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This was such a fun and easy TL;DR to film! We’ve been to quite a few weddings in Korea (but we have yet to go to a super traditional wedding). This TL;DR wasn’t too opinion/reflection on the meaning of life based, so we didn’t rack our brains over it at all, we just hopped in front of the camera for this one and told our stories while acting silly…because we mightttt have had too much coffee and chocolate milk. BUT YOU CAN’T PROVE ANYTHING!!!

Anyhow, there’s not much more for us to say about this TL;DR topic via our blog post. We covered a lot of what makes Korean weddings special in the video itself. We’re really quite torn about what side we prefer, though. Korean weddings are a bit too short and lack that specialness, but Western Weddings are sooo long and sometimes too much “specialness” is placed on making the wedding day itself perfect…OR ELSE! I mean, we could go on about how sucky some Western weddings are, especially when a bridezilla is involved, but I think we all already know about that. So let’s talk about things we don’t like about Korean weddings!

The extreme rushedness of it all kinda sucks. We’re not joking when we said that the wedding hall staff would start cleaning up while the wedding is still finishing up. It’s so rushed that it feels extremely impersonal. What we find especially shocking is that people will talk on their cell phones or chat with each other during the wedding ceremony, but at the same time food is also being served. I just feel like it’s weird to eat or talk while my friend is exchanging wedding vows. Plus, it feels like some of the things that are deemed important in a Western wedding like, for example, catching the bouquet, are used in Korean weddings but stripped of all meaning. For example, every Korean wedding I’ve been to so far, the bride threw the bouquet to just one planned person who is standing alone. I was like…umm…what? Shouldn’t there be a hilarious battle between all the single ladies to try at catch it? And the cake cutting I also found odd, because it should be at least EATEN. I’ve yet to see the bride and groom or anyone at the wedding actually eat the cake! It was just literally cut for pictures, and then wheeled away. Besides the quickness of the ceremony, the wedding day pictures are actually taken months before in advance in a studio. Now this might be my old fashion weddingness talking, but I still like the idea of the groom not seeing the bride in her dress, but in the Korean case, the groom and bride both see each other all dolled up way in advance. That kindof takes away the specialness to me, but then again, the specialness is really the wedding dress, and if you aren’t buying a wedding dress, I guess it really doesn’t matter if your groom sees you in a couple in advance, right? I do like how once the ceremony is over, the now married couple will change into traditional Korean outfits, right down to those lovely rubber shoes!

Now the more traditional parts of the Korean wedding are awesome, but we have yet to see it in person! If you’re really close to the family, you might get to experience 폐백 (pehbaek) which is a more traditional ceremony involving lots of cool symbolic things, like greeting elders and exchanging chestnuts and other foods which are symbolic of the couple’s union. It can occur right after the wedding (once everyone else has left) or on a different day all together.

We might be biased (just a little) when we say that we still like our wedding story the best. Not too personal, not too small, and ended off with partying with celebrities. MUCH BETTER STORY, IN MY OPINION! Here it is below, if you haven’t seen it yet:

 

Also, like we said before, we haven’t been to a super-traditional Korean wedding, only the fast wedding hall style. We have no idea what those are like. Are they longer than the ones we went to? Has anyone been? Let us know in the comments!

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  1. Elliewing

    totally of topic but i want to know about martina’s crown ring, because it is amazing~

  2. I’m from Finland and here weddings are, I guess, mostly the same as in America or Canada. But, they print a certain phone number or two to the invitation, usually both mother-in-laws’ personal cell phone. People call them to say yes or no to the intitation and ask them what the wedding couple wants for weddings gifts and they are given a list of items the couple have themselves made and they pick one. Then the moms “overline” the item some people said they are going to purchase. This way the couple don’t exactly know what they are going to get but they aren’t given many same items either. Hopefully this made some sense since English is not exactly my virtue :D

    P.S. Popular wedding gifts in Finland are different kind of coverlets (they are kind of valuable in Finland), silverware and tableware, small kitchen electronics and basically everything else you need to start a household.

  3. there’s a lot of christian weddings done in churches in korea. lot of koreans are Christians. then you’ll get the whole “waiting during the boring procession” thingie. Not so sure about buddhist wedding though, i’ve never seen it

  4. since watching k-pop and korean tv shows, i have come across english words that only koreans use and are not even in the english dictionary. words like s-line, v-line, skinship… i am just curious how these english words came about since koreans are not a predominantly english speaking people.

  5. I went to a wine festival in September. Half of the hall was rented out for a wedding at the same time. I’m having a relaxing wine foot bath when I hear explosions behind me. That’s right… pyrotechnics… at the wedding!!! *blink blink*

  6. I’m Chinese and from Malaysia, the chinese wedding here in Malaysia are a little similar. It’s held in a giant hall (lol) and there are loads of tables, but the thing is there is a name list and the list shows which family/friends blahblah etc. sits at which table. The table closest to the stage (it looks prettier compared to the other tables haha) are for the bride and groom’s parents and siblings. The tables after that are for relatives that are really close. Basically, the closer you are with the bride or groom, the nearer your table is from the stage. We also give an envelope filled with money before entering as a gift, not too much but not too little as well. When we are seated, we usually chat with the people around us and also with people from other tables. We don’t know most of them as some of them might be their friends or something. Then, the waiter will start serving drinks/beer and dishes to every table. The dishes are really big, and everyone has to/can take a portion of the dish, not every single person will get their own dish D: Usually, there’ll be some emcee talking on the stage, but I usually just eat while they’re talking, haha :p Then there’ll be performances or sometimes, a sideshow showing photos of the couple taken at the studio/beach/park idk blahblah. And while these are happening, everyone will be eating lol. Then when it’s time for the couple to come out, everyone will have to stand up and start clapping, while the couple walks up the stage. Then they’ll cut the 3 layers cake and yep :( no one eats it lol. But the knife wasn’t like a samurai sword hahaha it was more like a normal knife, then they’ll invite the bride and groom’s parents up the stage and together with the guests, they’ll toast three times saying “Yum Seng!” lol and the “Yum” has to be dragged as longggg as possible for THREE TIMES. The first goes to the guests, the second goes to their parents and the last Goes to the bride and groom. Just like the Korean wedding, they’ll go to every table and thank them for coming but they can do it for as long as they want. After that, they’ll change into another outfit, not traditional clothing but the bride will change into a lighter outfit but look something like the wedding gown.

  7. I’m Chinese and from Malaysia, the chinese wedding here in Malaysia are a little similar. It’s held in a giant hall (lol) and there are loads of tables, but the thing is there is a name list and the list shows which family/friends blahblah etc. sits at which table. The table closest to the stage (it looks prettier compared to the other tables haha) are for the bride and groom’s parents and siblings. The tables after that are for relatives that are really close. Basically, the closer you are with the bride or groom, the nearer your table is from the stage. We also give an envelope filled with money before entering as a gift, not too much but not too little as well. When we are seated, we usually chat with the people around us and also with people from other tables. We don’t know most of them as some of them might be their friends or something. Then, the waiter will start serving drinks/beer and dishes to every table. The dishes are really big, and everyone has to/can take a portion of the dish, not every single person will get their own dish D: Usually, there’ll be some emcee talking on the stage, but I usually just eat while they’re talking, haha :p Then there’ll be performances or sometimes, a sideshow showing photos of the couple taken at the studio/beach/park idk blahblah. And while these are happening, everyone will be eating lol. Then when it’s time for the couple to come out, everyone will have to stand up and start clapping, while the couple walks up the stage. Then they’ll cut the 3 layers cake and yep :( no one eats it lol. But the knife wasn’t like a samurai sword hahaha it was more like a normal knife, then they’ll invite the bride and groom’s parents up the stage and together with the guests, they’ll toast three times saying “Yum Seng!” lol and the “Yum” has to be dragged as longggg as possible for THREE TIMES. The first goes to the guests, the second goes to their parents and the last Goes to the bride and groom. Just like the Korean wedding, they’ll go to every table and thank them for coming but they can do it for as long as they want. After that, they’ll change into another outfit, not traditional clothing but the bride will change into a lighter outfit but look something like the wedding gown. The guest continues to enjoy the food and performances and that’s all. At the end, the couple would stand at the exit and thank everyone for coming again.

