditional wedding ceremony. It was a lot of fun, and very interesting and my best friend absolutely loved the whole thing. Unfortunately it isn’t a legal ceremony so they are technically not husband and wife yet.

    So…yeah…they still have to get legally married but in his families eyes they are basically husband and wife.

  31. VIP_Aplus

    My dad’s friend got married to a Korean woman, whose father was a descendant of a noble or royal family, and they insisted on a traditional Korean wedding.
    He said that at one point he had to hold metal chopsticks and bow and he accidentally dropped them so they made a huge clanging noise while the room was completely silent. Apparently everyone laughed, but he was super embarrassed.

  32. Barry Adams

    I don’t know if the Korean’s do the wedding photos like the Chinese, but the Chinese wedding photos are basically a photo shoot. The wedding photo company has an array of traditional and modern clothes for the couple to wear and they take all their pictures during the photo shoot. So you don’t really wear your wedding dress for the photo shoot. But you get some nice framed photos and a well designed wedding book.

    You also have pictures of the ceremony, but in China, the bride has to have at least 3 outfits during the entire wedding ceremony/reception.

  33. I’m Australian but I have a Cambodian background. The traditional weddings we have are seriusoly long. The bride and groom change outfits about five times and the outfits are tight, you can’t even freaking walk in them, you can’t breathe n them and you will die in heat if your in them.

    What interested me was the thing about the money. The traditional weddings we have are pretty much the opposite of korean weddings. Only friends being gifts and families then put money. My family, only made out of four people, two being children, usually give around 500 dollars at weddings were are kind of close to.

    Well… Wen i travel to Korea, I’m definitely going to crash a wedding :)

  34. kpopfan123
    kpopfan123

    “because we mightttt have had too much coffee and chocolate milk. BUT YOU CAN’T PROVE ANYTHING!!!” XDD

    “I just feel like it’s weird to eat or talk while my friend is exchanging wedding vows.” Yup.

    “Shouldn’t there be a hilarious battle between all the single ladies to try at catch it?” that sounds dangerous *imagining the worst case scenario*

    Your wedding was the best wedding in the world! *^*

    P.S: Simon, I like your arm-warmers? XD

    ♥♥ ♥ ♥

  35. hapagirl

    I kinda want a Korean style wedding orhow my cousin and his wife did. They had the wedding around noon and it was just family and then everyone else came for the reception that was at night. I still think the actually wedding part should be for family and friends kinda like how Graduation should be. Party is when you can invite everyone.

  36. The money you’re supposed to bring is so little. In Japan it’s basically the same, just with one zero more: $300 for friends, e.g. Going to weddings here is really expensive (though you always get gifts from the bridal couple).

  37. GrapeJuice

    What is crime like in South Korea? Is there a lot of drugs, rape, murder, etc.? And if there is, is it as known about and reported on as crimes in North America?

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