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Say Hi To Your Future Spouse!

August 31, 2015


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I’m actually quite excited about this topic. Different cultures have different concepts of what’s important in a marriage, and though the two of us care very much about promoting happiness in marriage and relationships, I’m sure that our values don’t align with everyone else’s. How different is our understanding of what’s important in a relationship from Korea’s understanding? Well, hopefully this video answers some of it (and not just for Korea, because we have lots of people from other countries using our video booth as well!).

I do have to say, though, that if I had hopped in the video booth before I met Martina and had to answer the same question I’d give the same answer as many people: I’m not getting married. No way, no how. I hated the idea of marriage. I saw only bad examples of marriage growing up, and I wasn’t going to do that to myself. But, you know what? I met Martina, and I knew within a month of dating that we were going to spend the rest of our lives together. And I was ADAMANT about how much I didn’t want to get married before meeting Martina. ADAMANT. I even wrote essays about why marriage is stupid. But then I met Martina and ripped those essays up. When you meet the one, you just know it.

But if I had to say hi to Martina ten years ago, say hi to my future spouse, I’d tell her to prepare herself for a life far more wild than either of us imagined, pursuing careers that didn’t even exist yet, living in countries we had no intention on living in, traveling to cities we didn’t even think much abut beforehand. I’d thank her for making this all possible, for being a beacon of light and happiness unlike anything I’ve met in any person since, and I’d thank her for choosing me even though she could probably have picked 1000 other guys significantly cooler than I am. It’s something I still thank her for today, every once in a while, not too often because that’d be weird. And now this post has gotten weird so I’m gonna stop.

To everyone else that has something to say to your future spouses, I like the answer of “I hope he has muscular arms” Ha!



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  1. Dear Future Husband,
    I might know you now, but maybe I do. Maybe you’re someone who I would never expect to be my husband. Maybe a subconscious part of myself already knows you will be someone I will spend the rest of my life with.
    Thank you for staying with me through the good and bad. Thank you for being with me, even though I might be annoying and depressed some of the time. I promise to try to make you smile when you’re sad, support you when you need it most, and I WILL MAKE YOU COOKIES AND CAKES ALL THE TIME! (I bake so much it’s annoying)
    I know you are going to be the right choice in my life. Even though my parents might not accept you or your parents might not accept me, that shouldn’t stand in the way of our love and our life together.
    Also, I cook, you do the dishes. End of.
    I look forward to my life with you.

    Love you,

    5 years ago
  2. Dear future wife or husband,
    If you’re the one that made me take that big step, then rest assured I have big plans.
    Be ready for an exciting life full of surprises and adventures.
    I chose you because you’re the person I want around for the rest of my life – I want to share everything with you.
    It’s gonna be awesome!

    PS. This video is ADORABLE! The one with the little kids made me melt but this one is a special kind of sweet. I love it!

    5 years ago
  3. Dear future wife

    I somehow tricked you into marrying me. Black magic is the most likely answer how. I probably finished the ice-cream so I’m sorry about that, I’ll pick up some more when I walk the dog.


    5 years ago
  4. To my future husband:
    I need you to go to the grocery store and pick up some milk.
    Also, we need to go to home depot this weekend and buy a garden hose.
    Did you pay the mortgage? We don’t want fines!

    Just thought I’d keep it realistic.

    5 years ago
  5. I love it how many people said: “If I get married, I will tell my spouse thank you for marrying me”. Haha, it’s so sweet and funny, and I can really relate to it. You two are my ideal couple, if I can meet someone and be half as best friends with him as you two are – then I consider myself successful.

    5 years ago
  6. W O W!! The feeling of watching yourself O.O Want to back to Seoul, South Korea :( Missing the trip sooo much!!!

    5 years ago
  7. Very sweet theme! Hello future husband<3 Thank you for being the chocolate to my sundae, making us a dynamic duo. Thank you for traveling with me all over the world, adoring my bookworm nature,supporting my boxing/martial arts hobbies,enjoying Korean dramas with me,and being the one-in-a-million man I am so blessed to share my forever with. I can't wait to meet you<3
    P.S. Cooking will be extremely appreciated!

    5 years ago
  8. Unfortunatelly the world doesn’t quite understand yet that there are people who don’t really care much about relationships, but I really think that is changing. You do You and be happy <3

    5 years ago
  9. This was cute and interesting, and I loved the ones who were already couples being all adorable~

    As for me, I don’t believe that I’ll ever get married. I’ve never even dated anyone, and I just turned 30. I’ve never really had an interest in dating, and as often as I was told that, basically, this is just a phase, it’s definitely not. I recently learned that I may be what’s considered a gray-romantic. No, it’s not some sort of 50 Shades nightmare. :P It’s basically where… a person is indifferent about finding love but is open to it. I have nothing against romance, but I’ve never actively looked for it and would be fine if I never find romantic love. Plus… I’m also, slightly, what is called romance repulsed where I am a bit disgusted by just the *idea* of myself being on a date or kissing someone. “Slightly” because it’s about myself, not others. The things you can learn about yourself via the internet, but man, there are a lot of people like me. And that’s ok!

    So *if* I actually end up getting married, which is hurting my brain just thinking about it, I would say:
    You must be an incredible person because you managed to win the heart of someone who had no real intention to give it away. You probably make me laugh and are geeky, like myself, ’cause how else would we have bonded? You’re probably loving and have so much love for your family, like I am, and would do anything for them and me to keep us happy and safe. And finally, you’re probably very bold because there’s absolutely no way I approached you, even if you’re super fine, which wouldn’t hurt if you are, by the way. LoL

    5 years ago
  10. I would like to say hello to my future wife. I don’t know your name but your the korean girl at 2:06. I’ll be coming in to inchon dec. 26 so come meet me :)

    5 years ago
  11. Aigoooooooo!! Such the romantic! Hahaha!

    5 years ago