  8. No cake?!? The rest of it seems pretty awesome though. NA weddings always seem awkward to me. Everyone just sitting in rows staring, waiting for it to be over as it drags on and on so they can eat. But still, no cake D: And 21′s not a prime number!

  9. Hey Simon and Martina! I would like to if you guys ever had Vietnamese food in Korea? If not, you should try some. Vietnamese food is DELICIOUS! ^ ^ Also, I wanted to know, if are there Vietnamese restaurants in Korea? (If not, now I know why you never had some) Hehe. I was just wondering because I’m Vietnamese, (btw, I can never pronounce it right………. I always say it so weirdly) and one day, I would like to go to South Korea but if I were craving Vietnamese food while I was there, would there be any restaurants that I can go to? If there are some, I think you guys should go there and make videos about it but if there’s not any, it’s okay, because I can go to all the other restaurants Korea have and eat there. LOLs.xD

  10. Hi :D So. My parents are completely approving of me moving to Korea for college in August (I’m going to be attending Yonsei Universty. >:0 Omg so friggen happy) and then they heard some crappy news report about the unopportunistic environment for women in Korea. I believe that this is not true, but I would like to get it straight from the source. Is korea just a smidge i don’t care if its like a gram, sexist? >_< omg.

  11. Wow, it’s interesting to see how you guys think that Western Weddings are long; Traditional Indian Weddings can last anywhere from 2-3 days! For me, Korean Weddings seem to be ridiculously short…

  12. Buenos Días, como estan los niños y niñas de EYK: How big is genuine leather in Korean Fashion?, jackets, coats, pants, wallets, handbags etc. is it easy to find, is it expensive, is it considered a luxury or does everyone wear it arround.

  13. Hello Martina and Simon, first I wanted to say: Ahoj! …that’s greeting in my language (I’m from Czech republic, right next Poland :) ).
    And give you a question for TLDR: What are some Korean legends, myths, fairy tales and superstitions like for example nine tail fox ??? thank you very much a.sharp

  14. Bonjour ! Could you talk about business ? I was wondering how it is for foreigners to create a start-up / firm in Korea. Bisous.

  15. You should see our weddings in Saudi Arabia… Its like, from 10 to 3 at NIGHT….

    And nobody eats until the bride and groom come and then the buffet hall is open..

    Usually each wedding has its own huge hall… Its either that we’re rich or theyre cheap ^^

    I wish that I could go to a traditional korean wedding… aah

  16. I heard a lot about Sasaeng fans stalking their idol. they chase their Idols in taxis and they would do anything to get close to their idol. Have you heard the news about the sasang fans? Have you seen them around Seoul?

  17. I was wondering…from everything u said I take it there is no party after the ceremony?..cause if so,that really sucks -_-

  18. Since you guys are English teachers I’m guessing you love literature. Can you do like a little overview of Korean literature? Like which are the greatest or the most influential Korean writers in Korea itself and overseas.

  19. did you know brad before he went famous?

  20. k-wedding are COOL((maybe because I’ve never been to a PROPER wedding 0.0)) –> my question is that How did Kpop/Eatyourkimchi changed your life? when did you start listening to Kpop & HOW-from where or from who-introduced you to it?+ what do you think of it now?/what was your first kpop group you listened to? …..sorry if it too extended >__<…. additional Info( I just wanted to know because i found kpop back in 2009/2010 by anime ost and TVXQ/DBSK 5 '(share the one world') were my first Kpop group and know i'm just a KPOP FAN like you guys especially Inifinite & EXO<3<3 …thank you !!

  21. Eff, in Japan if you give $100 for your wedding money gift you look BAD. $300 is the standard, and my husband told me employers will often give $500.

  22. that buffet style wedding hall thing is like the perfect setting for a k-drama meet cute! :D

  23. I always wondered about the money system in Korea.. Like when you go out
    to eat or eat any place or buy anything, is it mostly a paper
    money/cash country? Because I am so used to just paying with my
    credit/debit card in the USA. Is there a big difference? Like if I was
    to visit Korea or live there should I be prepared to always carry cash
    on me?

  24. I misunderstood the Contact section.. So I will comment again on here. That was a mistake, Sorry S&M!

    I was wondering how winter in Korea was like. Since you guys lived there for a while, I think you have will offer a good opinion. I am planning to study abroad in Korea for the Fall, but then I realized that it would mean harsh and almost unbearable winters, as my friends told me. I, for one, am a person who can’t stand the cold all the time and snow most of the time. Should I reconsider to studying in the spring semester instead to avoid the cold weather? What are some good points to living in Korea in the winter?

  25. Sounds extremely efficient but not very memorable. and the cake?!

  26. I was invited to two Korean weddings (both coworkers) in the span of like two weeks and after I went to the first one I was like “I think I’ll pass on the second…” I don’t know; to me, the best part of weddings is the reception, and as they don’t really have those in Korea, it kind of takes all the fun out of it for me, haha. And wedding buffet food is not great, either. So, in short: no dancing, and bad food? Yeah, I’ll stay home. :/

  27. Omg this is so true. I have a ton of Korean friends, and some of them invited me to their/other friends’ weddings (traditional white weddings, I live in Australia). While I’m sitting there I can always hear a lot of other Korean people like ajummas and ajusshis saying (in Korean) things like “Why is this taking so long”, or like “Where’s the food”. It’s hilarious.

  28. What is religion like in Korea? What have your experience with religion or religious people been like?

  29. I got the Right Said Fred reference. lol.

    But that’s just because I saw the Jeremy Renner version :p http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s78B0nWKqos

    2NE1 is not a prime number.

  30. My best friend is engaged to a Papua New Guinean. I went with her and her mother to PNG for their traditional wedding ceremony which is called bride price and that lasts for a week!!

    In the past (before colonisation) the husband to be and all of his family (immediate, extended and distant relations) had to compensate (using traditional currency and particular foods and animals) the wife to be’s family for taking the girl from her home to his village. I think compensation was for the fact that a lot of the duties in a village was done in gender groups (I get the impression that women seem to do a lot more work then the men). Anyway they’ve seemed to have kept the tradition more or less in tact but with colonisation there have been some changes.

    I come from a similar culture (Solomon Islands) and we have the same
    tradition but I had never been to a one before.

    Anyhoo my best friend is Australian and her bride price was a little different because we participated in some stuff that the wife to be wouldn’t normally be a part of. Her fiancé said that was only because he wanted her to see what it was like. As i said the whole thing lasted a week and ended with a daylong feast which included the traditional wedding ceremony. It was a lot of fun, and very interesting and my best friend absolutely loved the whole thing. Unfortunately it isn’t a legal ceremony so they are technically not husband and wife yet.

