Go Premium
Facebook Twitter Google Plus

Speaker’s Corner – Cross Cultural Dating, Part 2

April 12, 2015

Comments

Share Post

Yes this is a part two kindof Speaker’s Corner video! We got so many interesting responses that we felt two videos were necessary. The first video had a lot more negative view towards cross cultural dating in it but notice that the second view has much more positive views! Yaaa! We totally planned it that way, hahahaha! There were a couple of very interesting comments by Korea speakers, such as the idea that you might fight less because of the language barrier. Like you literally cannot fight because you don’t have the words to do it! It’s kind of brilliant reasoning. But I also find the idea of small cultural differences interesting such as the difference between how someone cleans their home. You don’t think about that as being important but once you’re in a relationship with someone (as a roommate or otherwise) these type of smalls details become huge actions.

So I’m curious if you can think of any small details that have affected your relationship with someone. I know an example I can give with me and Simon. Drying the dishes right away or leaving them to dry on the drying rack are things you have to learn to deal with even thought they seem small and insignificant.

Also, I’d also like to mention that we had some problems with the video booth which caused several videos to be totally corrupted and un-viewable. So sad! If you left an awesome response and it didn’t show up, you know why. If you make your way back into the booth again please mention at the beginning that your video didn’t make it in so that we know you were one of the unlucky ones!

Comments

23

Share Post

Speakers Corner

HIDE COMMENTS

Speaker’s Corner – Cross Cultural Dating, Part 2

23 COMMENTS

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

  1. God create Asian males for being strict and patriot to our own race.. Asian males dignity’s are absolute! no westerners (males & females) are will going fight to Asian males. How dare is that ? can you?

    4 years ago
  2. MLE

    My boyfriend and I are both from the different cultures and similar cultures. We’re both TCKs (Third Culture Kids), which means we’ve grown up in different cultures from our parents. I’m Chinese and he’s Indian but he’s from Dubai and I’m (sort of) from Hong Kong. We both went to British international schools and both go to university in the States. So while we’re from different places we grew up with similar things – an Asian sort of household, British slang and humour, and a mix of things from all over the world. So while it’s great that we’re learning some different things about each other culturally, we’re actually a lot more similar than you’d think in other ways so it’s not that difficult over all.

    4 years ago
  3. “Drying the dishes right away or leaving them to dry on the drying rack are things you have to learn to deal with even thought they seem small and insignificant.”

    Leaving the dishes to dry is the only sanitary approach! Otherwise, you’re just wiping germs back all over them.

    One unambiguously good thing is friendships across cultures. Meeting people with different mindsets and perspectives keeps your own mind more flexible and open to new things. When you close yourself off from the chance to interact with people from different countries and cultures, you shut off an important chance to grow as a person.

    4 years ago
  4. I’m American and my husband is Korean Japanese (ethnically Korean born and raised in japan) as my husbands first and only language is Japanese 98% of our conversations are in Japanese but when I get mad or flustered I often switch to really fast English or use weird Japanese and he just thinks it’s hilarious and laughs and we forget why we were both angry in the first place lol end of argument XD

    4 years ago
  5. David Bowie is great but… hoping for a different boyfriend because he doesn’t get the reference?

    4 years ago
    • Yeah, kind of a strange thing for them to say. Personally I like when someone doesn’t get my references because then I get to explain it to them. It gives us something new to talk about and it’s fun for me as well especially if it’s something I find really funny or interesting.

      4 years ago
  6. I am the product of cross culture dating :D Half Japanese, half Irish. My mother was Japanese, and I was actually raised very, very, very, very Asian HAHA. I am from the US, California specifically. I guess being from here, I don’t know really, but there are so so so many ethnicities and nationalities it seems odd to me, personally, that dating someone from a different culture is weird in any way. But I’ve always been here, and not in a country with one specific culture, so I find this very interesting! :D

    4 years ago
  7. When that girl who lived with an Australian said she had different cleaning methods, I took that as really meaning the Australian was messy. lol

    4 years ago
  8. It’s never easy to have a relationship with someone, but I think as long as you have a deep connection, you can make it work. Especially for a inter-cultural relationship, you need to not only be open-minded but especially calm so that you can talk about things without arguing before they become a big issue. If you’re going to freak out every time you partner does something different or doesn’t know something, it’s obviously going to lead to a lot of fights.

    The “not fighting because you don’t have the words” actually really helped me once! I wanted to yell something at a good friend of mine but I just couldn’t come up with the words in French. I think it diverted my attention or something, but instead of winding up myself I calmed down enough to realize that yelling at her would only make it worse.

    4 years ago
    • Just wanted to clarify that you should obviously still be able to communicate and that it would be incredibly frustrating if you can’t communicate at all.

      4 years ago
  9. I completely disagree with the notion that you fight less because you can’t communicate. We both speak pretty decent English, but it is extremely frustrating when you can’t communicate about something so important. That built up frustration made fights more frequent and worse. It’s much better to be able to explain how you are feeling to eachother. This is a large reason why we broke up. Although I have nothing against dating people of other nationalities, people need to realize that it can be extremely difficult in many ways. That said, it can also be very rewarding.

    4 years ago
  10. It’s funny but it seems there is more Korean men dating foreigner women than Korean women dating foreigner men. Is it because the pressure by family on women is more important than on the men ? Or I’m completely wrong ?

    4 years ago
    • I think in Korea women get judged a little more harshly then men do. It seems like men with foreigner women are treated as being adventurous and unique, women are treated like they’ve betrayed the country. HOWEVER, I feel like outside of Korea (and really this is something I think about men of color in general) men get judged for dating outside of their race/ethnicity a little more harshly. I could be wrong. Other people’s experience may vary.

      4 years ago
      • Do you think that korean men and korean women are treated the same way if they got married ? Really ? i didn’t observe that men outside korea get judged a little more harshly. But you may be right :)

        4 years ago
        • Do you think that korean men and korean women are treated the same way if they got married ?
          Really ? i didn’t observe that men outside korea get judged a little more harshly. But you may be right :)

          4 years ago
  11. I’m curious if anyone knows what the significance of shaving the babies hair would be?

    4 years ago
  12. Hey, I’m from Vancouver Island! :D So happy to hear it mentioned in an EYK video~

    4 years ago
  13. well if you will drop your EGO everything will be much more easy

    4 years ago
  14. My boyfriend is neurotic about keeping the house clean while I’m more laid-back about it. He will go nuts if he sees one dirty bowl sitting in the sink while I usually wait until the sink is filled up and we’re running out of clean dishes. He’s also the type of person who will be at the airport hours before his flight schedule while I’ll still be sitting nervously in the cab an hour before my flight. He loves using so many tools when he’s cooking while I prefer to minimize the dirty dishes as much as possible. Oh and since he speaks European English which is closer to British English while I speak American English, he loves “correcting” my English cos for him the “correct” English is the British one. LOL (we’re both not English natives).

    4 years ago