May 27, 2015
Leigh told us that there’s a saying in Korean, “mountain after mountain.” When you overcome one obstacle, there’s another one waiting for you. These past few weeks have been, without a doubt, some of the most challenging of our entire lives. In the last few days of April, Spudgy became very ill. We had to take him in for emergency surgery, and our vet told us that he had very little hope that Spudgy would pull through. We all said our goodbye’s to Spudgy and sobbed, but luckily he survived. Even the vet was surprised. A few days later, we were finally starting to feel better after Spudgy’s ordeal, and were out with our friends, including Rose, and celebrating the day after Martina’s birthday. That was the night that Rose was run over by a drunk driver.
I didn’t get into all of the details of what happened to Rose, but the images of what we saw that night aren’t something I want to describe in detail. You’d think that seeing shit like this in the news, or in movies, would desensitize you in a way, but it doesn’t prepare you for seeing it in front of you. It’s tough to even think about now. I actually thought Rose was going to die, and…fuck this is tough to write. Just…I’m glad that she didn’t. Glad we didn’t have to make that call to her family.
What’s so tough about this as well is that we were all together at the time. Martina and I were walking up ahead when Rose was hit. And if it wasn’t her, it could easily have been us. And Rose is a strong girl, healthy as hell, active all the time, still young and in her prime. If it had been Martina who isn’t healthy…I don’t think……I’m just glad this isn’t the last story I ever told.
We spent the next few days in and out of the hospital with Rose. The process was very challenging, because she has no next of kin here in Korea. We found her parents’ contact info via her Facebook and were able to contact them that way, only after the doctors said it was imperative that we do so. We contacted the Canadian Embassy as well because Rose is Canadian, and gave them all of the information we had. I had to act as her guardian before her father showed up, because I’m her employer, but thankfully I didn’t have to make any tough decisions. I just had to sign papers agreeing to testing.
You know, the night that we all went out, we first went to Itaewon. We had planned on playing board games and drinking. So you know what we did? We took a fucking taxi, that’s what. If you plan on drinking, take a taxi goddamnit. Or take a bus or subway or whatever. Or if you find yourself in a situation in which you are going to drink and haven’t planned on doing so, call a designated driver! It happened to us once. We went out for a meeting that we thought would be a couple of hours in the afternoon, but then we spent the day. When dinner and drinks was about to start, we got all of the information for a designated driver immediately. And he was a lovely man that smiled, and drove so carefully. SO CAREFULLY! You’ll know if you’ve been in a taxi in Seoul how crazy they drive and how they make you carsick even if you’ve had nothing to drink. This guy drove smoothly, calmly. No swerving. No speeding. When he parked our car in our parking lot we paid him and he smiled and left and impressed the hell out of us. I want to call him to drive me home even if I don’t drink! So please, be responsible.
I’m sorry that it’s only me in this video. Martina isn’t comfortable talking about this yet. She was hit by a drunk driver back in high school, and it broke her neck. Her injuries from half a lifetime ago still affect her today, so the topic is a bit tough for her. She’s focusing instead on editing a happy video we’re putting up tomorrow, from our time in Jeju. And that’s what we’re going to try to do from now on. Just like in Martina’s EDS video, we don’t want to focus on painful memories and moments; us making fun videos helps keep us happy. I really needed to talk about this and to try to get this behind me. And hearing Martina edit tomorrow’s video in the background is helping me through this post as well.
Ah fuck. I can’t write any more about it. It happened. It’s shitty. It could have been a lot worse. Rose is going to get through this. We’re all going to get through this. Thank you for being understanding. Now let’s get back to happy smily videos tomorrow, yeah?