    So…yeah…they still have to get legally married but in his families eyes they are basically husband and wife.

  31. My dad’s friend got married to a Korean woman, whose father was a descendant of a noble or royal family, and they insisted on a traditional Korean wedding.
    He said that at one point he had to hold metal chopsticks and bow and he accidentally dropped them so they made a huge clanging noise while the room was completely silent. Apparently everyone laughed, but he was super embarrassed.

  32. I don’t know if the Korean’s do the wedding photos like the Chinese, but the Chinese wedding photos are basically a photo shoot. The wedding photo company has an array of traditional and modern clothes for the couple to wear and they take all their pictures during the photo shoot. So you don’t really wear your wedding dress for the photo shoot. But you get some nice framed photos and a well designed wedding book.

    You also have pictures of the ceremony, but in China, the bride has to have at least 3 outfits during the entire wedding ceremony/reception.

  33. I’m Australian but I have a Cambodian background. The traditional weddings we have are seriusoly long. The bride and groom change outfits about five times and the outfits are tight, you can’t even freaking walk in them, you can’t breathe n them and you will die in heat if your in them.

    What interested me was the thing about the money. The traditional weddings we have are pretty much the opposite of korean weddings. Only friends being gifts and families then put money. My family, only made out of four people, two being children, usually give around 500 dollars at weddings were are kind of close to.

    Well… Wen i travel to Korea, I’m definitely going to crash a wedding :)

  34. kpopfan123

    “because we mightttt have had too much coffee and chocolate milk. BUT YOU CAN’T PROVE ANYTHING!!!” XDD

    “I just feel like it’s weird to eat or talk while my friend is exchanging wedding vows.” Yup.

    “Shouldn’t there be a hilarious battle between all the single ladies to try at catch it?” that sounds dangerous *imagining the worst case scenario*

    Your wedding was the best wedding in the world! *^*

    P.S: Simon, I like your arm-warmers? XD

    ♥♥ ♥ ♥

  35. hapagirl

    I kinda want a Korean style wedding orhow my cousin and his wife did. They had the wedding around noon and it was just family and then everyone else came for the reception that was at night. I still think the actually wedding part should be for family and friends kinda like how Graduation should be. Party is when you can invite everyone.

  36. The money you’re supposed to bring is so little. In Japan it’s basically the same, just with one zero more: $300 for friends, e.g. Going to weddings here is really expensive (though you always get gifts from the bridal couple).

  37. What is crime like in South Korea? Is there a lot of drugs, rape, murder, etc.? And if there is, is it as known about and reported on as crimes in North America?

  38. wooow, that’s so different from what i’m used to! i’m indian and a lot of indian weddings are 4-5 hours long. and they usually start about an hour late so you basically spend a day of your life at someone else’s wedding, which i think is ridiculous unless you’re really close friends/family to the couple. personally, i don’t know if i would prefer this kind of super-efficient half-hour condensed wedding, but a happy medium would be perfect.

  39. I actually did a traditional wedding in Korea as well in Seoul at the Lotte World Folk Museum. Yes the museum. It was really fun. Hair, makeup, traditional band and singer, photography and video were included (they have different options). And the ceremony was not that long. I would say about an hour? Don’t remember exactly though as it was few years back.

    To explain a bit about the Korean traditional wedding, it all starts with the bride inside the “house” and the groom being carried in. The reason for this is that traditionally, the groom comes to pick up the bride from the bride’s home to take him to his home as she will now be part of his family and not her own anymore. So he comes to her house and that is where they hold the wedding ceremony in the courtyard of the bride’s home. When he comes, he has the Samul Nori (band/performers) in front leading the way as a celebration. For the actual ceremony there are different steps and all but it would make this post way~too long so I will just skip on that.

    After the wedding, the bride is now carried in the carriage to the groom’s home. At my wedding, my friends helped carry me with the employees to a room that was set up for photos before the wedding and now changed for the Pyebaek. Then there, they do the Pyebaek. Traditionally only the groom’s family participate in this ceremony. There, we bow to the husband’s parents/elders and some exchanges of Korean wine/soju and the parents provide them with a word of wisdom. The most highlighted part of the Pyebaek is the throwing of the jujubes and chestnuts. The grooms’ parents grab a handful of the jujubes and chestnuts and the bride and the groom tries to catch them with the bride’s skirt/cloths that covered the brides hand(not sure what this is actually called). These nuts are meant to symbolize children. So the jujubes symbolizes a boy and the chestnuts symbolizes a daughter. So depending on the number of jujubes or chestnuts, it is suppose to show how many boys and girls the newlyweds will have. This gets fun as they expect us to have 14children!

    While we were doing the Pyebaek, the rest of the guest who stayed and watched the ceremony ate at the buffet area. We handed a “food voucher” when the guests handed in the envelop and signed the guest book. This voucher worked as a head count to pay for the food after the wedding. And then we joined the rest of the guest and went from table to table to give our thanks.

    They don’t provide time for rehearsal but allowed us to come see a different couple’s ceremony and just don’t charge the family for the food that we ate at their wedding. So we got to “crash” a wedding before hand and got to see the whole ceremony and try out the food to make requests of adding or taking out certain options. In Korea, you definitely have to ask about these things because they won’t just offer them to you.

    *And a little share of knowledge: When bowing, females put their right hand over the left and males put their left hands over the right. Traditionally, even clothes were made this way. Women clothes had the right cover the left and men clothes the opposite. So if you look at the bride’s dress, the tying of the top portion of the dress is to the left as the right covers the left and the groom’s is the opposite. :-)

  40. Could you tell us something about your theme/background music and F-Art music? Do you make it all by yourselves or do you buy the rights for some of the songs? What about sexy intoxicating music?

  41. KATHyphenTUN

    “I just feel like it’s weird to eat or talk while my friend is exchanging wedding vows.”
    I can totally understand this happening! I went to a new years festival with my Taiwanese boyfriend’s family and he had warned me before hand that things get very loud. (I was thinking ok whatever its a festival of course this will happen, boy was I wrong!). It was EXTREMELY loud! haha But there was also a play/theater that was going on and many people talked outrageously loud over top of them, so you could not hear anything! I think things are just generally louder over there (election trucks!! XD haha)

  42. I was wondering if you guys could describe times you have been recognized on the street? What was the first time like? Can you describe some of your experiences with fame?

    Also, is there anyone who you wish watched your videos that doesn’t already?

  43. You alwasy talk about the awesomeness of the korean indie scene, but does korea also have a great hiphop scene. Also many idols( f.e. T.O.P, Zico,…) are talking about being underground rapper before, so what is their scene like? And is hiphop in korea as popular as in the western staates, for example hiphop is alwasy connected with bad manners and I thought, that image is not really an image I can connect with korea …Sorry for my bad English and greetings from Germany :)

  44. That would not fly in an East Indian wedding, 30 mins is not even enough time to get everyone settled down for the first DAY ceremony. They usually last a week, and its on the families of the bride and groom to make sure that there a decorator, hall, photographer, chef and service staff for every single day, it feels like you are going to a regular western wedding everyday and the going to the reception after… everyday…. until you actually go to the wedding and reception hahaha. This is so different from anything I have ever seen… Thanks for sharing! :D

  45. Wow, thank you for this! It was incredibly eye opening. I’m an American with a serious Korean boyfriend, and we’re talking about getting married (in the US). Now I’ve realized that his family is going to be CONFUSED AS HELL the entire day if we don’t explain things. You just saved us from a very uncomfortable wedding. Maybe they’ll be excited when I tell them they can have the cake :P

  46. PunkyPrincess92

    HONEY SENPAI!!!!!!!!!! >_<
    mmmmm…i want chocolate milk now!! i only have strawberry flabour right now….it'll do!!!
    wow that sounds like such a weird way of having a wedding!!
    the other type of wedding with the sitting in the same room as the bride and groom and getting food served sounds much more normal, like the ones i go to!! but i don't like going to weddings so the first efficient type sounds better!!! i'd just be able to go to eat the food and get back home quickly!!
    the weddings i go to last a few hours, obviously if you're really close to the bride or groom it's a full day thing!!

    random and this may be an odd question, but i've been wondering…… do you have ice cream vans in Korea?

  47. Interesting fact: Koreans actually often have 2 different weddings IN THE SAME DAY!
    They will have the westernised, with the white dress and all where they invite friends and colleagues, etc. And then afterwards they rush to change into a hanbok and have a more private wedding just with very close family and in traditional Korean style (yes just as you see it on historical dramas, or well almost).

  48. Oh man, latino weddings are like vigils, you know those very long masses that go well into midnight and all, You get to the place like at 9am for the mass or wedding which lasts a good 2 hours whilst the vows are being said and all that. Then there is the reception in which the bride and the groom dance, all the friends that walked in with them and the parents from both sides say something, which takes up an extra 2-3 hours and only THEN you might go and eat, by which time you are freaking starving and since they seat you by family you have to wait until your table is called,which is an extra hour depending on how many guests there are. Unless you are at a buffet, or there are waitresses you get your food quick xD. Everyone eats only after the bride and groom have got their plate, after 2-3 hours spent eating and they clear the plates the cake comes (which follows the same procedure as the food), by then its already 6-7pm. Then after that, DANCE PARTAY! until like 2-3 am XD and THEN you get to watch the bride and groom leave – They are not tedious at all though, and depending on who gets married, you are always bound to know someone or find old friends there. Dont ask me how that happens O_o All in All, I think Korea does them to fast, growing up in the latino culture I have been thought that marriage is the IT thing before the rest of your family life, as family is central to our culture, marriage is not to be taken lightly. I live in Los Angeles now, and far as I know, american weddings are the same? My cousin got married to a white dude recently and he asked her to do things the latino way, so yeah XD

  49. This sure explains all those k-drama weddings I’ve seen and hmmmmm-ed at! BTW Simon I’m really loving your new style! Awesome.

  50. Wow! They are really short and fast! I wished to go there at least I will not hear the sermon at the church! Ugh!

  51. Hi Guys, love the information you put out about Korea, Have you been able to shoot anything on the bus or subway rides, I think that would be interesting to see, ( also did you see your shout out on VIKI.COM ) it was in the music section . :)

  52. I’m a Korean and I’ve never been to the traditional weddings. The only time I heard that people have the traditional one done in a temple was either a foreigner getting married to a Korean or non-Koreans getting married in Korea. Btw, the amount of money given to the wedding reception depending on how close you are was spot on!

  53. I saw a Big Bang video, where they were asked if they’d rather go to the wedding of a friend or to their girlfired’s birthday. I was so shocked when someone acutally chose the birthday over the wedding and could not understand it. Now I get it a bit, thanx for sharing! :)

  54. Oh guys, i think that if you visit weddings in Kazakhstan, you will be definetly shocked!!! According to our traditions, wedding could last for more than 4 days!!!!!! And in my country lots of Korean have weddings in Kazakh style. It means that there sooooooooooooo many people, that it’s normal if you don’t know more than a half of guests=) oh yeahhh, that’s it=)) But the best part of weddings in Kazakhstan that there are lots of food,drinks and even when you are going home, you will be given bag of food=))

  55. I’m such a die hard romantic about weddings. There needs to be flowers! Cake! Dancing! But I won’t knock Korean weddings, because their approach is practical. Not everybody is as crazy as I am :P

  56. See? If you guys could have made it to our wedding back in 2011, you could have experienced the fully-traditional version! LOL
    ~~ and…
    BAM! Could have even been on KBS with us! ~~ http://youtu.be/SmuSJ7_VyO4 :)

    Great coverage of the wedding-hall style, by the way… so glad we didn’t do that! The “palli-palli” thing would not have sat well with us.

  57. Hi guys… I’ve a question…

    Does age play a significant role when dating korean men? For example: is it normal or common to find a korean younger man dating or marrying a foreing older woman?

    Thanks for the videos!

  58. It kind of reminds me of the description of my parents wedding – I can’t remember if she bought or rented the dress, but there was no big deal made over hair and make up, it was done by family, the wedding cake was made by family… I think it’s only in the last 20 years that weddings have become huge business (well, Ireland at least).

  59. This was so informative. Thank you so much Simon&Martina! Even though I’m a Korean I was raised in Vancouver since I was 9, so never had a chance to attend a Korean wedding. In fact, I’m attending my close friend’s wedding this March (yep.stoked.) and pretty sure I’m ready to rock this 30min madness.

  60. You spelt DETAIL wrong in your rant at 1.52…just sayin’

  61. About the amount of money. I’m from a Korean family (and I am Korean) usually when it comes to family it’s more than $100 more like in the thousands. Usually they give this in cash however family members give gifts such as fridges, aircons etc if they have a home. They give around $1000 in cash/cheque to help them start a new “life”. Honestly I find it excessive but it’s family and in the end when it’s my turn (when I get married in like a gazillion years) I’ll get the money back in some way or another. Also my family is not excessively rich either. It’s like this in most middle class families. Again like Simon and Martina said it’s ranked, as in eldest Aunt/Uncle will give the most and it will go down from there. But it’s definitely more than $100.

  62. I’ve been to a couple Korean weddings here too at the wedding halls. Never had the sit down and eat while the wedding is happening style tho. We have always gone and watched the wedding while its happening. One time we had to stand in the back because (as you guys mentioned) there wasn’t much seating. Another time we actually sat up close and were made to feel very important and part of the ceremony. We always went to the buffets after the ceremony and you’re right, its ALL super fast.

    The last wedding I went to, 2 of my Korean co teachers and I stayed at the buffet for 5 hours, just chatting away and drinking coffee, water etc. We didn’t even touch the soju hahaha anyways during that time period, 4 different sets of bride and groom with their guests came through the buffet. It was very interesting to watch.

    Some differences I can point out from an American style and a Korean style wedding are:

    1) people talk and sometimes even shout DURING the wedding ceremony. I have never been to one where the audience was quiet.

    2) since it is usually a (conveyor belt style) ceremony the decor is usually kept the same through out the day. So not only do the brides RENT the gowns but the decor is set by the wedding hall as well (with some choice from the bride as to color schemes)

    3) after the picture taking session in the small room, the bride will just walk out into the crowd of people and prepare with the groom to walk down the aisle. The groom will walk down first and wait for the bride. Then the mothers will walk down, then the bride with the father.

    4) I’ve been told the cake, is FAKE. The only part that is edible is the small top layer cake that is actually cut. And I don’t remember hearing you say this in the video, but the cake cutting is done right after the I DOs during the ceremony, not during the buffet or reception time.

    5) After the I DOs the bride and groom walk down the aisle, take some photos then walk back up the aisle, where basically the ceremony is over but now the group pictures begin. Usually family first group photos then friends and co workers etc…

    6) Then comes the bouquet toss: there is no toss haha usually ONLY the best friend of the bride will stand behind her, set up for a pic and then the bride tosses the flowers to the friend. No cat fights to see who will catch the bouquet. This also is done during the photo session.

    7) Everyone runs off to the buffet and you may or may not see the bride and groom again during that day haha but generally my friends always came around to the tables to say thanx and take pictures. One thing I did notice is the bride and groom didn’t stay to eat at the buffet with the friends and family.

    ** one last completely cool difference I noticed: the wedding album….

    The wedding album will generally be made to look something like a magazine shoot. 30+ card stock mounted photos of the bride and groom in different settings and poses. The bride will usually have 5 or more DIFFERENT gowns on during these photo shoots as well. And of course I’ve been told, the photos are usually ALWAYS photo shopped to make both the bride and groom look WONDERFUL. I personally, LOVE IT !! ^^

  63. I really appreciate for this video…Especially that word “Conveyor”, this word is totally correct and illustrate current problem of wedding process. Seriously, when I have a wedding, that place must be catholic church…they spend amount of money than you think…..Furthermore, it’s true some people who never meet just come there for each different purpose. It can be for showing human network to guest or something like that

    • irritablevowel

      I was going to ask about that next. I assume these Wedding Hall weddings are for people that are non-religious? I know that if you want a Catholic ceremony, you have to do it in the Church. No beach, flower covered meadow or mountain top for you. So I would imagine that a Korean Christian wedding probably looks more like a western style wedding, just out of necessity. You can’t eat or talk on your cell phone in a church, so you’d have to do a ceremony then a reception.

      • it depends on their environment or what their parents’s religion is……That wedding hall is general for every couple. However, some people who hate that Conveyor wedding(like me) and have an agreement from their parents or save money(wedding hall is freaking expensive!!) want to have a wedding in the church or the other place. There are many reason and many purpose. So I can’t explain exactly. Also…Wedding in special area such as beach or mountain in Korea is not convenience because of geographical characteristics…

  64. ahhahahah agree agree!!!! korean wedding is really in a rush lol. btw you guys r welcome to crash into MY wedding!!!! oh ya, they have fake cake……… sad :( I’ll have real big huge wedding cake on my wedding, + champagne lol

  65. Hi, im Korean and always enjoy ur videos ;) Just wanna say sth that u’ve missed in this video.. Haha Usually after wedding in western style, we move to ‘PyeBack room’ and do ‘Pyeback’. Groom and Bride dress up to Korean traditional wedding clothes and do traditional ceremony.. And after this ceremony, newly weds change their wedding hanbok to normal hanbok and greet everybody again.. They just skip Pyeback i think.. Haha Some ppl skip it but generally ppl do it.. ;)

    • I think they mentioned it in the blog – “Now the more traditional parts of the Korean wedding are awesome, but we
      have yet to see it in person! If you’re really close to the family, you
      might get to experience 폐백 (pehbaek) which is a more traditional
      ceremony involving lots of cool symbolic things, like greeting elders
      and exchanging chestnuts and other foods which are symbolic of the
      couple’s union. It can occur right after the wedding (once everyone else
      has left) or on a different day all together.”

    • irritablevowel

      You know, I think I read on a blog somewhere where this girl went to a Korean wedding in a hall, and was really surprised that people ate and chatted through the ceremony. She asked some other people there about it, and basically their attitude was, “Oh, this isn’t the real ceremony, so it doesn’t matter.” If you’re saying that there is a whole OTHER, more traditional ceremony that takes place, then that makes sense that the “western style” would be more casual.

  66. For some odd reason the whole buffet wedding of sitting down for 1/2 hour and eating and after that its done sounds relaxing to me. I am a girl that never had fantasies of going down the aisle with a beautiful gown and having a man in my arms by the end of the night, I prefer it to be super fast if I was going to get married. idk call me not romantic but I do not see the point of spending soo much money for one day because call me negative but most people that get married wind up getting divorced so if I were t marry I would do it very much cheap and fast because I don’t want to get divorced and feel stupid that I had spent hella money for an event that didn’t even function anyways. that’s just me though

    • More power to you!! I don’t think you should *have* to spend 500K on a wedding if you don’t to. I, personally, want a big wedding to show my honey how much I love her (because no girl is getting a ring from me unless I REALLY want to spend the rest of forever with her), but if she doesn’t, then I’ll go with her. The important thing is that both parties know that they love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives with each other. People these days get married just because, and that’s why you see divorces everywhere. Sorry for ranting as a reply to you, but I think you should have whatever wedding you want to.

  67. wow this doesn’t sound like much fun… everytime i’m at the wedding (polish, btw, so maybe simon would know what am i talkin abt… XD) i think that if korean would be invited for such wedding, it’d blow their mindddd…. so much drinking, dancing, fun, and yeaaaah whole night party. lol. i’d love to see their faces hahaha xDD

  68. In Singapore, weddings usually depend on your race like Malay, Chinese etc. In chinese weddings there are kind of two parts to a wedding. One is the traditional one where you do this serving tea thing to your elders and then the second part is the wedding dinner. Its kind of an event where you have to give the bride and groom your fullest attention for the whole day. It’s kind of sad to me hearing that korean weddings are so crazily rushed, its like people are just there for a while, some not even paying attention to the wedding since they’re maybe more occupied by the food.

  69. I just want to point out that if anyone here gets invited to an Asian wedding (Korean, Japanese, Chinese, Vietnamese, etc) in North American or Australia, or any Westernized country, giving the bride and groom $10-30 is not the acceptable. The best way to figure how much you should gift is that the amount given should equal roughly to how much it would cost to feed you at the wedding reception. On average here in Canada, I would say between $100-120/person. Also, cheques are just as acceptable as cash. If you don’t know who’s name to put, I would probably just write the groom’s name because the bride’s name might have or not been changed before the wedding.

    • I am pretty sure that is the norm with the majority of any style wedding in the states. I have never given less than $100 (unless i was in the wedding..then sorry you are getting less lol cause i just spent $500 on everything if not more. argh! lol) So whether you are going to an Asian wedding or a non Asian one, most people give from $100 to 200+ depending on how close you are to the party getting married. Unless you are my cousin. Then for some reason you get a garden hose from your husbands cousins. Still have no clue over where that came from.

      • Funny story! ;) But actually (correct me if I’m wrong), but I never heard of giving money at weddings in Germany at all, except if it’s avery young couple without any backing. Or at least you need a present and may attach a bit of money.

        • irritablevowel
          irritablevowel

          My American wedding experience has generally been that the bride receives most of the gifts that were on the registry at her bridal shower if she has one. Then people usually gift money at the actual wedding. Most people I know figure they are helping them pay for the wedding and/or get some savings started. Though I do say that $100 is pretty steep for someone who is not family in my neck of the woods!

  70. Recently went to Korea for a friend’s wedding. What I missed was the dancing: the couple doesn’t have their first dance. But after the buffet the close friends and family went to a restaurant for some drinks and socialising and then we went to a norebang! Best wedding reception affair I’ve been to.

  71. I’m wondering if plastic surgery is really as popular/common in Korea as I’m led to believe? Is there any stigma attached to getting your nose or eyes done, the way there is in North America? What about the more extreme surgeries like jaw shaving? I hear it’s also a lot cheaper in Korea and that people come there specifically for plastic surgery. It is a topic I see brought up a lot when discussing pop idols, but I’m more curious about the role plastic surgery plays in the life of the average Korean. Thanks! :)

  72. I never have understood the idea of a wedding registry for gifts. Money seems a much more practical thing!
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  73. In Singapore, there is like a slot for the knife to go through the cake? So i guess its a fake one. And we do have champagnes shared but its normally with immediate family and maybe close friends. The wedding photos are taken in advance also. The couple may display their photos outside the wedding hall for the guests to see. And the throwing of bouquet is non-existent already. Or at least in my memory, i have never seen one.

  74. Wow I don’t really like how fast and unpersonnal korean weddings are …

    But it has its avantages. In France you should take about a year to organize it, I guess in Korea the newly-weds don’t have much to do since everything is already prepared in wedding hall.

    I went to a Tunisian wedding once, and this lasted a WHOLE WEEK ! SO MUCH FOOD ! And the bride has to change several times, there were like 7-8 different dresses.

    PS : Aaha did you tried to say Concierge ? I love when you speak french !

  75. Very interesting, I must say. I think this is one of my favorite TL;DR’s thus far – probably because I remember seeing the original question post – but I also find it quite perplexing and sort of… sad. It just sort of surprises me that a culture that I’ve otherwise heard of as being very family and community oriented would have such generic and non-personal weddings. Matrimony just seems like one of those things that would be very, very important in such a culture, considering it’s the permanent bonding of two people together. Don’t get me wrong, long, multi-hour wedding ceremonies suck, but people should make some semblance of a big deal out of two people making a lifelong choice to stay together, right? To have every wedding set up in essentially the same way, on a timer, serving cheap beer in the middle of saying your vows, incorporating hollow traditions that hold no cultural or personal value to you whatsoever… it just seems so wrong. 8C
    This is just my opinion, of course. I’ve never spoken to a Korean about it, so I don’t know what their standpoint on the whole matter is. Maybe being raised in the conditions I have been has simply left me a nostalgic, sentimental sap about things like this. *shrugs*

    • a friend of mine married a korean man and recently had their baby, their wedding was held in morocco so it was very moroccan, but when she went to live with him in korea they attended his sister wedding!! she really did not like it, especially the part where you have to pay in order to get food, in morocco you don’t even have to bring a gift in order to get food,!! and also the part where it’s really fast so it looses all of its glory

  76. Again, this tl;dr is awesome! But it’s strange because I spend a lot of time crying my heart out over those super romantic k-dramas. And then after watching this, I’m like, so this is what happens after the happy ending (in real life)? They just breeze themselves through the wedding? It’s really efficient but it’s as if you’re just going through it as some sort of a formality.

    AND THE GIFTS!!! God! How can you not receive any gifts? I WANT GIFTS! I NEED GIFTS! I want to sit down and tear those freakishly pastel-colored boxes and find the most obscure kitchen utensils from that far, far, far aunt that I’ve never met once in my life!!! It breaks my heart that all those brides get to open are envelopes that could possible contain fake money! NOOOOOO! This totally wrecks my k-drama bubble!!! THIS CAN’T BE HAPPENING TO ME! TT_TT

    Okay, sorry, just had to let that out. I’m okay.

    • The giving of money in lieu of gifts seems to be more common in Asia than in the west. I know they do the same thing in Japan and I believe they do in China as well.

      • That’s correct. Korean, Japanese, Chinese and Vietnamese weddings will prefer money over gifts. Even Asian weddings here in North America, it is still customary to give cash. Some guests will bring a gift anyways.

        I just got engaged and had a party for it. It was much more satisfying opening the envolopes full of money than it was to open a gift with wine glasses and picture frames we might never use….

      • I think cash is okay too. But wouldn’t it be nice if the couple had at least some gifts that they can enjoy opening after the wedding? Also, gift-giving is such a personal thing and you know that some thought was actually put into it. In the Philippines, the relatives and friends really make it a point to give gifts. Giving money is very accepted as well. For example, the older uncle would usually give money in lieu of a gift because he knows that the amount he’d give would be more helpful for the couple in the long run. So the money has a more meaningful purpose, other than just because it’s easier to give cash. I think I was a little surprised with the whole envelope being your ticket to the wedding thing, almost like attending some event at school or something.

      • So as Thailand :) I think the brides and grooms were expecting that as well cos they can use the money towards the expenses from the ceremony.

      • In Romania it’s very common to give money instead of gifts, and close relatives usually add a gift to that, if they know the couple might need it. And let’s face it, it’s much more practical, at the end of the day how many plate sets do you need? I know quite a lot of couples that were helped to have a good start thanks to that money.

      • I’m a little confused, I’m an American (Italian & Austrian) and I thought giving gifts at a wedding was LONG out of practice and gifts are only given at a bridal shower or rehearsal dinner by those closest to you. Though maybe the point they’re trying to make as since they don’t do those things in Korea there no gifts given at all.

        Maybe it’s being a New Yorker because I have been to a few out of state weddings since I moved and they do seem to be different but I’ve always been told to give money (typically a check-enough to cover your plate at least) and I cannot recall seeing a single wrapped box at any of my cousins or new york friends weddings. I do remember seeing a few at a wedding I went to in Florida and found it weird I was seriously wondering if something happened like the rehearsal dinner was cancelled so everybody just brought it today.

        • irritablevowel
          irritablevowel

          Same here. Gifts are given at the bridal shower, money is given at the wedding. Most weddings that I have been to have a special basket or box for the envelopes of cold, hard, cash.

    • i think I’d prefer cash honestly. :) my friend got many duplicate presents at her wedding (3 blenders among other things), but cash would have helped pay for the wedding itself. or helped them on the honeymoon, or they could have bought what they really needed for their home.. having said that, in truth, I’d rather just have my family and friends there, and not worrying about having to pay for a gift or figuring up a way to come up with extra money. loving me enough to spend time and effort (and in some cases money) to come see me and my hunny on our special day would have me satisfied and happy.

      most kdrama’s have super rich people or are held in villages etc. the super rich could have any wedding they wanted, which lets face it, would not be a conveyor belt wedding. :) and the villagers would probably have a more traditional wedding anyways, big cities always tend to loose more traditions than small towns. at least that’s how it is here in my home state. so don’t let it wreck your k-drama bubble :) chances are there are still people out there who do weddings that look just like the ones on tv

      did you see the comments by Nic on here? she had an amazing wedding, very traditional, and she even shared some beautiful pics :) see? just more proof that the conveyor wedding isn’t for everyone

  77. How’s the public transport in Korea? How expensive and how’s the frequency? Till what time do they run and are they usually “on time”? Also, if you don’t speak Korean, will you be able to buy tickets and know where/when to wait?

    • When i was there..in sept..i had no issues with taking the bus/train/taxis. Im American, and don’t (or didn’t at the time) know very much Korean. All of the bus stations had someone who could at least give us basic directions in English, and the buses that we took were pretty efficient for the most part. (AND CHEAP! Lol…compared to where i live). Though they could be super crowded, like any city bus.

      Subways were awesome. You could figure them out pretty quickly (granted i only took them in Seoul) but they were large, clean, and had a tv and an announcer who told you where you were and what you were coming up to. I think they spoke it in Korean, maybe Chinese? and English.
      Trains were also very good. Came on time, weren’t over priced (again for where i live, they are pricey) We went 4 hours from Seoul, and i think it was about 15,000 won? You do have assigned seating, though, so if you go with someone make sure you get your tickets together. Also very clean, and with comfy seating. Oh and make sure you know what compartment you are in and where it stops on the tracks. lol my friend and i almost missed the train b/c we had to run with our luggage. lol.

      And taxis. Also pretty cheap. We had more of an issue with these as our Korean/most of their English wasn’t great, but if you had a map or a written out address they would be able to find it. Cheap, comfortable and clean! loved the taxis there! lol

      But i do think S&M did a video on transportation? These were my experiences from being in SK. We were all over the country and in Jeju-do, so we got to ride a bit. :) Can’t wait for this Sept when i get to go back. :-D

    • hi hehe hnnn i have like no friends :(

  78. I was lucky enough to be invited to a korean wedding last year.. we missed the real wedding part cause we were too busy eating but my bf sneaked me to some small room in the back to see the 폐백 later. carrying the bride around the table, a lot of bowing and pouring drinks for all elders and relatives. i guess that is more interesting that the modern wedding part..
    and the bouquet throwing was really strange for me as well :D looks like its just for a picture cause the bride had to throw it few times to the same girl.

  79. We had a traditional Korean wedding in Jinju Castle last year. That was an experience! Hardly anyone does them anymore so my husband’s family weren’t even sure what was going to happen. We hired a traditional wedding company that organized it and we had no idea what was going on! There was musicians with traditional instruments and everyone gathered around. I had the full makeup and wedding hanbok and I was told to get into the ‘gama’ I think it’s called where 4 of my guy friends carried me. So basically in a tiny swaying box wearing clothes I couldn’t move in- good thing I wasn’t claustrophobic. My husband was carried on a chair one by 4 friends into this arena type area.

    We had 2 women from my husband’s village assisting me so I could do the big bow (which I had to do like a million times!) I was sooooo bad at it. I felt bad for these women having to yank me up and down. My Korean is very basic, so I had a friend behind me translating, but because no one does weddings like this anymore, she had to wait to be told what to do herself before telling me. It was very hot in the sun and it went for like… 2 hours. Most of which I didn’t understand. I just did what I was told… hold up the cup…. hold up the ricecake with chopsticks. Some paper was burnt like an offering at some point, 2 chickens were thrown into the air to be caught…. other stuff I can’t remember, it was a bit of a blur.

    But it was very bright and colourful and the photos look really good. Even though I had no idea what was going on, I could feel the importance of it, and that the things that were read out were old Korean words with real meaning. I felt very privileged to be allowed to take part in a very old tradition.

    What I consider to be the reception was a bit strange. So all the traditional stuff was done after a few hours and we went to a restaurant that my husband’s family hired out and there was a buffet for everyone. No speeches or wedding cake or anything like that. And actually his closest friends didn’t even come to it – they went to another restaurant of their choosing and ate and drank, which my husband was expected to pay for. I couldn’t really understand this, and it meant that my husband was not actually at the lunch for a lot of the time. But in the end that didn’t matter because we’d done all the traditional stuff already.

    And not long after the lunch all my friends left! They had to travel back to Seoul, some were flying back to Japan, no one was really staying around- except for my friends, an Australian couple who are living in Korea at the moment, they were the only ones to book a hotel in Jinju, so we hung out with them in the evening. I was so glad they were there, otherwise I think I would have felt depressed at how everyone just left, even though it’s a cultural difference, sometimes it’s hard to adjust to it.

    2 weeks before we had our Korean wedding we had our Australian wedding which was very lovely. We had a small vintage style wedding in the countryside and that was everything I wanted. AND we had delicious chocolate mudcake with marshmallow frosting. We did have Korean friends at that wedding, who had never attended an Australian wedding and they were surprised at how much time and effort goes into it, and kinda amazed that our wedding was considered a small one, when it was quite big to them.

    • Wait…were you serious about the chicken throwing? Like…real actual chickens?

      • Yes. There were fake chickens that sat on the table during the ceremony but at one point 2 guys threw a real live chicken each into the crowd. Luckily they were caught quickly and taken away again but I was like “Omg poor chickens”. I think if you caught the chicken it meant good luck or something. I have no idea really and had no idea it was going to happen until it did.

        • Hokkaido Fox

          OMG. That’s so amazing! Real Chickens! Cool! I hope you don’t me asking but when you put on all the traditional clothes for the wedding what did they do with your hair? Did you have to wear a wig to get those amazingly huge braided updos I’ve seen in period dramas or did they let you keep your hair natural? I know that in Japan they have special wigs and wig rentals just for proper Shinto weddings and I’m curious to see if Korean weddings had something similar.

        • They scraped it back and put a small hair piece in it, but nothing elaborate. Actually the crown thing covers a lot of the head. I did ask my mother-in-law beforehand if I was going to have the big wig thing and she just laughed and told me that was only for the queens ahaha. I do have some photos on my blog, and as you can see, most of my hair is hidden http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/traditional-korean-wedding/

        • michiehaha87

          Thanks for sharing! – that headdress must have been heavy as hell?!

        • It was more awkward than anything, not really heavy (I think actually the box bit, underneath the fabric is actually cardboard) but yeah, felt really strange.

        • Hokkaido Fox

          Wow! Thanks so much for posting that. Also, your blog is adorable and I will be following you now. In a non-creepy way.

        • hehe thank you ^_^

    • Wow, what an experience! Thanks for sharing Nic.
      Did you have to do much preparation for your Korean wedding? You said that you hired a company, but did you have to do anything specific for it or was it all done for you?
      Your blog is amazing btw! I saw the picture of your vintage wedding dress that you posted. It was gorgeous! Did you post any pictures of the Korean wedding?

      • Thanks :) They did everything for us, the makeup and hair woman came and did my hair and makeup and then took me to the Castle – more like a huge fort really, with gardens inside. It was quite rushed getting ready, so I was freaking out a bit because I wasn’t sure what was happening. We did organize which friends were carrying us in the gamas, and an uncle who was doing a special reading, and the women that helped me. But the props and clothes, photographers and musicians were all supplied by the company. I do have one or two posts with some of the Korean wedding photos. These are the official photos. http://www.mykoreanhusband.com/traditional-korean-wedding/

        • Thanks! Its so colourful! Those photos are stunning (^__^)

        • Thank you :) The funny thing is that I didn’t see myself in a mirror before the wedding. We were so rushed getting ready that I had no idea what I looked like. I was terrified through a lot of the wedding and I was sure that my makeup was melting off in the sun. I hadn’t had anything to drink for hours so wasn’t feeling that good. But then right after, my friends started showing me photos on their cameras and I was like “Wow! It’s so colourful!” The photographers were very strict on how we had to pose and had to be lined up to match table coverings and stuff…. but once I saw the photos I realised why.

        • those pics are awesome! congratulations on your wedding :) thank you for sharing.

        • Thanks, it was a wonderful wedding

    • I think I watched Koreans using those real chickens in K-drama before in Kibum’s drama – I love Italy, not sure tho.

      Anyway, do u know why Koreans stick 2 red circle papers on their cheeks when they get married. DId it happen to u too? What does it symbolize?

    • I must say it sounds so interesting doing a tradionalistic approach but I love the ending wit the Aussie wedding!! It’s just sounds so right for here~

    • I absolutely understand what big bow is :) it is really hard lol. Especially, for woman…..There is significant difference between male and female version. AS a Korean, it is still difficult even I had been in there more than 20 years. Also recently that kind of traditional wedding is unusual thing although there is tiny demand in general Korean culture. I am just worried that responsibility which we have to protect traditional thing has just disappeared……

      • I agree. These days the big traditional wedding is usually done where one person in the couple is a foreigner- because they want to respect Korean culture, whereas Korean couples are doing what Simon and Martina described. It is sad that they are losing this tradition.

    • Awesome! I’m guessing you have amazing pictures! But… I got really excited when I heard your chocolate mudcake with marshmallow frosting…HAHAHAHAH!

    • Super late commenting on this but oh well. I wanted to some how link to a very edited video of our Korean wedding that I posted on my facebook awhile back for my family and friends to see but I couldn’t find the way to do it so I will send a link to our pics… hopefully this works.
      http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.1095259342345.2014407.1252430295&type=1&l=33a5c40299

      Seems like Nic did everything similar to us. We had our beautiful traditional Korean wedding on October 2006 in Chuncheon…then a court ceremony for visa reasons( had to do it within 3 months of him entering USA…don’t ever want to go through the fiance visa/green card process again..biggest pain in the butt!!!!!!!!!) on April 2007 in North Carolina….and then finally had my American wedding on November 2007 also in NC. I loved everything about our Korean wedding. It is defiantly on the the greatest moments in my life …not just because it was my wedding but also because it was so different and completely amazing to me.

      We were both carried but by the same 4 people and on the same wooden thing. I didn’t have to get into a box thing like Nic but that looks interesting. Oh oh oh the big bow…you know I practiced that and got really good and was so proud I could do it without any help but then a few days before the actual ceremony I hurt my foot so I ended up doing everything on one foot so had to have help anyway. My husband was the one telling me what to do from across they way and usually he didn’t understand what was going on either. I remember his face looking confused most of the time cause he couldn’t understand what the guy was saying. I loved the traditional music dance with the drums, completely amazing to watch but I just don’t know how they don’t get sick spinning and spinning. We also had the chickens thrown in the air. Then we had the Pyebaek right after. All the money that all the guests left with the sign in table was given to my husbands parents and that was used to pay for the whole ceremony. But the money that we got from his parents and aunts and uncles (father side) we got to keep. We bowed to them and they give us envelopes of money and their wishes for our future. I was told after everything was over that they were out of food so we didn’t get to eat but i wasn’t that hungry so that was fine. But I was freakin thirsty and thought I was going to die if i didn’t get something to drink. We only had Janchiguksu (a Korean noodle dish that is usually served for special occasions) for people to eat. I know they gave people a little dot sticker as they got a bowl and then at the end count up how many stickers were used and that is how we paid for the meals. I remember that there was so many people there like 300 or more. That was only from my husband’s family and friends cause the only people that could come for me was my mom and sister. Plus there were still friends that could not make it..I knew then that he has so many friends..just unbelievable to me. Oh I forgot to say that I loved how they fixed my hair. They twisted it all around into the big beautiful bun. I couldn’t get a good pic of how awesome it was.

      I think our American wedding was beautiful also …ha of course. Especially since I made pretty much all the decorations and stuff myself with a big help from my sister. We had red velvet cake ..yum my favorite!! A friend of my mothers made the cake and then we just put real flowers all over it …simple and beautiful!! His parents and sister defiantly got to see a difference in the weddings when they helped decorate and set up everything the day before. I also think they enjoyed the dancing afterwards which as far as know Koreans don’t do. Here is a link to that photo album if anyone is interested… http://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.1101719663849.2015292.1252430295&type=1&l=52d2c2e19a

      Oh Nic your vintage wedding was so beautiful. I loved your pictures…the color and feel of them..love the old bike. Your dress so cute!!! Your head piece so beautiful!!

    • What a lovely wedding story! I will look at your blog. I’m very interested in interracial couples.

  80. Ahahaha thats what she said ….good one simon (Y)

  81. kawaii_candie

    very interesting! usually your answers on korean life are really really similar to life in Japan, but this is one time where it’s really different! japanese weddings are reaaaaaaaaally ridiculous and expensive. they can cost up to 500$ per guests just to go… and the bride might change gowns 5 times over the course of the ceremony, which is extremely long, formal and boring. there is a ridiculously high number of guests because you’re supposed to invite your boss and nearly everyone you work with… then there is an “after party” which is where it’s more like parties back home and everybody just gets drunk and eats a lot. and sometimes there is another party after that… also, all the guests who attend the wedding get presents back from the couple to thank them for attending, and those presents can be pretty pricey…

    for me, it’s really strange!! lol. so i think maybe going to get married in korea sounds like a good idea! lol.

  82. Emilie

    Sorry Martina… 7 X 3 = 21. Nice try though! ^-^

  83. In America very, very long, like one day. Yeah. It’s remind me that yesterday my sister tell my that her friend been on wedding which party going on for week. I don’t know who this people are, but they must have a good heatlh ;). Usually in Poland are one-day or two-days wedding. So this speed of wedding in Korea it’s a little strange to me.

  84. OHOHOH! My parents have a video tape thing (y’know, the old thick rectangular ones) where it shows their Western-like wedding and their traditional Korean wedding. The Western one was really long and boring in my opinion. I just fast-forwarded the whole thing. :P The traditional one I can’t really remember, but I remember my mom even had those red dots on her cheekbones. They were sitting down in front of a low table with tons of traditional foods, including chestnuts, and in front of them sat my mother’s parents and… NDKJNJKN I don’t remember. D:
    I’d love to send you guys an email about it if I ever find it and watch it.

  85. I have a question that I’m not sure if it has previously been asked/answered. Did you guys have a hard time learning and understanding Korean when you just came to Korea? How did you learn Korean? How good is your Korean now? If you were to eavesdrop on someone’s conversion now, can you follow what they’re saying?

  86. wow 30 minutes for a whole wedding? So it’s really just the bride and groom..no entourage and whatnot.? Aw…it sounds so..unsparkly? Haha. Anyways Honey senpai love!!! :D

  87. I was super curious about how they did ‘Westernized’ weddings in Korea and it makes me a little sad at how short/rushed they are. Not that I want a whole day long affair for a wedding, but a little longer than, like, 30 minutes would be nice. But I do like the idea of renting a gown, less stress in the costs of them and so on.

    Annnnd, I like your all’s wedding story more, too, to be honest. It was just awesome. ^^

  88. Nice. But, from my experience ( I am not sure if this can be generalised to Korean culture or any other Asian culture) but the wedding cakes for the Vietnamese culture is eaten in front of guest. It s wheeled away and cut into pieces are for family only. So if you are a friend or just a neighbour, you would not get cake. I don’t know what the meaning was, just what my parents told me.

    • Most of the weddings that have cake that I’ve been to here in Malaysia do the same thing. The cake cutting is just for pictures, mostly. The newlyweds cut the cake and feed each other and lots of pictures get taken of that and then the cake is taken away. Sometimes they let kids have the cake even if they’re not family, but most of the time if I’m related to the bride/groom I’d throw all shame away and go get some cake. I mean, its just sitting there! Free cake! hahaha

  89. The reason for the bouquet being tossed or even given to one person is because of superstition. Supposedly, whoever catches a bouquet has 6 months to get married or be single forever. The bride plans who she gives the bouquet to, which is usually someone already engaged or planning to be engaged and married.

  90. I like the idea of renting gowns, and pictures and stuff, but the cafeteria style wedding food, while watching on tv with strangers sounds really off putting. :( Buuut the brought food during the wedding sounds UH-MAZING! But yeah the whole party atmosphere seems to be totally destroyed…NOOO CAAAAAKE!!???

  91. Ahhh thank you for finally answering this question! :D I’ve always been most curious.

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